A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids About Sex [Paperback]

Kevin Leman (Author), Kathy Flores Bell (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 17, 2009

Parents Often Imagine Their Kids to be Nonsexual Until Their Wedding Night The truth of the matter is that we're sexual from day one. What are you going to communicate to your kids about this, knowing that they are sexual creatures today? Your kids need you to talk with them about sex. No one else will do. They've been discovering their sexuality since the day they were born, but they need you to help them deal with the changes and challenges of puberty. Those conversations that are so vital for your children's health and happiness don't have to be difficult if you're prepared. A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids about Sex helps you build a strong, trust-filled relationship with your son or daughter to prepare you for the intimate talks you need to have when 'the changes' hit. And because every child grows in a unique way, this book tells you what to teach but lets you determine when. Inside this book are the tools you need to help your kids not only understand their growing bodies, but also cope with the temptations and social pressures that go with them. Practical, expert, and down-to-earth, A Chicken's Guide is a powerful resource not only for moms and dads, but also for pastors, counselors, and anyone with a heart for kids.

Editorial Reviews

Review

' ... Worth the price for its title alone, this book helps parents come to grips with the fact that their children really are sexual creatures and that it is parents' responsibility to communicate with these creatures about sex.' -- Catholic Parent

(Catholic Parent ) --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

From the Back Cover

You’re already establishing a track record with your kid by how you listen, by what you say when you’re angry, and by how you treat your spouse. We like to surprise parents who ask us, "When do I start talking about sex?" The answer is, you’ve already started.

As difficult as talking with your child about sex, peer pressure, and self-image may seem, you can do it—and you must. Your child’s future depends on it. Fortunately, you’ve got plenty of guidance and insight available in A Chicken’s Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids about Sex.

Family psychologist Dr. Kevin Leman and sexuality educator Kathy Flores Bell guide you safely along the sometimes rocky road of pubescence as your child heads toward adolescence. This practical and engaging book covers his or her development not just from the waist down, but also from the neck up, where the important decisions about sex are made.

Illustrated with real life scenarios, this book is filled with practical knowledge and biblical wisdom. It is a book of firsts: first bra, first shave, first period, first nocturnal emission, first school dance, first discussion about relating to the opposite sex. A Chicken’s Guide takes on the difficult things parents face with their kids today, such as dating relationships, sexual activity and "rite of passage" attitudes, STDs, molestation, and more.

Leman and Bell take you beyond sex education and frank conversations to cultivating a relationship with your child. Get ready to acquire some unanticipated life skills in the process. Moms, discover how to buy that first athletic supporter for your son in Little League. Dads, learn how to navigate the feminine hygiene aisle at the supermarket for your daughter. You’ll do more than meet your child’s physical needs. You’ll create the trust, support, and security he or she needs in your relationship. And in turn, you’ll gain a credible voice on such intimate topics as what sexual intercourse is and why to abstain from sex until marriage.

With Bell’s expert yet simple knowledge of the dynamics of human sexuality and Dr. Leman’s winsome, lighthearted approach, you’ll gain confidence for those difficult but essential talks. Here are the tools you need to help your kids not only understand their growing bodies, but cope with the temptations and social pressures that go with them. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Zondervan (March 17, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0310283507
• ISBN-13: 978-0310283508
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #38,075 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #39 in Books > Christian Books & Bibles > Ministry & Church Leadership > Youth Ministry

More About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including "The View" with Barbara Walters, "The Today Show," "Oprah," CBS's "The Early Show," "Live with Regis Philbin," CNN's "American Morning," and "LIFE Today" with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to "Good Morning America." He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including "The Birth Order Book" and "Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage." Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended, August 9, 2004

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This review is from: A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids About Sex (Hardcover)

Family psychologist Dr. Kevin Leman and sexuality educator Kathy Flores Bell present A Chicken's Guide To Talking Turkey With Your Kids About Sex, a straightforward guide for parents and educators about teaching young people about the first period, first nocturnal emission, dating relationships, STDs, molestation, and much more. A Chicken's Guide To Talking Turkey With Your Kids About Sex offers useful advice in down-to-earth terms concerning what needs to be taught, how to build a bond of trust and support, and how to sound fully credible when promoting abstinence in a culture that is media-soaked with sexual imagery, as well as more basic tips concerning trials of puberty such as proper hair and skin care, oral hygiene, and more. Highly recommended.

14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Don't Let the Title Scare You!, June 8, 2007

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This review is from: A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids About Sex (Hardcover)

This book is excellent! You don't even have to wait until your kids are older to read this book. The practical suggestions they give begin with pre school age children, and continue up until your kids are 16 and 17. I highly recommend this book as a must-read for any parent!!

40 of 49 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Putting puberty education back where it belongs: the home, April 14, 2004

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I have found Dr. Leman's books on childrearing very useful. Here he teams up with Kathy Bell to help parents build strong relationships with their "tweenagers" so they can effectivly pass on their own values. I especially like the straight talk to parents who fear being hypocrites because they misused their sexuality, and now want to tell their kids "don't do that!"
This book is about so much more than the typical "plumbing lesson." As a sex educator and a parent of seven, myself, I like the hands-on tools Kathy uses to illustrate the "plumbing" aspects, but especially the emotional aspects of sexuality. And she expand that focus to help parents discuss "neck up" issues. (Don't know what those are? Read the book.)
Don't rely on the school or the youth group to form your child's views on sex, marriage, and family life. Be a proactive parent. Read this book if you need a push in that direction. It even has an index of topics, so you can quickly find the pages that discuss what you need to talk about NOW.
I would have liked to have seen a little more on dealing with masturbation. The few pages that cover it don't emphasize enough it's connection to pornography and addidictive behaviors that can destroy relationships. Other than that, excellent, helpful book.