Can This Child Be Saved? Solutions For Adoptive and Foster Families [Paperback]

Cathy Helding (Author), Foster W. Cline (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 0966892224 | ISBN-13: 978-0966892222 | Publication Date: February 15, 1999 | Edition: 1st

Over 200,000 children live in foster homes in America today. 40-60% of these children have been severely and permanently damaged by their pasts, resulting in behavioral, psychiatric, emotional and neurological disorders. Large numbers of previously adopted children (both domestic and international) suffer from similar problems. In the past, these children would have been cared for in specialized facilities staffed 24 hours a day by professionals. Today they are placed in inadequately prepared adoptive or foster homes where they often become uncontrollable, and forcefully reject those who want only to love and help them. Yet, in the past when families sought understanding and help, they found that there was little or none available. Now there is.

Can This Child Be Saved? Solutions for Adoptive and Foster Families... Offers parents help and hope, encouragement and support. It examines what causes children to act and react the way they do, and why conventional strategies and approaches often fail to reach them. It explores and validates parents feelings and offers struggling families clearly detailed and easy to understand parenting techniques and therapeutic approaches that DO succeed with disturbed children.

Editorial Reviews

Review

At last we are presented with a book of directions that can help families heal. -- Don Taylor, adoption rights advocate, adoptive parent, adoptee

Now no matter how bad things get, now parents have some options. And as long as they have options, they can "hang in there". This book will save families... -- Beth Meadows, America Online Adoption Forum Team Leader, adoptive and foster parent

About the Author

Foster W. Cline, M.D. - Dr. Cline is an internationally renowned adult and child psychiatrist, lecturer, and author of eight books on parenting and working with difficult children. His best selling Love and Logic parenting series, co-authored with Jim Fay, has been translated into several foreign languages. Hope for High Risk and Rage Filled Children has become the classic reference on understanding and treating Reactive Attachment Disorder in children. Dr. Cline is the cofounder of two clinics that specialize in the treatment of severely disturbed children. He is a popular speaker at workshops and seminars throughout the United States and has spoken in eleven foreign countries. Dr. Cline and his wife Hermie have three children by birth, one by adoption and several foster children. They live in the mountains of northern Idaho.

Cathy Helding - Cathy is a nationally known consultant, writer, and speaker in the field of special needs adoption and parenting of special needs children. Cathy comes from a background in special education and taught cognitively disabled middle school students in the 1970s. She is a former America Online Community Leader and newsletter editor for the Adoption Forum. She is a sought-after speaker for parent groups, agency trainings, and teacher in- service programs. In 1998 she testified before a State Senate committee on fetal alcohol syndrome and was instrumental in the passage of legislation that recognizes the rights of unborn children of drug- and alcohol-addicted mothers. Cathy and her husband John have four children, three of whom were adopted as a sibling group with special needs. They live in a replica turn-of-the-century farmhouse on eight acres of restored native prairie in southeastern Wisconsin.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 359 pages
• Publisher: World Enterprises; 1st edition (February 15, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0966892224
• ISBN-13: 978-0966892222
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.3 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #852,441 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Foster Cline, M.D., is an internationally recognized physician and adult and child psychiatrist who has successfully parented four children. He is a consultant to mental health organizations, school systems, and business and parent groups across North America. He specializes in working with difficult children and is founder of Evergreen Consultants in Evergreen, Colorado.

Customer Reviews

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24 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Can This Child Be Saved, September 30, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Can This Child Be Saved? Solutions For Adoptive and Foster Families (Paperback)

This book is an excellent resource for both parents and direct care-givers. Although a lot of space is given to adoption and foster care concerns, it is helpful for anyone dealing with reactive attachment disorder or children who are not adopted but have attachment issues. Ann Kelley, LCSW, Tulsa Boys Home.

19 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Real eye-opener, April 27, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: Can This Child Be Saved? Solutions For Adoptive and Foster Families (Paperback)

For anyone thinking about adopting an older child, this book is a must read but put it LAST on your list. If I had read it first, I probably would have dropped the idea altogether. It is full of frightenning examples of how adopting an older child can lead you and your family down a path to ruin. It does give techniques to deal with and hopefully change some of the disturbing behaviors you may encounter. Most important, it tells you what issues a child has that may lead him to these behaviors.

It will arm you with knowledge needed so when you're given a referral, you'll have a much better chance of choosing a child who will grow and thrive in your family instead of tear it apart. There are so many kids waiting for adoption that CANNOT be saved no matter how you try. You owe it to yourself and your family to read this book. It can help you make the right choice that could literally save your lives.

22 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Full of hopeful realisim., February 16, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Can This Child Be Saved? Solutions For Adoptive and Foster Families (Paperback)

Here is a book that shows some of the difficult sides of adoption, and yet offers MUCH hope for those who love and parent them. It is honest, and thoughtfully written, with practical advice and guidance.