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The Best Child Training Book I've Ever Read, August 14, 2008
This review is from: Child Training Tips (Paperback)
This is by far the best Child Training book I've ever read, besides the Bible. It is very Biblically based, and I have used it with all five of my children. It helped me to identify my blind spots and see what I was doing to actually encourage disobedience.
Before using the book, people would make comments like, "Oh, she sure is a handful!" or, "Isn't he spirited!" Read: You don't have control of your children, and it shows! It was quite embarrassing, especially since we were doing what we thought was right.
A friend gave us this book before the birth of our fourth child. Using it has made all the difference in the world. Now people say to us, "Your children are so pleasant and sweet, I just love being around them." And another said, "Your kids just aren't normal, no kids can be that good." (Which believe me, they aren't perfect, but the difference now is that they are under control.) I have five children now, and the five well-behaved kids are more pleasant to be around than the unruly three were.
We first began using this book when the children's ages were 2, 4, and 6. I will tell you from experience the 2 year old was easy to train at that age, the 4 year old a little harder, and the 6 year old was the hardest yet. And why not? I had allowed her will to run roughshod over mine without even realizing what I was doing.
I think it is difficult for any parent to admit their failings. I know it was for me, but Reb Bradley does a good job of being balanced in not being harsh, but instead being loving about insisting you hold your child to a higher standard.
I buy cases of these books and give them as gifts to friends and family members and people at church. I like it even better than "To Train Up a Child." I would recommend this book to anyone who has the heart to be consistent in trying to do God's will for your children.
It takes 21 days to break a bad habit and to establish a new one. It took us about a month to change our ways, both as parents holding our kids accountable, and the children in learning what was and was not acceptable behavior. So keep that in mind when you do your "re-training" and remember, "All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness" -- Heb. 12:11 So be patient with yourself and your child and enjoy the fruit!
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34 of 41 people found the following review helpful:
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Fabulous book!!!!, February 10, 2007
This review is from: Child Training Tips (Paperback)
Reb Bradley has done a great job of teaching Biblical principles for training children. I had the pleasure of attending a conference of his five years ago and have put these princilples into practice and I now have two children (one of whom is a teenager!) who are very well behaved, loving, and happy! Our family has a great relationship and we are thrilled with what Reb Bradley teaches. I would highly recommend any of his materials.
I just got through reading most of the reviews on here and I'm just shocked at all of these people claiming this book is about child abuse!! Did you read the same book? Did you read the book at all??? He doesn't say to abuse your child but to discipline them. Sometimes that means spanking! I was spanked as a child and I'm not violent. When my children were younger I spanked them and they aren't violent. I have two very well adjusted loving children, my sister and I are both very well adjusted adults and none of us hate our parents nor do any of us fear our parents! In fact, my daughter has thanked me for the discipline she has received when we've been in a store and witnessed a child who is totally out of control and their parent can do nothing to get them under control.
Some of the statements that have been made here are appalling! Reb Bradley does not encourage child abuse, he does not say to beat your child for everything they might do wrong, and he sure doesn't say to beat little babies! Only when a child is at the age that they comprehend the ability to willfully disobey should they be spanked - for some that is younger than others. The bottom line is you should read this book for yourself and don't listen to what others are saying.
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16 of 18 people found the following review helpful:
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Very Pratical Tips, July 24, 2008
This review is from: Child Training Tips (Paperback)
EXCELLENT, Pratical Book. Overall, I would rate this book in my top 5. I learned so much; like passively training our children to disobey by NOT disciplining them in public for example. He goes into depth to describe what this passive training looks like too: counting to 3, repeating yourself, etc...and like said, he gives a lot of piratical examples.
I've used his techniques with our children and had wonderful results: obedience, loving, kindness, considering others first. I rarely have to spank my children...I've taught them to obey the first time as Bradley advocates and once they learn that rule they're good to go. As your children grow give them some rope to gain independence and you will see them flurish along with the self discipline you've taught them.
As with almost every parenting book I've read though I do have to tell people to be cautious. Obviously the examples aren't meant to be 'thus saith the Lord' points but we are to glean the lesson, tip, he is trying to explain. Also, he seems strict sometimes but abundantly loving at others so it would be important to inform the reader of that so she/he can remember the balance.
I think pairing this book with Shepherding a Child's Heart would make a great combo as Reb Bradley doesn't sufficiently explain that issue in his book but Tedd Tripp could use more practical, everyday examples and explanations of parenting techniques/fallacies. They would really compliment each other.
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