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Child Training Tips

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This is by far the best Child Training book I've ever read, besides the Bible. It is very Biblically based, and I have used it with all five of my children. It helped me to identify my blind spots and see what I was doing to actually encourage disobedience.

Before using the book, people would make comments like, "Oh, she sure is a handful!" or, "Isn't he spirited!" Read: You don't have control of your children, and it shows! It was quite embarrassing, especially since we were doing what we thought was right.

A friend gave us this book before the birth of our fourth child. Using it has made all the difference in the world. Now people say to us, "Your children are so pleasant and sweet, I just love being around them." And another said, "Your kids just aren't normal, no kids can be that good." (Which believe me, they aren't perfect, but the difference now is that they are under control.) I have five children now, and the five well-behaved kids are more pleasant to be around than the unruly three were.

We first began using this book when the children's ages were 2, 4, and 6. I will tell you from experience the 2 year old was easy to train at that age, the 4 year old a little harder, and the 6 year old was the hardest yet. And why not? I had allowed her will to run roughshod over mine without even realizing what I was doing.

I think it is difficult for any parent to admit their failings. I know it was for me, but Reb Bradley does a good job of being balanced in not being harsh, but instead being loving about insisting you hold your child to a higher standard.

I buy cases of these books and give them as gifts to friends and family members and people at church. I like it even better than "To Train Up a Child." I would recommend this book to anyone who has the heart to be consistent in trying to do God's will for your children.

It takes 21 days to break a bad habit and to establish a new one. It took us about a month to change our ways, both as parents holding our kids accountable, and the children in learning what was and was not acceptable behavior. So keep that in mind when you do your "re-training" and remember, "All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness" -- Heb. 12:11 So be patient with yourself and your child and enjoy the fruit!

Reb Bradley has done a great job of teaching Biblical principles for training children. I had the pleasure of attending a conference of his five years ago and have put these princilples into practice and I now have two children (one of whom is a teenager!) who are very well behaved, loving, and happy! Our family has a great relationship and we are thrilled with what Reb Bradley teaches. I would highly recommend any of his materials.

I just got through reading most of the reviews on here and I'm just shocked at all of these people claiming this book is about child abuse!! Did you read the same book? Did you read the book at all??? He doesn't say to abuse your child but to discipline them. Sometimes that means spanking! I was spanked as a child and I'm not violent. When my children were younger I spanked them and they aren't violent. I have two very well adjusted loving children, my sister and I are both very well adjusted adults and none of us hate our parents nor do any of us fear our parents! In fact, my daughter has thanked me for the discipline she has received when we've been in a store and witnessed a child who is totally out of control and their parent can do nothing to get them under control.

Some of the statements that have been made here are appalling! Reb Bradley does not encourage child abuse, he does not say to beat your child for everything they might do wrong, and he sure doesn't say to beat little babies! Only when a child is at the age that they comprehend the ability to willfully disobey should they be spanked - for some that is younger than others. The bottom line is you should read this book for yourself and don't listen to what others are saying.

EXCELLENT, Pratical Book. Overall, I would rate this book in my top 5. I learned so much; like passively training our children to disobey by NOT disciplining them in public for example. He goes into depth to describe what this passive training looks like too: counting to 3, repeating yourself, etc...and like said, he gives a lot of piratical examples.

I've used his techniques with our children and had wonderful results: obedience, loving, kindness, considering others first. I rarely have to spank my children...I've taught them to obey the first time as Bradley advocates and once they learn that rule they're good to go. As your children grow give them some rope to gain independence and you will see them flurish along with the self discipline you've taught them.

As with almost every parenting book I've read though I do have to tell people to be cautious. Obviously the examples aren't meant to be 'thus saith the Lord' points but we are to glean the lesson, tip, he is trying to explain. Also, he seems strict sometimes but abundantly loving at others so it would be important to inform the reader of that so she/he can remember the balance.

I think pairing this book with Shepherding a Child's Heart would make a great combo as Reb Bradley doesn't sufficiently explain that issue in his book but Tedd Tripp could use more practical, everyday examples and explanations of parenting techniques/fallacies. They would really compliment each other.

Just noticed how polarized the reviews are - either 5 star or 1 star. I noticed that out of 39 1-star ratings, about 14 of them were all done at the very last few days of April - appeared to be some deliberate group effort to attack this book. Just wanted to point this out to potential buyers.
(I personally have found the book extremely helpful, very true to our society, and very grounded in scripture).

I know people have written that this is "child abuse" and that is just crazy. This book is very insightful. YES STRICT, but that is a good thing in today's society.

I've read this book a number of times and earlier this year I also went to hear Reb and his wife speak. What I REALLY LOVED was how very obvious his love for his children and wife is when you see them in person. (His bit on husband's loving their wives must have been great because my hubby learned a few really sweet things!) He admitted that his older kids did some things that blew him out of the water and then he realized that the one component that's most important is to express your love and acceptance always. Keeping that in mind, things I like: he emphasizes that a parent needs to be aware and deal with the attitude of rebellion, but you DEFINITELY don't get on your kids for childish clumsiness or things that they really can't help or things that they didn't know about, etc. Willful disobedience or a rebellious attitude. You don't get onto a wiggly 5 yo boy being wiggly. I love his focus on building relationships with his kids. I love his focus on consistency (my kids seem happiest when I'm consistent). I also like the idea that you do whatever disciplining when you're NOT angry (the first time they do something so it hasn't worn on your nerves "I've told you 50 times...!"). And no losing your head and screaming at your kids. It was very insightful, too, on little things kids do that are a sign of inward rebellion. I'd have to agree because I know that I did some of the very things he mentioned but as a parent, I didn't really address them. There are two things taht really stood out to me that he either wrote about or said in his seminar. One was that when he feels that his family is going in 20 different directions and is not really connecting with each other, he has everyone cut out their outside activities for a little bit and they spend time doing fun things TOGETHER. Too often people just shrug and think there's nothing to be done. I think that's an awesome idea! DOing fun stuff with your family really is fun (well, in my family it was). The other thing was the hugs after disciplining kids. Making sure that you and your child are "okay" before letting them go off. I've implimented that idea. It's very important to me that we not part ways until I know that they really understand that I absolutely love and enjoy them. The Bradley's children don't look like picture perfect little saints (I was kinda suprised) but they do know that they are absolutely adored! Awesome! THis isn't the only parenting book I've read but I do think it's a good one. Love those little ones and make sure they know it!

This is a fabulous book...the best I've read on practical tips for child training. This is about raising respectible, obedient, HAPPY and godly children. I have used many of the tips with my children. The principles work and my children are thriving knowing legitimate boundaries and proper behavior. I HIGHLY recommend this book to young parents.

I am a mother of 7 and have used this book in rearing all of my children. I find it's simple and easy to follow instructions very helpful. Living in So. Orange County Ca it is difficult to raise respectful and unspoiled children, but this book is helpful in subduing the selfish will of kids in a nasty world. Children are inately selfish and sinful and this book gives parents great tips on making them better children and hopefully respectful and respectable adults.

We read this book and watched the video series 4 years ago and it changed our lives and the direction of our family. It is thorough, practical and most importantly Biblical. Our children are happy and loving rather than miserable and selfish. We are so thankful for it.

I really appreciate the practical advice that this book has to offer. It does not advocate child abuse, etc., as some reviewers (many of whom I suspect never actually read the book) have claimed. The author offers sound Biblical advice on raising children, and after only one month of following his advice, I can already see a remarkable difference in my own toddlers. They are much more obedient and we are all happier as a result!