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ChildHood: It Should Not Hurt

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ChildHood It Should Not Hurt! Is becoming widely accepted by both the mental health/Health Care field as well as Law enforcement. Including University's such as James Madison University using Child Hood It Should Not Hurt as a textbook in their Psychology department. As for the only negative Review ChildHood It Should Not Hurt has received posted by Dennis G. Ott of Longview, Washington. Mr. Ott neglects to say that he was the attorney representing a father accused of child sexual abuse, and Ms. Claire R. Reeves was the expert witness who testified on that case. Due to confidentiality no details are available but it suffices to say that the mother who was not accused of abuse retained the custody of the minor child.

Arthur F. Cooksey, III
Publisher/Editor
LTI Publishing Inc.

I have two sons that have been sexualy, and pyscialy abused by their father. I learned about this almost two years ago. I wish I knew about Clair Reeves and this book, when I first heard this. It is very informational.
I think everyone who is a planning on becoming a parent, or anyone who works with kids should read this book. It's full of information. Great for psychologist's too!
Thank you, 'Clair Reeves' for all the research and advice and putting it out there for people like me and many others to read.
Michelle Mahr

Ms. Reeves has taken very difficult issues within the complex world of child sexual abuse and has made them much easier to understand. She helps us to be more aware of what signs of child abuse we should look for; more important, she explains how one should respond to such indications. This information is extremely valuable, given the current negative atmosphere in many law enforcement and court systems towards caregivers who claim that their children have been sexually abused (especially if the complainants are also in the process of divorcing accused partners.) Ms. Reeves also helps the reader to avoid common errors of judgment when attempting to size up those who interact with, or appear interested in, children. She provides valuable tips on what signs to look for, that make it easier for us to recognize and analyze certain behaviors in potential child molesters or pedophiles. I especially appreciate the way she clarifies that women are child molesters and pedophiles too. Precious little information is available to the public about female child sexual molesters; too many people still believe women don't hurt children the way some men do. Unfortunately, this kind of continued ignorance and denial enables too many female perpetrators to continue their equally grievous crimes against children, undetected and unpunished.

Claire Reeves really knows how to hit the nail on the head
when it comes to child predators! As the mother of two
children who were assaulted by a neighbor that turned out
to be a serial rapist, I truly wish I'd had this book in
my hands when I went to court. This book needs to be in the hands of every pediatrician, counselor, day care worker, victims' advocate and juvenile court official in the country!

I am a non-offending parent of a sexually abused child. This book is exactly what I needed last year as we were not only introduced to the dark side of sexual abuse, but the failure of the system that is in place to protect our children.

This is an easy book to read and will educate and validate you to the process of protection (or lack of) that you will encounter on this journey.

Claire has hit the nail on the head. Her years of experience and insight is a blessing to all. Thank you!

While no single book can ecompass EVERYTHING one needs to know about the critical issues of child sexual abuse, Claire Reeves does a fantastic job in her book, "Childhood, It Should Not Hurt!" Being a non-offending mother myself, six years ago I went searching the bookstores for books like these to no avail. I wish I had found this book then. Although difficult in retrospect to read some of the accounts with which I can so readily identify, I find this book to be an excellent guide for non-offending parents and survivors.

The reader will most definitely find Chapter 10: Parental Alienation Syndrome, and Chapter 17:Pedofilia: An Alternative Lifestyle? both shocking and eye-opening. I had no knowledge that such opinions exist and are even finding their way into our children's sex-education curriculum. I can't fathom a society that condones and even encourages pedophilia - we can not let our societal values become that lax!!!

Also exceptional are the comprehensive Recommended Reading List and Resources sections at the end of the book.

I am honored to have recently met Claire via email and telephone. She is a woman of amazing strength and integrity. I appreciate and applaud her continuous efforts in keeping all children safe from predators.

This book exposes the many frustrations of victims and their families in reporting and convicting predators. It should be required reading for EVERY judge and prosecutor.

Ms. Reeves has accomplished a stupendous feat in this book. She empowers the survivor of CSA and those who are trying to protect them. I am studying to be a social worker with a specialization in child abuse and I have found this book to be refreshingly practical. I have read hundreds of texts concerning this problem and I have to say that Ms. Reeves has produced a book which warns the protectors of legal pitfalls that could hurt the child you are striving to protect.

I recommend this book to all advocates of abused children, especially non-abusive parents. The law system is not something to depend upon to protect your child. You need to gain as much knowledge as possible, for it is only through logic and reason that the courts will hear you. I am a survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse and I can tell you that I get quite emotional about this issue, but emotion is ignored or used to persecute the non-abusive parent within the court system.

This book has caused me to buy several other books on the law system and child abuse, for I want to ensure that my words or actions will not jeapordize a trial meant to protect a child.

If you have anything to do with children, buy this book.

Throughout my 20 years as a Special Agent with the FBI, I worked on numerous cases in which children were victimized, or I worked on cases in which an adult (male or female) was abused as a child, and now victimizes others. Though I am now retired, I still read a great deal on matters related to various types of violent crime, victims, and the justice system. Without question this book is the most comprehensive I've ever seen, and it's a quick read. It's very straightforward and written in a down-to-earth manner. Most important, it looks at every conceivable aspect of child sex abuse, (and some things of which even I was unaware). For example, though I new that the concept of "reunification" of an abused or neglected child with the offending parent was a common goal in social service as well as judicial circles, I had no idea that it was a federal mandate. I am also painfully aware that it rarely works. Sadly, many children die every year in this country because they were reunited with the wrong parent. Reeves discusses in her book why reunification must be stopped, and how to go about doing it.

What I liked most about the book is that private citizens as well as professionals can benefit from the vast information contained in the pages. Reeves doesn't simply identify the problems and leave the reader feeling overwhelmed and helpless, she offers step-by-step advice on exactly what (and what not) to do from the moment abuse is suspected. Lastly, she offers adult survivors of child sex abuse the hope and encouragement they need to start healing and "reclaim" the life their abuser stole.

I highly recommend this book to not only professionals who have chosen to work with children, but to anyone who cares about our children, our future.

This book deserves a long lease on life and should be studied in schools.

Reeves is a no-nonsense child advocate with decades of experience both in and outside the court system. When she shoots from the hip, people listen.

Readers will discover a no-nonsense approach throughout her book and won't need a PHD to understand it! Reeves describes the quagmire of the court system and social service agencies that so often fail and drop the ball.

Often, with books on child abuse and especially if written in a memoir format, the author's message will involve some form of forgiveness of the perpetrator as she or he rides into the sunset 'happily ever after'. How I wish it were that simplistic. Unfortunately, the message that many of these 'Mother Teresa complex' self help books deliver looks good in print but fail to provide victims, survivors and concerned citizens with concrete help and practical guidance. Fortunately, Reeve's book delivers the right stuff.