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Love Is A Choice Breaking The Cycle Of Addictive Relationships Paperback – March 22, 1996


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 275 pages
  • Publisher: Thomas Nelson (March 22, 1996)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0785275304
  • ISBN-13: 978-0785275305
  • Product Dimensions: 7 x 4.3 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (31 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #568,553 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Frank Minirth, M.D., is founder of The Minirth Clinic and has authored or co-authored more than thirty books, including Happiness Is a Choice, and Worry-free Living.

Paul Meier, M.D. is a psychiatrist and founder of the national chain of Meier Clinics as well as best-selling author or co-author of more than eighty books. He holds five degrees in the fields of medicine, psychiatry, and theology. Happily married, he has six children and two grandchildren.

Customer Reviews

I came across this book after a roommate made me read it.
ljed25
Some chapters may not apply to you, but read them anyway, it will help you better understand others who it does apply to.
Texas Sue
I recommend this book to anyone with co-dependency issues.
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47 of 48 people found the following review helpful By Jennifer E. Novak on March 7, 2000
Format: Paperback
I can honestly say that this book changed my life. I first read a page of it during a boring sermon at church, at a time when my marriage was going downhill. It sucked me in so fast I couldn't put it down. It was a shocking experience to read my entire life story written by complete strangers <grin>. It has a very straightforward style, but I think it's also easy enough reading that a teenager could understand it. The mix of psychology and scripture was exactly what I needed, and I don't know if I could have accomplished effective healing without it. The book is effective alone or in a group setting. My church even used it in place of a Sabbath School class: While everyone else was in groups studying Daniel and Revelation, I was in a group studying codependancy from a biblical perspective. I would also recommend this book to pastors looking to meet the emotional needs of their congregation.
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36 of 37 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on January 7, 2000
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After finally realizing that I was this thing called "codependent," I began to read all the well known titles so that I could be "codependent no more." They were helpful in that they oriented me to this new concept and defined it...gave me something to think about. Then one day five years ago I happened on "Love is a Choice." I read it voraciously! I put it inside other books as I sat through classes in nursing school. I underlined, I highlighted, I read passages over and over that set fire alarms off in my head! I came to Amazon to see if I could still buy it because I have physically worn mine out. This book was life changing, and gave me a foundation to make profound progress in my recovery. Now I go back and read my journal from years ago and can't believe I was ever that person.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on November 21, 2003
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No matter where you are in your walk in life, no matter what your relationships with others is like, you will derive value in reading this book. A few pages may be challenging, but don't stop reading. The book is a good foundation for starting, repairing or building relationships at home, at work or wherever you interact with people. It is introspective, uplifing and perfect for a quiet weekend alone.
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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on September 27, 1999
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I consider this book one of the best books I have ever read. It really helped me see how I was hurting myself by being caught up in the patterns of my family.It really helped me understand what a relationship wtih Christ was about. I also recommend "Boundaries" I have given a number of copies of this book away.
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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on March 22, 1997
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In this book, several factors are discussed that lead to codependent relationships,including several kinds of subtle, unintentional abuse. Case studies are usedto illustrate concepts, and the reader is guided gently in understanding how troubled relationships form and what can be done about them.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on March 28, 2009
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I read this book about ten years ago after a terrible break-up. The scales were pealed from my eyes.

This book really did help me break bad behavior and thinking patterns that doomed me to unhappiness. I only read the book once, but that was all it took. I was permanently changed for the better.

Do you pine over lost loves or look for some type of sign to see if you should persue them because it may be "meant to be" and they may be "the one"? Well, stop it! That kind of behavior will ruin your life. Quit locking yourself away in your room listening to crappy sad music and buy this book.

Spoiler alert: There are many "ones" out there, so don't sweat it. Good luck and God be with you.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Farmer Jones on June 2, 2011
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I read this book in 1996 and went through it slowly and thoughtfully. I had picked it up in a drug store and thought it was about being in love. It was much more than that in a little pocket paper back! What a deep surprise! The case studies revealed traits of people that we all know and will probably recognize as we read through the scenarios, as well as traits we might have. I have bought multiple copies and given them to friends, family, and people who I thought were struggling with internal issues. All who have read it have benefited enormously and thanked me. I have managed to misplace my copy (or gave it away) and am thrilled that I can get it again.

I think the big take away from this book is too be able to see what behaviors and avoidance actions we do and the negative impact it has in our lives and our decision making process. Then by being aware of them as we proceed through life, as we are confronted with new decisions, situations and choices moving forward, we have the consciousness of the patterns and insights revealed in the book. Then if we are honest with ourselves, brutally honest, that insight into ourselves and motivations will allow us to make the right decisions. I love this book, and recommend it to anyone who feels they have "knots to untangle" in their soul or psyche. A truly enlightening and insightful book. It changed my life, by adding such insight. God bless.
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16 of 23 people found the following review helpful By Shaun Roundy on January 7, 2003
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who threw a tantrum because this book included Christian principles and therefore gave it only one star. It's very easy to read and makes VERY CLEAR points. You can not read this book and fail to understand codependency (which most of us suffer to some small degree) and the solutions. If you don't agree with a few small points, don't whine and just skip them. Excellent, excellent book.
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