Choosing Forgiveness: Your Journey to Freedom [Paperback]

Nancy Leigh DeMoss (Author)

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Scripture says that offenses will happen. People will let us down and we will let others down, as well. Forgiveness is left up to us to pray about and then practice. Far from minimizing the hurt of the offense, readers are called to understand that offering forgiveness and letting go of bitterness is the only way to walk in faithfulness. Drawing on biblical teaching of our call to forgive, Nancy shows the reader that forgiveness is a choice- and the only pathway to true freedom.

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I know just enough about computers, as they say, to be dangerous. But one thing I’ve learned the hard way is the meaning of that little button that’s spelled D-E-L. That’s right. The delete key. (I’m guessing you know about that one yourself.)
 
Like you, I can think of times when I was working away at something on my computer and accidentally pressed the delete button, only to watch all my hard work vanish into thin air, leaving behind nothing but a blank screen of forgotten words. I wish the delete key was so easy to press in real life.
 
In many ways, what happens when we trash a computer document is a picture of what takes place when we truly forgive someone who has wronged us. We clear their record. We wipe out their debt. Isn’t that the way God has forgiven us? All of our sin, deleted. Forever. All because of Christ’s death on the cross—in our place. Debt canceled.
 
--Nancy Leigh DeMoss

--This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Moody Publishers (April 1, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0802432530
• ISBN-13: 978-0802432537
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #57,839 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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22 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Forgiveness is always an option, July 26, 2007

By	Patrice Fagnant-macarthur "www.spiritualwoman... (Springfield, MA) - See all my reviews (VINE VOICE)    (TOP 1000 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Choosing Forgiveness: Your Journey to Freedom (Hardcover)

Who do you need to forgive in your life? What resentment do you continue to harbor? What walls have you put up so as not to be hurt again? Nancy Leigh DeMoss invites us to take an honest look at our lives and make the decision to forgive those who have hurt us.

DeMoss doesn't resort to simple solutions. She knows that the pain that readers may have experienced run deep. There are situations of physical and sexual abuse. There are times when loved ones have been hurt deeply or have even been taken away through murder. No, forgiveness is not easy. Nevertheless, it is what God calls us to do.

Withholding forgiveness hurts not only the person we hold in bondage but ourselves as well. "Though it may feel right, though it may seem justified, though it may appear to be the only option available to us . . . The very weapon we use to inflict pain on our offender becomes a sword turned on ourselves, doing far more damage to us - and to those who love me - than to those who have hurt us."

In addition, many have difficulty accepting God's forgiveness. "When we refuse to forgive, something is blocked in our relationship with the Father. [There is] a clear connection between our willingness to extend forgiveness to others, and our ability to appropriate and experience His forgiveness for our own sins."

DeMoss also addresses the need we feel to "make people pay." We may feel that by forgiving people, we are not holding them accountable. We are "letting them off the hook." This is not the case. "According to God's Word, wrongdoers will get their just due." Romans 12 tells us that " `Vengeance is mine. I will repay,' says the Lord." "Forgiveness releases the accused from your custody and turns him over to God . . . the one and only One who is both able and responsible for meting out justice."

DeMoss has penned a thought-provoking and insightful book. All of us can use the reminder to forgive, and the encouragement to work through the pain of our past, to wipe the slate clean. She makes the case that forgiveness is a decision, much more than a feeling. She invites us to reconsider what it means to forgive and most importantly, she calls us to forgive.

21 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Choosing Forgiveness, February 8, 2007

By	Rebecca Richard "Becky" (Rome, Ga United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Choosing Forgiveness: Your Journey to Freedom (Audio CD)

This book is awesome. Why waste our life on being bitter. God knew before we were born what we would go through and with his help we can forgive anyone of anything. It is life changing, I have bought several copies and the book on CD to share with friends. You will never be the same if you read it and apply it to you life. We don't always have control over what happens in our lives but we do have control over our our reaction to those events. I can not stress enough how wonderful it feels to forgive,the book tells you how.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Every Human Needs to Read This Book, September 4, 2008

By	Terry L. Pfleghaar "Terry" (Minnesota) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Choosing Forgiveness: Your Journey to Freedom (Hardcover)

This is a copy of my review at my blog: Femmedelettres.blogspot.com:

I just finished reading the most amazing book: Choosing Forgiveness, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It took me the entire month of August (interspersed with other books of course), as I wanted to ponder and absorb its truths. I borrowed it from my local library, but this is one of those books I must own, and read at least once a year. (I actually started listening to it as an audio book, which was gripping, but when the CD's skipped, I decided I just had to grab the book.)

Honestly, I don't know what drew me to the book, except Divine Providence. I never thought I needed a book on forgiveness. I don't exaggerate when I say I have been through numerous traumatic things in my life, pain wrought mostly by the cruel hands of others... but I thought I had forgiven my perpetrators. I do believe I had outwardly forgiven them, but in some ways I was still punishing those people, or holding them as emotional hostages, or even pridefully snubbing them. If they even noticed my sinful backlash toward them, they probably thought it was PMS-induced and went on their merry way. But, I was the one suffering inside.

One senses that DeMoss cares for her reader, which is why she risks telling us the truth. She maintains that everyone, even devout Christians, foster unforgiveness in their hearts to some degree, and she gently demonstrates this in her writing. She discusses the ways we subtly choose unforgiveness, the ramifications (even physical ones) of living in unforgiveness, and how we can choose, yes, choose to forgive those who have hurt or are hurting us (while drawing the distinction between forgiving someone and holding them accountable for their sin). She also discusses a sometimes neglected issue: self-forgiveness.

The part about vengeance really hit me:
Romans 12 tells us that "`Vengeance is mine. I will repay,' says the Lord." "Forgiveness releases the accused from your custody and turns him over to God... the one and only One who is both able and responsible for meting out justice." (p. 198)
Not having to take vengeance saves me much headache and stress. When I can just trust my heavenly father to take care of me, and to take care the 'bad guys' for me, then I can get on with my business of serving Him and helping others (she does remind us that "the memory of past hurts can provide a platform for ministry to other hurting people" p. 173).
But, while I must trust God to take vengeance, I am not allowed to hide my head in the sand: She stresses, "God does not want you to run away from your pain but to run to Him in the midst of your pain--to fly head-on into the full fury of it, to face it, to let Him meet you right where it hurts and give you the grace to be set free from any bondage to that hurt" (p.128). Wow!

The paragraph that really transformed my notion of suffering's purpose was this: "If you're a child of God, the ordeal you're undergoing, however wrong or unfair or heartless it may be or may have been, in His providence and skillful hands will be used to take you somewhere good--deeper into His heart, to a place of greater dependence and trust, more perfectly refined into the likeness of Christ" (P. 107, emphasis mine) Isn't this what we all long for? What if I embrace my suffering as a gift from God, instead of hiding from it, or engaging in bloody battle against it?

There are many practical and surprising insights in this book. Much of it is contrary to the way I've believed and behaved--which certainly has not been working. But, all of it is solidly based on scripture. The subtitle, Your Journey to Freedom, hints at the outcome of following DeMoss' advice: first, it is a journey, not a quick fix (hence why I must read it again); and second, it will bring freedom if you allow the Lord to use this book to reveal to you and heal you of your own unforgiveness.