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Choosing ME Before WE: Every Woman's Guide to Life and Love

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Ladies, set aside some time for yourself, because once you begin reading you will not be able to put this book down! Ms. Arylo has lent her knowledge and experience to us in this eye-opening book, giving step-by-step instructions to help us avoid the curse of relationship distortion, which so many of us share. She encourages us not to fear the changes life has in store - but use them as our guide. Ms. Arylo clearly explains, girlfriend-to-girlfriend, that once you have control of your life and are aligned with the universe, you are then in control of your happiness, which will flow naturally.

Choosing Me Before We is a fun, easy read, and beneficial on many levels. Ms. Arylo does a great job of helping to put things in perspective which allows you to focus on the most important person -- you! I highly recommend it.

Choosing ME before WE, was a book I could not put down. It was like getting to know my TRUE self for the first time. I am a middle school counselor and have read many many different self help books and this by far is one of the best.
This book opened my eyes on how I was seeking others for self validations (men particularly), rather then myself. Through the exercise and questions asked through out this book, I reached the "aha" moments that Oprah Winfrey talks about. This book touched my heart and soul. I wished I read this book 10 years ago.

I read this book in 2 sittings. I took notes, I journaled, and I broke through some deep seated limitations.
Thank You Christine, for leading the way!

This book is excellent. It really points out to you how you must figure out what you need from life and what makes you happy before getting into a relationship. It gives you loads of exercises and questions to ask yourself. It can take a while to work through due to all the exercises but it is well worth it. Wish I had read it before I got married (and subsequently divorced). So simple, but scary how many of us don't even consider our needs / wants / objectives before getting into a relationship. Many people just fall for someone and then convince themselves they have met the right person (when they may very well not be). Love for another person is simply not enough to make a successful relationship. We must love ourselves first and also choose wisely.

Choosing ME Before WE empowers women from all walks of life to work on the most important relationship there is -- the relationship with themselves. Women have been taught to take care of everyone else -- the kids, the husband, the boss -- and to put ourselves last. We have been taught that taking time for ourselves is selfish. Well, it's time to throw those old thoughts out. Arylo has provided an inspirational guide full of tips and tools to help any woman find her true soul mate: herself. This book is full of real life experiences by the author and her friends. It tells the story of how after a 15-year relationship fell apart just before the engagement party, Arylo went on a self exploration. It was full of dark corners and truths she did not want to confront, but ultimately she found the courage to honestly face who she was and how she had gotten there. And the reward: she developed a loving, trusting, honest relationship with herself. Along her journey she found Noah, her husband, and together they work on continuing to have a committed, fulfilling partnership.

-- Tiffany LaRue, New Connexion Journal
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As a woman in my young twenties in a failing relationship I turned to this book for some perspective. I immediately connected with the author's story of an unfulfilled relationship. This book offers women a way to think about themselves and how they are conducting their lives and relationships. Growing up we don't learn that we have to put ourselves first to be happy, but this book offers a gentle but straightforward reminder that it is your life. Love yourself unconditionally and you will be unconditionally loved. I would recommend it to all of my female friends regardless of their age or relationship status.

this book is changing the way i think.. i am so glad i am reading it.. it is a Must for all women... i recomend this....

I highly recommend this book to anyone in a serious relationship or even for a mother to give to her 20+ year old daughter. I only wish that I would have had this book before I got married! Trust your instinct! Christine Arlyo provides you with some very insightful thoughts about trusting and honoring yourself first! There are many practical tips and questions that you can ask yourself that will empower you to not settle for less!

I got this book after reading an article the author wrote on Your Tango about why smart women fail at relationships. It was one of the best decisions I've EVER made and I truly feel that it was divine guidance that led me to this book because reading it helped me change my life! Until that point I thought I loved myself but honestly I didn't know how or even what that meant! This book guided me and gave me the tools to finally deal with old demons which had been plaguing my every step without my realizing it.

Thanks to this book, I finally got off autopilot and realized I'd been living and repeating the same pattern of making bad decisions because I believed I was not worthy enough to have something good. I finally saw that the people, especially the men I was attracted to, I'd been attracting into my life were reflecting how I felt about myself and since I didn't love me, they couldn't love me in the way I needed either. Heck I had left me, so why would anybody else stick around?

Thank you Christine for everything! Thank you for being such an inspiration and for helping countless other women like me to finally understand that validation and acceptance must come from within, first and always. I hope to pay forward my blessing and I've told all my girl friends to read your book.

I learned of Christine Arylo's book and website after hearing her on Kimberly Wilson's podcast. I went through the book with highlighter, tabs and journal in hand. I seriously collected more real, useful tidbits from this book than I think I've ever gotten from therapy. This is not fluff or filler, but real substance mixed with Christine's personal experiences and antic dotes. Since reading the book I've bought several additional copies to keep on hand for friends who are going through relationship or self-esteem challenges. I am so grateful for whatever motivation Christine had to create this book. It's a gem!