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Choosing ME Before WE: Every Woman's Guide to Life and Love
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39 of 40 people found the following review helpful
on August 30, 2011
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I got this book after reading an article the author wrote on Your Tango about why smart women fail at relationships. It was one of the best decisions I've EVER made and I truly feel that it was divine guidance that led me to this book because reading it helped me change my life! Until that point I thought I loved myself but honestly I didn't know how or even what that meant! This book guided me and gave me the tools to finally deal with old demons which had been plaguing my every step without my realizing it.

Thanks to this book, I finally got off autopilot and realized I'd been living and repeating the same pattern of making bad decisions because I believed I was not worthy enough to have something good. I finally saw that the people, especially the men I was attracted to, I'd been attracting into my life were reflecting how I felt about myself and since I didn't love me, they couldn't love me in the way I needed either. Heck I had left me, so why would anybody else stick around?

Thank you Christine for everything! Thank you for being such an inspiration and for helping countless other women like me to finally understand that validation and acceptance must come from within, first and always. I hope to pay forward my blessing and I've told all my girl friends to read your book.
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40 of 42 people found the following review helpful
on April 28, 2009
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Choosing ME before WE, was a book I could not put down. It was like getting to know my TRUE self for the first time. I am a middle school counselor and have read many many different self help books and this by far is one of the best.
This book opened my eyes on how I was seeking others for self validations (men particularly), rather then myself. Through the exercise and questions asked through out this book, I reached the "aha" moments that Oprah Winfrey talks about. This book touched my heart and soul. I wished I read this book 10 years ago.
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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
on September 19, 2009
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I read this book in 2 sittings. I took notes, I journaled, and I broke through some deep seated limitations.
Thank You Christine, for leading the way!
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13 of 14 people found the following review helpful
on March 18, 2009
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I highly recommend this book to anyone in a serious relationship or even for a mother to give to her 20+ year old daughter. I only wish that I would have had this book before I got married! Trust your instinct! Christine Arlyo provides you with some very insightful thoughts about trusting and honoring yourself first! There are many practical tips and questions that you can ask yourself that will empower you to not settle for less!
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful
on May 26, 2010
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As a woman in my young twenties in a failing relationship I turned to this book for some perspective. I immediately connected with the author's story of an unfulfilled relationship. This book offers women a way to think about themselves and how they are conducting their lives and relationships. Growing up we don't learn that we have to put ourselves first to be happy, but this book offers a gentle but straightforward reminder that it is your life. Love yourself unconditionally and you will be unconditionally loved. I would recommend it to all of my female friends regardless of their age or relationship status.
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12 of 14 people found the following review helpful
on June 2, 2010
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Choosing ME Before WE empowers women from all walks of life to work on the most important relationship there is -- the relationship with themselves. Women have been taught to take care of everyone else -- the kids, the husband, the boss -- and to put ourselves last. We have been taught that taking time for ourselves is selfish. Well, it's time to throw those old thoughts out. Arylo has provided an inspirational guide full of tips and tools to help any woman find her true soul mate: herself. This book is full of real life experiences by the author and her friends. It tells the story of how after a 15-year relationship fell apart just before the engagement party, Arylo went on a self exploration. It was full of dark corners and truths she did not want to confront, but ultimately she found the courage to honestly face who she was and how she had gotten there. And the reward: she developed a loving, trusting, honest relationship with herself. Along her journey she found Noah, her husband, and together they work on continuing to have a committed, fulfilling partnership.

-- Tiffany LaRue, New Connexion Journal
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
on March 4, 2012
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What I appreciated most about this book is that anyone can read it and benefit from it -
Regardless of where you are on the relationship spectrum...
married, committed, single, dating, happy with a partner or miserable with a partner
CMBW gives you the tools you need to check-in with yourself and access the most important relationship you have in your life:
the one with YOU.
Because you can't really love anyone until you really truly love and honor yourself
and know what your heart really desires.

I love that Christine Arylo shares her own personal journey with the readers
of what her life was like before she really loved herself.
she learned she wasn't living her heart's deepest desires
and many years of training and inner exploration gave her the tools that she in turn shares with us, her readers

whether you read the book from cover to cover
or decide to just pick a random page to read for the day
her book will give you the insight and practices that are deeply thought-out, fun, and totally transformative!
Plus, Christine is friggin hilarious ;)

HUGELY thankful for this book!
and so are the many friends and family whom I have gifted it to .. :)

Thank you for this wonderful book, Christine
<3

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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful
on April 7, 2011
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I'm going through relationship problems and have purchased a few self-help books over the past few months. I'm only into the first few "ME" chapters and would recommend every women with "issues" read this book. The ideas and questions expressed really make you did deep into your feelings and address them. I know it's very important to love yourself and to be okay with yourself no matter what life events take place, but I have a hard time believing this for myself. I plan to read the book completely and then go back and re-read it and honestly think about the questions and write my answers. I've always had a significant other in my life and this book is helping me to realize that I don't need a man in my life, I don't need to settle for someone that won't make me happy. I'm okay with just being me. There's a section in the book when she talks about doing stuff alone, taking yourself on a date. I have always been concerned what people would think about me if I dined alone at a restaurant or went to a movie alone, but by reading this book, I think I will get out of my comfort zone and begin doing these things by myself. When you honestly think about it, who is the only person you can really trust, who is the only person that can make you happy...YOU are. If you can't be happy with yourself, the way you look, the situtation you're in, why do you think something outside will fill your "holes"? You need to dig deep, be able to look at yourself in the mirror every morning and be okay and happy with who YOU are. Until this happens, a person cannot truely be happy. Each one of us is a unique individual, think how boring life would be if we were all the same. Be happy with who you are and what you have to bring to your life.
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11 of 13 people found the following review helpful
on November 7, 2011
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There are far too many women who enter into or stay in relationships for the wrong reasons - fear, loneliness, routine, living up to someone else's ideal of what they are supposed to be, etc, etc. This book is a must read for every woman who feels they are living for other people. Knowing and loving oneself is the biggest gift anyone can give themselves. Christine Arylo chronicles many of her own and other women's personal stories of what happened when they entered into relationships without this foundational love of self (broken relationships, disappointment, etc, etc) then shared the courageous choices they made to get back on a healthy path.

I am a strong advocate for marriage and compromise and for living up to commitments I make. I found I could relate these teachings to areas in my life, beyond my interpersonal relationships, where I might have put other's needs ahead of my own. I am in a loving relationship with my husband and find our bond has strengthened as I have learned more about myself. I also have two daughters and I aspire to set the best possible example of how they can be strong women and loving partners.

I really appreciated the lessons in this book and will recommend it to friends.
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful
on November 4, 2009
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I learned of Christine Arylo's book and website after hearing her on Kimberly Wilson's podcast. I went through the book with highlighter, tabs and journal in hand. I seriously collected more real, useful tidbits from this book than I think I've ever gotten from therapy. This is not fluff or filler, but real substance mixed with Christine's personal experiences and antic dotes. Since reading the book I've bought several additional copies to keep on hand for friends who are going through relationship or self-esteem challenges. I am so grateful for whatever motivation Christine had to create this book. It's a gem!
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