Rewrite your romantic reality and create your own Happily Ever After
Any woman who’s kissed her share of toads will relate to this wise and witty guide to modern love. Written by a casting producer for television’s most popular dating shows, Cinderella Was a Liar explodes the fairy-tale myths that make you miserable--while offering real-world insights that actually make sense. Author Brenda Della Casa interviewed close to 1,000 guys to get the real facts behind the fairy tale and find out what works, what doesn’t, and what will send a man running to Never-Never Land. Armed with that knowledge, you will finally discover why your supposed Prince Charming isn’t into you and how to find the love you deserve.
Features get-real strategies for the NOT-SO-fairytale world of modern romance, including:
"Cinderella Was A Liar is witty, fun and offers practical advice on how to snag your Prince Charming." -- Lisa Dailey, author of Stop Getting Dumped
"Clever and candid...sheds new light on the delicate dance [called] dating. Invaluable advice delivered with a dose of humor." -- Sharyn Wolf, author of Guerrilla Dating Tactics
"WARNING: Reading this book could be hazardous to your status as a single woman...Change your romance status - almost instantly. " -- Vance DeGeneres--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
From the Back Cover
Are you one of the unsavory sisters no prince wants to date?
The Desperate Sister: If a man's got a pulse, she's in love. The Dramatic Sister: Everything's a production with this sister, especially her latest dating disaster. The Jaded Sister: Carrying more baggage than a 747, this maiden complains that no decent lads exist because she's still bitter over the ex who didn't deserve her. The Self-Important Sister: Her favorite topic? Herself! Just ask the intensely bored suitor sitting across the table from her. The Saucy Sister: Her flashy get-ups and tawdry conversation all ooze sex, yet she wonders why that's all she gets from men. The Martyr Sister: Oh, how she's suffered at the hands of suitors who have taken advantage of her kind, tender heart! The Low Self-Esteem Sister: She searches for hidden meaning in innocent comments and is seized with anxiety every time her man hangs out with the guys. The Superficial Sister: She'd dump her dream man if he went bald. The Controlling Sister: It's her way or the highway. Next stop: Nag City. The Too-Loving Sister: She'd do anything for her man--even be his doormat. The Gold-Digger Sister: She loves the finer things, as long as they're on his tab. The High-Maintenance Sister: Her best trait? Being able to cry on cue to get what she wants.
With Cinderella Was a Liar, you can rewrite your romantic reality and create your own happily ever after!
Close the book on the fairy-tale fib with this wise and witty guide to modern love
If you have ever stayed up wondering where your prince is, you're not alone. Cinderella promised every maiden in the land that she would find a prince, marry him in a gala event, and move straight into her happily every after. Unfortunately, Cinderella was a liar.
The reality is that no man is perfect and neither are you (sorry!). But that doesn't mean that all men are toads or that you are destined to be ordering dessert for one for the rest of your life. The truth is you can have a great relationship with a fantastic guy but to do that you're going to have to look in the mirror and change a few things, because the only way to find the best match is to become your best self!
It's time to identify your dating shortcomings, polish up your outlook, learn the joys of walking barefoot, and rejoice in the fact that you have far more control over your romantic reality than you ever realized! So, don't waste another minute waiting for a prince to swoop in out of nowhere to save you from a lifetime of loneliness. Learn how to save yourself, live your best life, and enjoy the dating dance and you'll find a slipper that fits perfectly--no wishing required!
With Cinderella Was a Liar, you can learn to:
Realize that your life has significance regardless of your romantic status!
Accept that not every slipper carried by a suitor will fit--and that's perfectly OK.
Stop limiting yourself! The idea that you have just one "soul mate" or can date only men who look or act a certain way is silly--and boring.
Stop telling yourself the lies that keep you from finding your prince.
Understand why One-Night Stands and Drunk-Dialing are very bad potions.
Spot a toad who doesn't deserve you and cut him loose.
Chill out and enjoy dating, while scoping out the right places to meet your mate.
Cinderella Was a Liar will help you banish that silly fairy-tale ideal for good with frank, honest advice and a healthy dose of reality. (Hint: It's not always the guy's fault when a relationship shrivels, despite what many dating books will tell you!) It's time to hold yourself accountable for creating your own happy ending and finding a slipper that fits comfortably.
--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Brenda Della Casa is an internationally published author, speaker, columnist and casting producer who has spent the last nine years interviewing single, married and divorced men and women for a variety of television shows and articles.
While working as a casting agent, producer and director for some of television's most popular dating, relationship and family shows, Della Casa spent her days and nights submerged in the dating pool and swam from DC to NY to LA and back. She spent her evenings in clubs and lounges watching singles mix and mingle and her days interviewing men and women about what they wanted, what they didn't want and what the opposite sex was doing all wrong. Her free time was spent discussing the dating dramas of her friends and maybe one or two of her own trip ups.
Tired of seeing incredible women destroy their chances with great guys by making bad decisions and comparing every relationship to that of Cinderella, Brenda set out to prove that Cinderella told a whopper and it was time for the women of the world (or at least those in those bars, clubs, brunch spots and in her living room) to re-write their romantic realities and create their own "Happily Ever After." There would be no more beating yourself up for sporting a naked ring finger and no lies about his losing your number being perpetuated over mimosa's. It was time to face reality, one fib at a time.
After interviewing hundreds of single women-and nearly 1,000 single, married and coupled men world-wide!- Brenda not only discovered how women can realize their lives have significance regardless of their romantic status but how in doing so they can attract quality men who will call and will commit. She put all of this and more into her breakthrough book, Cinderella Was a Liar: The Real Reason You Cannot Find (or Keep) a Prince, which has been published in seven countries and six languages.
Brenda writes columns for FiLife.com, IamStaggered.com, Divorce360.com, Basil & Spice and and Start Your Business Magazine.
She is the creator and sole writer for both Walking Barefoot (www.strollwithoutshoes.com) a wellness blog with a growing readership.
Brenda has written for and been featured in About.com, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Glamour.com,Cosmo Bride, iVillage, The Daily Mirror, FHM, Men's Health, Health & Fitness, Psychologies, Dan Shawbel's Personal Branding Blog,The New York Daily News, The Sun, Glamour, Scarlet, Seventeen, Bliss, Company, Msn.com , Look, Elle, Woman's Day, eDiets, Start Your Business Magazine and many others.
She has served as an Expert/blogger for Divorce360.com, Lifetime.com, First30Days.com, Start Your Business Magazine, Basil & Spice and eNotalone.com.
She has been a guest on The Today Show, iVillageLive!, Timeless Women Speak and many other television and radio programs.
Brenda received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from The American University in Washington, DC. While in the nation's capital, she worked for President William Jefferson Clinton. She currently lives in the U.S. with her Prince - Harold - and her Chihuahua, Tony Montana.
To book Brenda as a guest or speaker, request an article or interview or inquire about personal coaching, please email CinderellaWasaLiar@gmail.com.
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10 FACTS ABOUT BRENDA
A former writer for The Phat Phree - www.ThePhatPhree.com - She is part of the team responsible for Look At My Striped Shirt: Confessions of the people you love to hate - a cult comedy book from the Phat Phree Team.
She is featured as "Sally the Waitress" in the award-winning short, "They're Made Out of Meat"
Brenda was the Dear Luv Lady for Lifetime Online for as long as the blog ran.
She swam in the freezing Atlantic Ocean on December 10, 2006 for a NY Daily News article on the Polar Bear Club
Brenda was the creator and sole blogger for La Dolce Vita, the popular wellness blog on iVillage.com.
MTV once made a short movie based on a few of her life experiences.
She once got a Buckingham Palace Guard to crack a smile
She was once homeless
Her favorite book is Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov
Her essay, Twentysomething: Quarter Life Crisis has been re-posted on over 25,000 sites and inspired a music album.
I'm a guy, and I'm not the target audience for this book. Having said that, I thoroughly enjoyed Cinderella Was a Liar by Brenda Della Casa. She skewers the "Prince Charming" myth and dishes out some great advice on how to attract a decent guy. And those of both genders could benefit from her suggestions on becoming comfortable with yourself first before you try and attract a potential mate.
Contents: The Twelve Sisters No Prince Wants to Date; Throw Out the Proverbial Bridal Binder!; Don't Shove Your Feet into Slippers That Don't Fit; The Joy of Walking Barefoot; Having a Ball in the World of Dating; The Lies We Speak into the Mirror; One-Night Stands (and Other Bad Potions); The Curse of Verbal Diarrhea; Guaranteed Ways to Send Him Far, Far Away; The Lads Holding You Back and the Toads Who Have to Go; How and Where to Bag Your Royal; Real Royals Answer Questions for You; Your Very Own Coat of Arms; Index
The fairy tale of Cinderella has Prince Charming taking Cindy away from her life of drudgery and servitude when he matches her up with the left-behind glass slipper. Ever since, girls have been raised to look for their "Prince Charming", the one true love that will sweep them away to a happily-ever-after. The problem is, it's all a fantasy. Trying to find that one Prince Charming puts a ton of pressure on everyone, and causes real guys to be overlooked. Della Casa interviewed quite a few real guys to find out how they feel and think about dating and relationships, gathered up their input, and used it to show how a women's quest for her "Prince" is often a series of missteps, disappointments, and disasters. Instead, "Cinderella" should relax and learn to enjoy her own company. Developing your own interests and activities guarantee that you'll never be at a loss for options, and you're not dependent on someone else to make you happy. One you get to that point, then let dating be the opportunity to meet people, have fun, and learn what you like and don't like. You don't have to fit into the slipper of everyone you date, nor do you want to wear a slipper that gives you blisters. Relax...
And if you're a guy reading this, much of the advice is just as applicable. The focus is a bit different, in that we're not looking for someone to take us away and provide for our every need (or at least we shouldn't be). But learning to have your own interests, as well as looking at dating as a way to find out what you do and don't like is a great idea. You can also work on your own bad dating habits so that you don't scare off your Cindy when you do meet her...
Great advice, and a lot of humor mixed in here. I had a lot of fun reading this one...
I loved "Cinderella Was A Liar" because it's full of great advice. Ms. Della Casa starts off with a bang, describing the twelve ugly stepsisters that no man wants to date. I identified with two of these characters and made mental notes to make some improvements. There's some good stuff in here: "throw out the proverbial bridal binder," and "one night stands (and other bad potions)." She talks the mistakes we've all made, and even tells of some of her own heartbreak. The best part is the last chapter, where hundreds of real guys answer dating questions honestly. Reading their answers was like being a fly on the wall in a mens'locker room. Everybody can learn something from "Cinderella Was A Liar" and I highly recommend it.
Cinderella was a Liar is a delightful and comical piece that really makes you go, "that is so me, or that is so true". The book uses humor and real life experiences to teach some single gals new tricks on dating. Highly recommend this book as the style is unique to the market and many of the unsaids are finally said!
