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Civil War Wives: The Lives and Times of Angelina Grimke Weld, Varina Howell Davis, and Julia Dent Grant (Borzoi Books)

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Have you ever wondered what it was like to be a woman during the Civil War, especially one who wanted rights and freedom at a time when women were second class citizens? Carol Berkin delves into these questions in her well researched book Civil War Wives: The Lives & Times of Angela Grimke Weld, Virginia Howell Davis, and Julia Dent Grant. These women led vastly different lives, yet they all had one thing in common. They were strong and opinionated women who challenged their society's view of a women's place and made a big difference in their communities.

The woman who stood out the most to me was Varina Howell Davis, the wife of Jefferson Davis, the President of the Confederacy. Jefferson Davis fell in love with Varina for her sparky personality, but disproved of her behavior once they married. Why couldn't she just be a good, obedient wife? She had opinions about politics and vocally opposed some of her husband's political moves. Jefferson Davis was so unhappy with his wife's opposition that he declared she was a "difficult person to grow fond of" and concluded that her behavior must be caused by pregnancy hormones. Despite her husband's resistance, Varina continued to develop her personal political beliefs and became an expert political lobbyist for her husband's eventual release from prison.

This book is full of interesting facts, amusing stories, and detailed research. It's an interesting read for anyone who loves Civil War history. I found it rather tedious to read through and read it in short intervals. However, it is definitely worth the effort. Weld, Davis, and Grant's stories will touch your heart and leave you a more informed person than you were before this book fell into your hands.

by Jennifer Melville
for Story Circle Book Reviews
reviewing books by, for, and about women

This is an incredible read. Normally, when I read nonfiction/history books, I would often find my eyes crossing while reading different names and places among the mumble and jumbles ... but not this time. This author, Ms. Berkin, has brought these three women (that I really didn't know anything about) and their differences and unique temperaments alive in these pages. The only thing these women have in common is the fact that they were born and raised in slave-holding families of the South. The Civil War affected each of them in different ways. They all were married to famous men, strong leaders in their own rights.

History is often mute on the subject of women and how they view wars in their lifetimes. Ms. Berkin brought these women's voices alive.

I have to say that I really enjoyed getting to know each of these women in these pages. I would now think that Mrs. Weld is really the forerunner of the feminism movement that took off in the late 1800s and early 1900s. She and her sister were fighting hard in their days to allow their voices to be heard. They also balanced traditional housewifery chores alongside with raising kids and teaching their kids as well as other kids ... bringing the realities of housewifery as a lot of work back then across to the modern readers (I definitely appreciate my washer and dryer now!). It never occurred to them or to Mrs. Weld's husband, that there is a need for balancing the housework along with going on the lecture circuit among the three of them. It is an interesting biography to read.

Mrs. Davis is a strong woman tempered by her genteel upbringing where women are encouraged to think that their husbands are the mainstays of the household and yet she struggled with it since she was a very intelligent woman. She fought at having to control her naturally inquisitive mind and to keep in check so she wouldn't inflame her husband, who expected a more traditional woman. Mrs. Davis, as an intelligent woman, has fought against those restraints that society has put on women, and yet tried to surrender herself to it. It was not an easy fight, especially when she never got support from anyone especially from the man she married. She is admirable in fighting for her husband's release after the war's end.

Mrs. Grant was not brought up to be educated or radical thinker and even her husband, U.S. Grant didn't encourage her to be a smart woman, but in her own way, she was just as unassuming as her husband was. Her main goal was to keep her Uyls happy and her children nourished and loved. Mrs. Grant brought smiles to everyone even though she was not a beautiful woman, but she was kind. It was really enjoyable reading her biography in these pages.

I cannot believe how much I enjoyed reading this book and would definitely recommend it for anyone who is interested in history especially history of strong women!

I enjoyed this book, it was well written and interesting. There were two glaring errors in the text though that make me question the research. On page 165 she refers to William McClellan's Peninsular Campaign. Uh, that would be George B. McClellan not William, arghhh. Later on page 279, Salmon Chase is referred to as Samuel Chase. These errors are glaring to anyone with even a passing interest in the history of the American Civil War and I was shocked to see them. Don't know whether to blame the publisher or the author but it makes me suspicious of the fact checking done on this publication.

Wonderful to read the roles wives/women/families played during the Civil War. I'm finding this book very interesting and informative.

Carol Berkin's relates the historical narrative of women in a manner that would appeal to a broad audience. History fans would enjoy her latest book as she gives insight to three different women with very different paradigms. Readers will enjoy Berkin's latest effort to shed more light on women in American history.

In recent years, Americans have combined their passion for Civil War history with an interest in women's studies. Carol Berkin's book, "Civil War Wives" (2009) combines this themes of the conflict and its women. She offers biographies of three women: Angela Grimke Weld (1805 --- 1879), Varina Howell Davis (1826 -- 1906); and Julia Dent Grant(1826 -- 1902) who married famous husbands. Berkin explores the lives of these women before, during and after their marriages. She tries to understand the different ways in which her subjects understood their own independence and marriages in an era in which women were widely-believed to properly occupy "separate spheres", centering upon home and family, from men. Berkin is Baruch Presidential Professor of History at Baruch College.

Grimke, Davis, and Grant all were born to wealthy slaveholding families. In addition, each of the three women left substantial writings, which allowed Berkin to write about their lives with first-hand rather than reflected sources. Thus Grimke kept a journal throughout her life and wrote letters, speeches and articles. Davis wrote letters and, late in her life, a biography of her husband. For most of her life, Julia Grant wrote little. But after the death of Ulysees Grant, she wrote her own memoirs which were published only in 1975. Beyond these similarities, each of these women has their own story to tell. Berkin writes effectively in emphasizing the different life-paths of even these privileged American women of the 19th Century. These three ways, perhaps, illustrate three means of self-understanding, among possible other means. The comment on Julia Grant is telling. Berkin writes: (Preface, at xiii):

"Over the months, as their biographies took shape, I came to know these three women with the intimacy that biographers often acquire and with an affection that biographers do not always sustain. Angelina's bravery won my respect, Varina's brilliance won my admiration, and Julia's contentment won my envy."

Angelina Grimke differs from her two companions in this book in that she had a highly visible, notorious career in her own right before her marriage. The daughter of a wealthy and established slaveholding family in South Carolina, she became, as a young woman, highly critical of the peculiar. She followed her sister, Sarah, 14 years her senior, to Philadelphia and became a Quaker for a time. She soon became part of the Abolitionist movement and, with Sarah, became a passionate speaker in the Northeast relating her own experiences with the dehumanizing experience of slavery. Unlike some of the Abolitionists, the Grimke's also became advocates of women's rights. In the late 1830's Angelinia married her mentor, the abolitionist Theodore Weld. Many people, including her supporters, doubted whether Angelina would find happiness as a married woman given her independence and advocacy of women's issues. With the exception of a brief speaking engagement in 1963, Angelina Grimke's public career ended with her marriage, as she raised her children, became a housewife, and assisted Weld with his writing and research. The marriage was unconventional as well in that Sarah Grimke, who never married, lived almost for its entire course with the couple. Berkin describes the many tensions and unresolved issues that simmered as a result of this arrangement.

Varina Howell Davis also was the child of the owners of a successful plantation. She married Jefferson Davis when she was a young beauty of 17 and Davis was a reserved introspective man of 35 just beginning his political career. Many years earlier, Davis had courted and married the daughter of Zachary Taylor, Margaret, but, after a lengthy and stormy courtship, Margaret died months after the marriage. Davis love for Margaret cast a shadow over his marriage to Varina. Varina Davis was highly intelligent and educated and unafraid to express her opinions. Her independence caused some difficulties with the more traditionally-minded Jefferson Davis, but the couple on the whole appeared happy. The couple had six children, only one of whom survived young adulthood. (One child died in a tragic accident while Davis was the president of the Confederacy.) Varina Davis seemed more comfortable in the presence of educated men, who valued her independence and candor, than in the presence of other women who frequently denigrated her as the "Queen". After the fall of the Confederacy, Varina acted independently and courageously in her tireless and eventually successful efforts to free Jefferson Davis from prison. She assisted Davis in writing his memoirs and after his death had a life of her own. Varina Davis moved to New York City, wrote her own memoirs of Jefferson Davis, and became a writer and a journalist. Her home in a New York City became a meeting ground for artists, intellectuals, and politicians as Davis carved out a career in late life in her own right.

Julia Dent Grant was the daughter of Missouri slaveholders. When a young, socially awkward U.S. Grant visited the family, he became smitten immediately with Julia and remained so throughout his life. The couple had a long courtship, over the objections of Julia's father and with Grant's military career. The pair did not even see each other over a three year period. U.S. Grant and Julia enjoyed a long and, by all accounts, happy marriage, as both Grant and Julia accepted the gender conventions and roles of the society in which they lived. Julia's had an embarassing lack of political sense especially where slavery, and the role of her husband in ending it, were concerned. Her attachment to the Union was based on her love for her husband rather than in an understanding of political issues. When Grant died, Episcopal Bishop John Newman praised the couple's relationship, describing their complementary roles in accordance with gender mores of the time: "Husband and wife the happy supplement of each other. He the Doric column to sustain; she the Corinthian column to beautify. He the oak to support; she ivy to entwine." (Berkin, p. 303) Following Grant's death, Julia Grant showed a degree of independence by writing her own Memoirs. She boldly asked more for them than the publishers would pay and, as a result, her Memoirs remained unpublished until 1975.

It was valuable to get to know these three women and to try to understand Civil War America from their perspectives. As Berkin realizes, it is treacherous to generalize attitudes in any time and place over a pervasive subject such as gender roles. As Berkin wisely concludes with respect to her subjects (at 314) "[p]erhaps we cannot understand our own modern sensibilities until we understand theirs."

Robin Friedman