Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage [Paperback]

Dave M. Carder (Author)

Book Description

Release date: April 1, 2008

Never say never. Your marriage may be the most vulnerable when you think it is adultery-proof. Dave Carder, counselor and author of the bestselling Torn Asunder (100,000 in print), is a sought-after expert on issues of adultery. Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way, and what they want the rest of us to know. Includes charts and assessments.

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From the Back Cover

You are in danger of having an affair.

Don't believe it? Then your risk is even greater.

Dave Carder has spent more than 30 years counseling husbands and wives trapped by infidelity, and he knows that the vast majority of these heartbroken people never saw it coming. In Close Calls, he reveals what adulterers want you to know about protecting your marriage before trouble strikes. With eye-opening stories and clinical insight he will help you:

> Identify the type of person to whom you may be dangerously attracted
> Evaluate your marriage style and what that may mean for extramarital friendships
> Assess how your past relationships affect your future
> Understand when you're most vulnerable to infidelity

Close Calls should be required reading for all men and women who want to face the challenges of fidelity straight on, knowing that an intact marriage is a source of great joy. Marriage is worth working for and it's worth protecting.

Bonus: Inside you'll find interactive quizzes and activities for couples at every stage of marriage that will help you strengthen your relationship!

About the Author

DAVE CARDER currently serves as Pastor responsible for Counseling and Marriage Ministries at the First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton. He holds graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and in Marital and Family Therapy as well as the Michigan Limited License in Psychology and the Marriage and Family Therapy license in California. Dave has published five books, one of which won The Gold Medallion Award in Personal Evangelism in 1993. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have four adult children and five grandchildren. In their spare time they enjoy jogging.

Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (April 1, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0802442110
• ISBN-13: 978-0802442116
• Product Dimensions: 6.1 x 0.6 x 8.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #187,824 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Dave Carder is the bestselling author of Torn Asunder. He speaks to a wide variety of audiences both nationally and internationally on issues of preventing and recovering from adultery. He serves as pastor responsible for counseling ministries at the First Evangelical Free Chrich of Fullerton, California, and carries on an active counseling practice. He and his wife, Ronnie, have four adult children and four grandchildren.

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Fascinating read that has many good points February 26, 2009

By Stephanie Manley TOP 1000 REVIEWERVINE™ VOICE

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Did you ever wonder what cause an affair? This book goes over many reasons why one would have an affair, why a person is attracted to someone, and in what times individuals are the most likely to have an affair. Just knowing these these facts can make us all more aware of what to look for, and how to avoid having an affair.

There are times when we as individuals are more likely to have an affair than other times. When we are under stress through work, financial, relationship reasons, and others, we look for relief, we look for support. What gives us more instant gratification other than affair? There is little that gives someone a surge than an illicit affair.

I highly recommend reading this book. You may be married, you may even be involved with a married person. Affairs hurt everyone involved, the people directly involved, and all those touched by the affair. An amazing read, and I highly recommend picking this book up.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Fresh Ideas March 6, 2010

By S. Schrock

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I've probably read every book written on marriage from a Christian perspective so was surprised to find new insights on the subject. The author is no doubt a Christian and he uses some Biblical resources but the book presents only psychological and practical issues; it does not offer an analysis of Scriptural principles. That's not to say his premises or conclusions are incorrect. On the contrary they are thought provoking and worthy of further study. I would recommend this book to any married couple - in light of the epidemic of adultery in today's Christian culture it would make an excellent wedding gift.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful/Valuable Tool June 12, 2010

By C. Lister

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This has been an extremely useful book for me on a personal level as well as professionally as I have recommended this book to my therapy clients. My only initial dislike had to do with the format. He has exercises threaded within the book and I think I would have prefered all of those at the end in an appendix. The other draw back had to do with some of his examples weren't completely clear. Aside from those minor issues, this book provides valuable insights into understanding yourself better and becoming aware of potential close calls. If you can go through this book together with your signifiant other, it will spark a lot of good conversation - but you both need to be prepared and willing to discuss some potentially difficult topics with an open ear and patience. Even if you read it by yourself, it will be a worthwhile investment of your time - but don't skip ahead, pause and do the exercises along the way and you will get more out of it.