Closure and the Law of Relationship: Endings as New Beginnings [Paperback]

Lissa Coffey (Author), Arielle Ford (Foreword)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 19, 2010

Through the myriad forms of relationships we experience over the course of a lifetime, we have the opportunity to learn about ourselves-to see how each relationship, no matter how challenging or difficult or joyful, causes us to change, to grow, and even to discover unknown inner strengths. In Closure and the Law of Relationship: Endings as New Beginnings, lifestyle and relationship expert Lissa Coffey show us how the Law of Relationship works to our benefit to help us improve our lives. "The universe teaches us that relationships don't end," Coffey says. "We remain connected to the people in our lives through our memories and shared experiences. Coming to terms with the changes in our relationships is what will bring us closure." With real-life examples, Transformation Applications, and Wisdom Affirmations throughout, Coffey has created a practical, spiritual guide that offers a five-step process to help us achieve a sought-for peace of mind and greater Self-realization. "Eastern philosophy teaches us that change is inevitable, and yet suffering is not. In her insightful new book, "Closure," Lissa Coffey shows us how to learn and grow as we move through the evolution of our relationships. Highly recommended." -Deepak Chopra Author of The Ultimate Happiness Prescription "Who among us hasn't been devastated by the loss of a relationship - whether through separation, divorce, or death? Most of the time, we can't see beyond the present moment and mistakenly believe that life could never be as good without that other person in our daily lives. By the end of the journey through Lissa Coffey's book, Closure, we come to realize that we will be better for having loved, and life will be even sweeter when we start to live it again!" Shaun Robinson TV Host, Author of Exactly As I Am

Editorial Reviews

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"Eastern philosophy teaches us that change is inevitable, and yet suffering is not. In her insightful new book, "Closure," Lissa Coffey shows us how to learn and grow as we move through the evolution of our relationships. Highly recommended." --Deepak Chopra, Author of The Ultimate Happiness Prescription

"Who among us hasn't been devastated by the loss of a relationship - whether through separation, divorce, or death? Most of the time, we can't see beyond the present moment and mistakenly believe that life could never be as good without that other person in our daily lives. By the end of the journey through Lissa Coffey's book, Closure, we come to realize that we will be better for having loved, and life will be even sweeter when we start to live it again!" -- Shaun Robinson TV Host, Author of Exactly As I Am

"The essential guide for anyone who is lookoing to increase their sense of peace, joy and fullfilment. Follow Lissa's Wisdom and experience a total sense of enlightenment." --Peggy McColl, Author of Your Destiny Switch

"I loved it! As so often is the case, books that are supposed to lead us back to ourselves can be dense and complicated. Lissa's book allows the reader to understand the insight and wisdom it takes to come back to the joy. Her words reflect how much she truly cares about the healing of humanity. Brava!" --Catherine Hickland, Actress, Author of The 30-Day Heartbreak Cure

About the Author

Lissa Coffey is a lifestyle and relationship expert and frequent contributor to many national television shows, including The Today Show. She covers a variety of topics dealing with relationships, family, pop culture, lifestyle, and even sex. Lissa has been featured in Redbook, Woman's Day, and several other publications. She has traveled the country to local stations, both live and via satellite, as a spokesperson for various sponsored television tours. Lissa is the author of four additional books and several e-books. Her most recent book is the best-selling What's Your Dosha, Baby? Discover the Vedic Way for Compatibility in Life and Love. Lissa writes three different e-mail newsletters and has more than one hundred thousand subscribers around the world. She has several Web sites, including coffeytalk.com and whatsyourdosha.com. CoffeyTalk: Ancient Wisdom, Modern Style, is an Internet television show seen on YouTube, and several other Internet channels. Lissa blogs on The Huffington Post and Intent.com, as well as on her own Web site.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: BookSurge Publishing (January 19, 2010)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1439259534
• ISBN-13: 978-1439259535
• Product Dimensions: 0.5 x 7.9 x 5.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (25 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #181,138 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars What Closure IS, why we need it and how to get it. February 20, 2010

By Inter8

Format:Paperback

This is a 'feel good' book. Not just because of any of the many real life story examples within it, but by showing us how to relate those examples to our own experiences and then giving us additional tools to practice, Lissa Coffey demonstrates how we can learn to actually appreciate whatever situation in our life has us 'stuck' with those unpleasant emotions that just won't leave, and how to make any changes we might want.

Lissa Coffey explains just what 'Closure' IS. We are told closure is not feeling grief. Closure takes us beyond grief to learning from change, even to look forward to it. In addition to recovering after loss or learning how to get 'over' and see the good in our old relationships, we are given tips for discovering new and better ones, as well as improving all the continuing relationships we have.

Most readers will find the term "Relationship" applies to a wider area than we had considered. This book is clearly written and shows how to relieve stresses and ill feelings in many more instances than we might expect, as well as opening up possibilities for new and wonderful relationships in the future.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A stellar book to move through and beyond!! March 12, 2010

By Christine Louise Hohlbaum

Format:Paperback

Closure and the Law of Relationship by Lissa Coffey is one of those books you'll want to add to your standing library. Why? Because life means change, and this book offers best practices to navigate the waters of relationships that are ever-changing. With actionable items and affirmations at the end of each chapter, this is not just a book for those going through divorce. CLOSURE examines ways in which we can move through our emotions on any issue to get beyond them. We may have accepted that our parents have divorced, that our best friend has moved to the other side of the Earth or that our kids have left the house for good. But do we really have `closure', that delicious state of full-blown acceptance and honoring of transition for what it truly is: the ability to grow beyond our perceived limits?

From the beginning, Lissa Coffey assures us that our true self never changes, even if our circumstances do. In the eleven chapters, she calls for a mind shift from regret and wanting to acceptance and celebration. In Chapter Three, she addresses friendship. Having come to love her for her amazing talent for selecting just the right quote, I found this one to be particularly eye-opening. It is one of the reasons we have such a hard time letting go of friendships that we wished would last forever. "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."~ Anais Nin

In essence, however, Lissa claims we never really lose our relationships. That is perhaps the key argument of the book. They simply change form. If you believe in past lives, you will come to realize you are simply meeting souls you have known all along.... If you have ever had a déjà vu moment with someone you've just met, you know what she means.

Another particularly helpful philosophy she presents is the notion of agreements. We meet people for a reason, based on an ancient agreement of which we might not even be aware. We come together, fulfill our purpose, and then move forward. She speaks of her miscarriages as an agreement her soul had with the baby's. What a tremendous way of thinking about tragedy and sorrow! The same thinking applies when one of your loved ones dies. Never flip, Lissa offers ways in which we can work through these feelings by allowing us to feel them completely. It is in the embrace of our negative emotions that our greatest fears are allayed.

We are reminded of our personal responsibility for finding closure. In Chapter Five "Changing Relationships" she writes: "Closure can't come from any other party. We can't look to `get' closure from another person. We can only find closure within ourselves." At the end of this key chapter, she lays out her five step process to gaining closure on any issue that has yet been resolved in our lives.

1. Recognition. It helps to identify what is truly going on within us.
2. Acceptance. We must realize what is. When we embrace it, it loses its power of us.
3. Understanding. We may not truly comprehend everything that has happened, but trust that everything happens for a reason.
4. Integration. As we embrace the change, we can integrate its newness into our lives.
5. Gratitude. We can increase our happiness levels up to 25% by merely expressing our thanks.

The next five chapters delve into each of the steps. The final chapter, "Coming Full Circle" offers ways to sustain our awareness of life's preciousness. This book is like a hug from your best friend. It will nurture your soul, life your spirits, and grant you the freedom to live the life you truly deserve. I highly recommend it!

Christine Louise Hohlbaum is the author of several books, including The Power of Slow: 101 Ways to Save Time in Our 24/7 World. Read more ›

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful

2.0 out of 5 stars Disappointing read June 12, 2010

By Diana S-D

Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase

I have read many books on the topic of relationships, creating our own destinies, etc. This book is more about personal stories of the author and all the famous people she knows and their pain than really about moving through your own pain of ending relationships. When she does finally get to outlining some steps for healing, they feel taken from all the other sources I've read - merely a listing of things to do in haste at the end of the chapters. The title is misleading. I was disappointed as the advertisement and reality of the book didn't line up. Plus, being a teacher, I found many errors in writing conventions and spelling. The editing was poor as well.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A book to heal by February 19, 2010

By Kate Dols

Format:Paperback

For anyone who has ever suffered a personal loss, and that means everyone, this book is a must read. As someone who has suffered many losses in my life, I only wish I had this book years ago.
Lissa Coffee understands the human connection and explains the relevance between loss and healing like a good friend.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars Good Book, but.. March 25, 2011

By MJ Gumayagay

Format:Kindle Edition|Amazon Verified Purchase

THIS REVIEW IS FOR THE KINDLE EDITION.

This is a good book, no doubt from the many positive reviews. But it is incredibly difficult to read on Kindle. It seems each sentence begin a new paragraph, and sometimes only one word sits on a line by itself and continues on the next line. The layout on Kindle is horrible. Extremely difficult to read.

Probably best to stick to the actual book/paper edition.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Well worth the read March 4, 2010

By Leslie S. Lewis

Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase

I have read several books on relationships.. This book spoke loudly, clear and simply put. There were a few defining "AHA" moments where I finally did "Get It"! I love when I "Get It"! There was a sense of relief when I was finished. I now, am able to see my relationships in a "relaxed new light" Another thing, The end of each chapter where you can jot notes.,.. great idea!.

Well thought out, well written, well done! Thank you..

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Live the Love your Long for in Relationship March 11, 2010

By Sarah Maria

Format:Paperback

If you are like most people, you can always use more love in your life. And relationships are one of the primary ways that we can experience this love. Unfortunately for many, relationships can often become a burden instead of a blessing, a source of anxiety instead of a source of peace. In her brilliant book, author Lissa Coffee sheds light into this often complex world of relating. Whether you are looking to find relief from a broken heart, or experience the beauty of a new relationship, this book will help show you how. Sarah Maria, author Love Your Body, Love Your Life, [...]