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Codes of Love: Rethink Your Family, Remake Your Life

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I found this book so helpful that I bought 20 plus copies for family and friends. I have new compassion for people, especially my family. It amazes me to now recognize how many ways I was given love that I did not recognize because it was not given the way I thought it should be shown. After many years of absence, I am going home for Christmas this year. The knowledge gained from Codes of Love has provided me with a new perspective. It will be a much more pleasant holiday. Thank you Mark Bryan.

Mark Bryan has great communication skills, and leads the reader step-by-step by the hand to a much more loving life. Meaning, reconciliation is a key emphasis in this excellent book. It's probably one of the best relationship and family books out there. Another book that goes hand-in-hand with this one as it also has this certain unique blend of a psychological and spiritual approach, and a book that has helped me tremendously to become a more loving and forgiving person as I also learned to appreciate myself and others in a much deeper way, is Dietmar Scherf's "I Love Me: Avoiding and Overcoming Depression" which is also available at Amazon.com

Thank you for this wonderful book of reflection aids!

I have spent a great deal of time reviewing my memories, and have thought "shame on me" for some of the narrow minded ideas that I have held so close.

This book has helped me see arguements in my past in a new light. I have already approached and settled some things with others in close pursuit.

I intend to read portions of this book aloud to my children (3 teens), I believe that it will help them start early on the road to healthy adult relationships with family members and elders.

Thank you again,

Teresa Johnson

We have all learned how dysfunctional our families are. This book could put Jerry Springer out of business. Instead of adding to our favorite cultural pastime of blame, these intelligent and well researched chapters build one upon the other to evoke compassion, dignity and love. Mark Bryan shares his own very personal story and takes us on a journey of rediscovering the love that shaped and literally sustains us all. Reading this book, I have experienced many wonderful memories I completely forgot about. He provides case studies and exercises that really help reframe things into a whole new meaning. I would recommend this book to anyone who would like to be in a better relationship with someone close to them. Even if it is a loved one no longer around or one so difficult you can't be in contact. Studying this material and applying it to my family has already brought us closer in many ways. The best part is I am seeing how loved and lovable I really am, and that feels good.

This book is full of wise and fresh advice. It inspired me to head home for the holidays with a better attitude, and the techniques I have tried on my family so far really worked. Highly recommend.

I highly recommend "Codes of Love." It is evocative and beautifully written. I have used the exercises, techniques and ideas to deepen and clarify my own family relationships. The effect has been to focus my attention and empathy on the fabulously comic tragedy of my family's history from the perspective of each protagonist. I am released from the burden of their problems and I feel free to create my own life story. I look foward to my using the book in my therapy practice.

Re-enter your family and find your own true loving nature with Codes of Love by Mark Bryan. Mark uses his own family life and the diverse lives of many clients and friends to help you change your personal family recipes from leftovers to exciting new meals that are deeply nurturing, satisfying and actually possible to enjoy.
Mark's carfully prepared program merges passion with persistence in order for you to digest your past and emerge in the present with new compassion for yourself and the other members of your family.
I personally used Codes of Love to graft into my being Mark's substantial experience in mending families. With Mark's vision by my side, I was able to find the courage, humor and new ways of viewing my past in order to enjoy and reconnect with my precious parents. I had been completely separate from my father (I thought) and almost totally separate from my mother for over twenty years. Mark showed me that they were actually never far from my heart or my mind.
During those twenty years Mark Bryan's wisdom paid various visits to my creative awareness through his books and through a one afternoon seminar in San Francisco. In book form, Mark Bryan and Julia Cameron came into my life first with the amazing Artist's Way and then with the profoundly transformative Artist's Way at Work. In the fall of 2002 my domestic partner came home with Codes of Love for me to use and hopefully help me find a better way to understand and forgive my family and myself.
Mark and his powerful books have brought me back into a full and loving contact with the only parents that I will ever have. Using Mark's words and work to reconnect with my parents has also set me free to engage in my own projects with more confidence, determination and respect for myself.
I sincerely hope that you can also use Codes of Love to further understand your past, free yourself in the present and rejoin your primal pack.
My parents are 80 and 81 and I also have a niece and nephew who are 10 and 13 -- we all needed to come together as an interactive and loving family before it was too late. Mark Bryan and Codes of Love were the ticket that eventually helped us to create the healing, to let go and to make merriment again with each other.
Working with the principles and exercises in Codes of Love gives us the capacity to strengthen our connections with ourselves, our partners,our families and with our worldwide families as well.

I loved Codes of Love, and I think it's a terrific message for the vast majority of people whose parents weren't monsters, just imperfect human beings. I think when most people become parents, they become more forgiving of their own mother and father. Mark Bryan points out eloquently how you don't have to whitewash your family history, but by understanding how your parents got the way they are, you feel better yourself. Tedmed is clinging to victimhood!

Mark Bryan is my husband's cousin. I saw him on Oprah talking about his book and had to get it. However, it was out of stock. Mark sent me an autographed copy and I read it in a day. It was so helpful to me to learn to deal with some members of my own family, but more importantly with my husband's family. Now that I have the truth on where my husband "comes from", it is easier for me to understand how and why he thinks the way he does...that also goes for the rest of his immediate family. I am going to have my husband read this to help him work out his problems with his parents.

It was very touching and loving to hear about the extended family that I have not ever met. Jim and Mark's grandmother, Minnie, was an exceptional woman, and I can relate to her in many ways. I admire Mark for all he has done and for all he has accomplished.

He has been so supportive of us, but this book has really "tied the loose ends up" for me. The exercises at the end of each chapter are really thought provoking. I began to remember memories that I would have thought that I had forgotten forever. It is nice to know that they are there, and now I can incorporate them in with the "bad" so that the "bad" isn't that horrible. I feel that I have grown and matured, and am ready to Re-Frame and Remake my life. He is right...you can go home again.

Buy a copy for yourself AND every member of your family