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Come Here/go Away

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_Come Here, Go Away_ is a book for adults who find that they are unable to have intimate relationships. It seems to go a little too far in that the author attempts to cover both people who *have* relationships but aren't able to communicate fully with their partner, and people who haven't had relationships for many years or have never had a relationship. And I feel these are two quite different problems. It also deals with diverse issues like drug addiction and memories of childhood sexual abuse... like I said, it tries to do too much.

What's good in this book, if you're a person who hasn't had a relationship in years, is that it uncovers the lies you may tell yourself and the games you may play to avoid being close to other people. It also tells how to overcome these difficulties. If you're a person who hasn't had an intimate relationship in years (and over 1/3 of the U.S. adult population hasn't, by the way) then this book is definitely worth reading.

This book is very profound! I read it when it first came came out in 1992. I was in a relationship at the time and I knew it was the wrong one , but stayed anyhow. After reading this book, there were paragraphs that were such eye openers! I lost the book in a move and have always wanted another copy, so I am grateful I was still able to find one on Amazon.com! The book helped me to understand clearly the relationship I was in and what the problems were and why I shouldn't procrastinate anymore in leaving. Problems I didn't have the answers to! I found myself underling many areas in this book that so related to what I was going through. Some mine and some his! When we are in an unhealthy relationship, we don't always understand why we stay. Through reading this book, I also discovered that I was also afraid to commit, but never realized it at the time! Years later I found myself quoting things out of this book to others who were commitment phobics. The book left an ever-lasting impact on me and I hope it will for you to!