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Too Fluffy, April 24, 2011
This review is from: Commitment Phobia Workbook: How to overcome fear of commitment (Paperback)
This book was trying to take a complex adult problem and solve using a 3rd grade level workbook style approach. Its sort of a choose your own adventure to work you through your commitment issues. Problem is that it offers no real insight. The book is very short and has almost no content either. I was unimpressed and got much more value from another book I purchased on this topic
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5.0 out of 5 stars
Cute little book, December 13, 2011
This review is from: Commitment Phobia Workbook: How to overcome fear of commitment (Paperback)
This is my first amazon review ever, because I didn't find it fair that this cute little book got such a bad rating by the first reviewer (although i get the point, i just don't think it should come as a surprise). Admitted, it is short and not a full-blown psychological treatise, but that is exactly what it says in the description. So, I want to take up the cudgels for this one. Only look at the cover: the picture is cute, full of humor and with a good heart. Both in the picture and in the content, the stress is put on the relationship (it's a workbook!). So, by its very nature, it presents you with the fact that you're not alone in this, but that there are actually three or four "players": you, your partner, the themes of commitment and commitment-fear, plus the support available, here in form of the workbook. By it very nature, it gently points the fearful person towards what is there to support him. I love the concept.
Also, as you may or may not know from experience or being a partner, commitment phobics are great in thinking complicated thoughts: "well, i love my partner, but combined with her current job and the negative side-feelings that triggers in me because i once met someone bad who had a similar job, and that's why i think i probably might have to cancel that long-planned vacation together.." and so on and so on. So, what this book does is not break it down to 3rd grade level, but deliberately supply a platform and working setting in which the commitment phobic is not over-stimulated by thought and complexity and hence cannot use overly complex musings to justify his feeling for "needing to get out". Everything seems so well thought-out: the chairs are empty, so that one, with a sense of humor, can relax into the fact that there is space for one's personal feelings rather than being confronted with the subject matter *and* the two personalities. The book is hence in many ways more than an all-too-simple breakdown of things. It's a way to connect with a partner in a playful, humorous way while at the same time working together through an emotionally difficult topic. It's very open about what it offers, so there is no reason to be disappointed, or not also buying [buy used, save a tree] a longer and more psychological or cerebral book. I really liked the idea, so a full 5 stars from me with the, maybe unnecessary warning, that this is just what it claims it is: a short, humorous workbook for two partners to tackle a difficult issue while reconnecting with a little help. In that sense, the book is not afraid to commit to what it promised :)
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