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The Complete Idiot's Guide to Assertiveness

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I have been fearful of asserting myself at work for quite a while now, but also recognize that I have lost out in some cases because I haven't been able to effectively assert myself. With this book, I feel much more confidant. There are lots of examples including specific dialogue on what to say in certain instances. As the author maintains, asserting yourself doesn't mean a nag or being overly aggressive or being someone that others don't want to be around. Instead it means being effectively assertive which is standing up for your rights without trampling on the rights of others. Who could argue with that?

I was tired of being a doormat at work, so I picked up this book. Thankfully, it's loaded with types of situations in which I find myself and offers useful strategies for making my thoughts and opinions known. The author gives specific examples and specific language, which I like a lot. I've read some of the previous reviews, and I'm not sure what their beef is. There's more than enough information and strategies in this book to satisfy any novice sort of reader.

This book offers comprehensive information on how to speak up for yourself in a variety of circumstances. If somebody is deficient in these areas, it never hurts to learn new skills or return to the basics. My favorite chapters were the ones on being assertive at work and with your boss and with your coworkers. I also liked the ones on dealing with the government and being an assertive consumer. Those two chapters are probably the most valuable in the whole book.

I decided to take a chance on this book and it paid off. I like it because it starts with a basic assumption - that it's harder and harder to get the attention of others because everyone else has so much competing for their attention - and builds upon that. I think the chapters are laid out in logical fashion. Some of the chapters didn't apply to me at all, so I just skipped them, but there's a lot else in the book that does apply, and so I thought it was worth while. The chapter's on increasing your confidence are extremely beneficial and the chapters on dealing with people you work with are maybe the best on the topic that I've seen. I'm glad a bought this!

I like this book a lot. I looked around and there is not too much else on the topic that is presented in such a friendly, easy to digest manner. The boxes with the little characters that run throughout the book first seemed like they were in the way, but afterwards it turned out that they made it easier to get through each chapter. You read a couple of paragraphs, then you turn to one of the boxes for some tip or instruction and you find yourself thinking about what the author is saying and how you might actually take him up on the advise. Overall, I would highly recommend this book because it really does get you into action and if you are serious enough, you can assert yourself in many situations where you thought otherwiese.

This book has given me the confidence to try some things at work that I wouldn't have otherwise. There are a couple people at work who just think that they can run roughshod over me, and I suppose I've let them do it. This book gives actual sentences and phrases you can use when somebody is confronting you. I've tried some and they seem to work. Also, I like the fact that there are special sections on assertiveness for women, and people in special situations. A lot of books on assertiveness, I think, just offer basic assertiveness principles in general but don't address the specifics of a particular reader's situation. This book focuses on assertiveness at work, with your relatives, with friends and so forth. So, you can keep using it for the different situations in your life.

If you are already good at asserting yourself then maybe you wouldn't need this book. Most people I think do need this book because there are so many circumstances in life, not just at work, but also with relatives, out in your community, or wherever where not speaking up at the right time and in the right way has its costs. I recommend this book because it offers many, many insights on how and when to assert yourself and even when not to assert yourself.

I read the author's previous book on managing stress, so I decided to take a chance on this one. I like it because it starts with a basic assumption - that it's harder and harder to get the attention of others because everyone else has so much competing for their attention - and builds upon that. I think the chapters are laid out in logical fashion. Some of the chapters didn't apply to me at all, so I just skipped them, but there's a lot else in the book that does apply, and so I thought it was worth while.

I love the way these books are put together. Although I do feel the name is a misnomer, I feel the name should read "the Average Persons Guild". All in all a good read with insite & good examples.Also makes for good reference. Thanx

This book is, truly, a complete guide to the topic of assertiveness.
There are issues in here that I haven't seen in other books. The author
maintains quite a conversational style and keeps the chapters light and
peppy with humorous remarks and interesting anecdotes. The book is kind of
on the long side, but it does cover a wide variety of topics related to
assertiveness, so it's justified. Although I didn't want anyone else to
know I was reading it, I'm sure glad I did read it. If you have any issues
around the area of assertiveness, I think that you could probably benefit
seriously from this book.