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"It turns out that if you're good at human relationships, you're likely to do pretty well in life. Because when you're high in social intelligence, doors will start to open for you!" ~ pg. 10

"Enhancing Your Social IQ" explains how we start learning at birth and then adapt and change to be more social creatures throughout our lives. This book is literally a refresher course in how to be a more sociable human. Throughout the chapters there is advice on how to be more empathetic, how to become more assertive and how to reduce shyness.

Each chapter has a unique self-test and some of the answers are funny. By taking a test you can see if you are an introvert, extrovert or ambivert. There are also tests to see if you would make a good parent or if you are destined for career success.

I liked the helpful advice on how to avoid toxic relationships. While Gregory P. Korgeski says that SI (social intelligence) can help you live longer there isn't a chapter on positive aging. The end of the book mostly concerns itself with office politics, managing people and conflict control.

The chapter on marriage is after the chapter on sex and mostly concerns itself with conflict resolution. No discussion of romance or sex within marriage is presented. The chapter on sex was strange because it follows a chapter on deepening relationships and then gives advice as if you were picking up someone new. I'm almost surprised that the chapter on parenting didn't come before the chapter on marriage and right after the chapter on sex. But that is just my opinion on the matter.

One of the sentences that surprised me was: "...social isolation and the lack of intimacy is statistically as dangerous to your health as becoming a heavy smoker!" If you are a loner then there is also a chapter about how to be more outgoing so you connect with more people and therefore have the chance at more intimacy.

For the most part this book was an enjoyable read and I even laughed out loud a few times. Gregory P. Korgeski's writing style is warm and inviting and this book has a lot of good advice that will make living on this earth more enjoyable.

~The Rebecca Review
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I'm a psychologist myself, and I was interested in fellow psychologist and author Gregory Korgeski's take on how to improve social intelligence, or how one relates to others. This book is from "The Complete Idiot's Guide to..." series, which means that it is filled with things like self-quizzes, text boxes with definitions and "SI Tips," and can't miss "Caution!" graphics which contain additional important information. Personally, I don't like this style, as I feel it overly dumbs down the material, but others may appreciate the book's easy-to-read format.

The book is broken down into four main parts. In Parts 1 and 2, Korgeski offers some basic yet generally helpful information about understanding oneself and one's own social functioning. Most importantly, he explains the differences between being introverted versus being shy and/or socially anxious. In Part 3, Korgeski turns to the topic of Personal Relationships and Social Intelligence. I thought the first chapter in this section, on friendships, provided the most beneficial information of the entire book, as it focused on concrete strategies for connecting with others, starting friendships, and then deepening these relationships.

At this point, however, I think the book starts to try to do a bit too much by becoming too broad in its scope. Korgeski goes on from friendships to talking about romantic relationships, which makes sense, but he continues with a chapter on sex and then moves on to other types of relationships (eg, marriage and children). Furthermore, the self-quizes cease to be sheerly informative and instead begin to have an obviously appropriate correct or "SI" answer. The final section of this book, Part 4, centers around work relationships. Although there is some useful information here as well, it is hard for me to believe that the same person who needs help with making friends also needs advice on being a better manager at work; it seemed like this part belonged in another book.

If you are looking for a very simple guide to help you learn more about your own social functioning as well as to provide you with some basic strategies for how to change, you may find this book to be useful. However, be prepared to discover that much of the subject matter may not apply to your situation or may even be too elementary.
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on January 19, 2009
This is a great book written with such an easy-to-read style and language that I find myself learning a whole lot without getting a brain ache from complex psychological terms and theories. The "tips" and "cautions" in the chapters are invaluable as are the self quizzes.

I have recommended the book to others who are in recovery, since so much of what we need to learn is how to constructively relate to people again and manage a world without our substance of choice.

One of the joys of reading the book is that someone finally explained how it is possible to be an extrovert while, at the same time, being painfully shy. I always thought the two were mutually exclusive, thereby making understanding of self much more difficult.

I highly recommend it to all - not just folks in recovery.
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on June 17, 2011
I received this book in a very timely manner. It's a great book thus far and I recommend it to any person whom wants to become more socially aware in today's world.
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on February 25, 2016
good book
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on October 26, 2010
Thanks for the fast and efficient delivery service. I havent read the book yet but quickly had an overview. It looks great and includes many great information. cant wait to find the time to read it

Thanks again
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on July 20, 2010
This book was a disappointment to me, despite the speedy delivery and the pristine condition. I got nothing from this book, and had reasonably high expectations of some useful material.
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