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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
on January 31, 2011
This book is fantastic. A friend recommended it, and I'm so glad I picked it up. It is not a preachy self-help book at all. It's incredibly well-written, thoroughly relevant, and I find that my interactions after reading even a few pages are dramatically better.
While I was reading the book, I thought mostly about my personal relationships, and the book had immediate impacts on my relationships with the people around me, especially my husband. What surprised me was that I found that after reading even a few chapters of this book, my business relationships all improved noticeably. I have sat through business meetings recently literally amazed as some often-difficult clients have become the clients you dream about having.
Your marriage, personal relationships, business relationships, even relationships with total strangers all stand to benefit once you've read this book.
I bought copies for my close friends and highly recommend it to everyone.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
Monica Strobel has written a book about the obvious: keep kindness in mind in every aspect of your life and the resultant shared compliments will change your world. The concept may be obvious, but after reading Strobel's concise and user-friendly book the immediate reaction is 'why haven't I been doing this all along?' Straightforward, simple books such as this provide the mortar we all need to paste together out crumbling world, and Strobel has the gift to make it all so easy and immediately available for making life kinder.

One chapter deals with '9 qualities that make compliments so nourishing: generosity, gratitude, acknowledgement, appreciation, esteem, respect, hope, acceptance, and paying it forward - the ingredients for each of these the reader should glean form the book. Another chapter discusses eight ways compliments are more powerful than you think. And other chapters deal with the quality of compliments - how being honest, and generous and sincere in offering your praise. Once she has outlined her philosophy of the importance of complimenting she extends her discussion with how not only will the concept of complimenting strangers and salespeople and those we happen to encounter in a day brighten the lives of others- she also describes how this practice will enliven relationships with personal partners, with job compatriots, and the sense of well being and happiness in the world.

This is an uplifting book that reminds us of manners and the importance of noticing little things in those around us, and making it a point to share our noticing with a compliment. Grady Harp, April 11
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
Strobel's main premise is hard to argue with, of course we all like to receive compliments, they make us feel better and the resulting positive self-esteem is a valuable trait. Furthermore, people that give out compliments are far more pleasurable to be around, the emotional sunshine that they emit brightens the world around them.
However, the problem is that if it is overdone, when compliments are all that is received, the recipient simply will not receive the criticism necessary for growth and learning. It is a common theme among very successful people that they learned far more from their failures than they ever did from their successes. In fact, they credit their experiences with failure as being the primary reason why they were successful. Receiving compliments for everything that you do, particularly the small failures, generates a false perspective that generally leads to greater failures in the future. These larger failures are then very difficult to recover from.
Therefore, in reading this book and thinking through Strobel's advice, my regular mental chant was, "Compliments are a good thing as long as it is not overdone or artificial." For example, on page 35 there is an ad for a `Cool Compliment Tool', a scale that will give you a compliment whenever you step on the scale. The sample comments listed are "You're perfect", "You're hot" and "You're gorgeous." It is hard to see how devices like this can really lead to positive self-esteem, for the person receiving the comment knows it is programmed rather than real.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on March 7, 2011
A friend recommended this new book because I am a cynic and seldom pass out compliments. I had a hard time squashing the cynic while reading and that's why I gave it 3 stars.

I think there is a gap between giving compliments and giving meaningful compliments. While I do not disagree that the world can be a better place if people take the time to be more positive, I also think for some of us, it can be an uphill battle.

I would recommend this book to anyone who needs to improve their relationships with others and who may be looking for tools to make an attitude adjustment. It's a good read and the principles can be applied to your everyday life. Another reviewer initially thought it may have been "a light read", and it could be if you took it that way. I guess it could also be a life changer if you were ready to make a change. Perhaps if you get into the habit of seeing the good, sincere compliments will come more easily and be a part of your nature.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
Are you looking for a simple but effective way to change the dynamics of an important relationship? A compliment may be just what you need. In The Compliment Quotient, Monica Strobel shows us how and why compliments can be so powerful in our interactions with others.

Compliments don't just help others. They can help us just as much, since giving a compliment also makes us happy. But giving the right kinds of compliments makes a huge difference. Avoiding flattery and pinpointing something specific to compliment are important. And sometimes the hardest thing we can do is accept a compliment from others gracefully.

Strobel provides helpful information on proper complimentology techniques in a well-organized fashion, relying on detailed bullet-point lists to explain her ideas. She also shows us great examples of how -- and how NOT -- to compliment others. If you're looking to improve relationships with friends, family and co-workers, give compliments a try, and be sure to pick up The Compliment Quotient for guidance.

Reviewer: Alice Berger
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
on May 3, 2011
You look nice today. You did a great job on that project. Wow, that was a great dinner. The house looks awesome. All of these are compliments and many of us have heard them from time to time. Truth be told, we don't hear compliments as often as we should. Most of the time we wait for that big time moment to offer compliments but in "The Compliment Quotient" we see the true power of compliments in everyday life. As we read we soon learn that giving compliments is not only uplifting to the person we give it to but it also provides a boost to us.

"The Compliment Quotient" delivers more then just why we should give compliments to those we come into contact with. It explains: how to give a compliment; when to give a complaint; the benefits of giving compliments and how to take a compliment when we receive one.

"The Compliment Quotient" is a roadmap intended to help navigate us through the misconceptions of compliments and enable us to look for opportunities to give more compliments on a daily basis. Monica Strobel expresses the importance and need for compliments in today's world throughout this book. Her desire to motivate and inspire us to up-lift those in need can be felt on every page of "The Compliment Quotient." The experience shared by Strobel and her friends provide validation and support to the power of compliments.

"The Compliment Quotient" provides that little nudge of positive thinking that, at some time or another, we all need. I recommend this motivational resource to anyone who must deal with hardship and/or difficulties in their life. That, in my opinion, is everyone.

Storms in life will come and go but we have the ability to provide something positive and up-lifting to everyone around us - every day.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
on March 18, 2011
The Compliment Quotient is so appropriate, practical and needed at many levels. In my work with companies, I have heartfelt conversations with leaders about the importance of creating a culture in which employees can perform at their best. Building a sense of connection is critical. When we reach out to people with a compliment we establish a powerful connection (I bet you remember how great it feels when someone compliments you!). Like Monica says, it is so easy! As human beings we all have feelings - whether we want to admit that or not! The Compliment Quotient offers the perfect guidance to help you build better relationships through the art of the compliment!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
on June 18, 2013
This is a pleasant little book that reinforces the notion that it really is better to give than receive (compliments, in this case). Among the helpful ideas that stood out for me were ways to compliment total strangers that you may meet while waiting in a line and how to politely accept such compliments if you don't wish the conversation to proceed any further. Other chapters address complimenting family and friends, with frequent related passages from other writers (attributed) interspersed. All in all, I think anyone could gain something positive from reading this book.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
on February 27, 2011
When I began to read The Compliment Quotient, I expected a light read to "uplift." I quickly found myself pulling out my pen and underlining passages I wanted to quote later. This book is practical, simple, and fun, but also provides significant concrete content that will absolutely have you thinking differently. Enjoy!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
on February 17, 2011
I truly enjoyed reading this book. It's very well written, informative and really helped me in my relationships. I highly recommend this book. Two thumbs up!
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