Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor: How to Sift Through All the Games Players to Find Mr. Right [Paperback]

William July II (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 23, 2003

The popular relationship guru blows the whistle on perpetual bachelors, with wise words for women seeking nuptial-minded men.

A male radio host once chided William July for being so open about the playboy mentality. “Man, stop giving away all of our secrets to the women,” the host said. But July, who has been happily married for six years, believes that this kind of secrecy and game playing is harmful to everyone. A self-proclaimed former “General in the Bachelor Corps,” July now openly reveals the tricks of the bachelor trade to help women find guys who are genuinely ready for commitment. Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor delivers no-nonsense dialogue on:

• The three stages of bachelorhood, and how to tell whether your date will ever graduate past groom-a-phobia
• How to hold your man accountable and stand your ground—without making him feel trapped
• Overcoming cultural cues that make men see marriage as a life in chains
• Where to find your future groom
• How to translate a bachelor’s double-talk
• Getting past the stereotypes of divorced men, “nice guys,” and how men feel about being stepfathers

A must read for every single woman who wonders what her guy is really thinking, Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor is full of revelations and rewarding advice.

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The popular relationship guru blows the whistle on perpetual bachelors, with wise words for women seeking nuptial-minded men.
A male radio host once chided William July for being so open about the playboy mentality. ?Man, stop giving away all of our secrets to the women,? the host said. But July, who has been happily married for six years, believes that this kind of secrecy and game playing is harmful to everyone. A self-proclaimed former ?General in the Bachelor Corps,? July now openly reveals the tricks of the bachelor trade to help women find guys who are genuinely ready for commitment. Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor delivers no-nonsense dialogue on:? The three stages of bachelorhood, and how to tell whether your date will ever graduate past groom-a-phobia? How to hold your man accountable and stand your ground?without making him feel trapped? Overcoming cultural cues that make men see marriage as a life in chains? Where to find your future groom? How to translate a bachelor?s double-talk? Getting past the stereotypes of divorced men, ?nice guys,? and how men feel about being stepfathersA must read for every single woman who wonders what her guy is really thinking, Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor is full of revelations and rewarding advice.

About the Author

A speaker and motivator who has been extensively featured in national print and broadcast media, WILLIAM JULY II is the author of Brothers, Lust, and Love, as well as Understanding the Tin Man and The Hidden Lover. He lives in Austin, Texas, with his wife.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Broadway; 1 edition (December 23, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0767911075
• ISBN-13: 978-0767911078
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.3 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,822,456 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars You have to keep re-reading this book!, June 1, 2005

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Lynda (Detroit, MI) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor: How to Sift Through All the Games Players to Find Mr. Right (Paperback)

This book was very helpful. It basically talked about the many excuses guys come up with, and the way we HELP THEM continue on with their excuses.

I say that you must keep re-reading this book, because us women need a constant reminder about the games men play. Keep it under your bed, so you can read it again when your guy starts acting up.

I say this is a must buy! With this book, it all becomes clear.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Keep Your Pride, September 9, 2004

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Jeaves (Kentucky) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor: How to Sift Through All the Games Players to Find Mr. Right (Paperback)

This book does an excellent job of explaining "players" to women and the ways in which they work. After reading this book, I feel confident that I can go out with men and ONLY allow them to treat me the way I want to be treated. This book has helped me understand the minds of men who I've dated whether they were a player or not. I have had my dealings with men who have commitment issues and this book explains that men will not commit until they are ready - no matter how great of a girl you are or how great of a guy he is.

In addition, it teaches you how to deal with men who *may* be playing you - and retain your self respect and/or pride. This book does have a few suggestions on how to get a man to "settle" down or how to tell if he ever will, but it's not meant to teach you how to reel in a guy who is reluctant to commitment. Rather, it teaches you how to tell if they are ready or not so you won't waste your time and can continue dating around! I gave it a 5 only because I am a fairly tough critic.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Searching for Mr. Right, February 1, 2004

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This review is from: Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor: How to Sift Through All the Games Players to Find Mr. Right (Paperback)

Is finding Mr. Right turning into a trail of Mr. Wrongs? Do marriage and family seem unattainable? Does your significant other always have an excuse for not popping the question? These are just some of the questions that frustrate many single women who have marriage on their minds.

CONFESSIONS OF AN EX-BACHELOR: HOW TO SIFT THROUGH ALL THE GAME PLAYERS TO FIND MR. RIGHT reveals what goes on inside the minds of men when women and commitment issues are involved. Each chapter seems to dissect the stages of bachelorhood and shares why men have a need for freedom and how they view women in general. But the author does not stop there, he gives women a wealth of suggestions on how to meet men and ideas on how to keep them interested. He has also included journal writing activities and surveys that force women to look at themselves to determine what they want in a mate and what they will not tolerate in a relationship.

CONFESSIONS OF AN EX-BACHELOR: HOW TO SIFT THROUGH ALL THE GAME PLAYERS TO FIND MR.RIGHT is informative and thought provoking. The author speaks from experience and what he writes will capture reader's attention.

Reviewed by Simone A. Hawks
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers