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Confidence: Overcoming Low Self-Esteem, Insecurity, and Self-Doubt Hardcover – October 17, 2013
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—Laura Vanderkam, author of All The Money In The World and What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast
“Compelling and zippy.”
“I can't remember the last time I finished reading a book and wanted to applaud. Confidence is a life-changing book—it will convince you, through brilliant arguments and an abundance of compelling evidence, that much of the advice you've been given on how to be successful is worse than useless. In fact, it's been holding you back. Before you read anything else, read Confidence.”
—Heidi Grant Halvorson, PhD author of Focus and Succeed
“A provocative work, an excursion into the role of confidence at work, in relationships, and the impact on leading a healthy life. Dr. Chamorro-Premuzic repeatedly challenges our beliefs, which makes for a stimulating read.”
—The Globe and Mail
“Maybe you have always intuited, as most sensitive people do, that all the talk about boosting self-confidence and raising self-esteem is not the answer to success or happiness. This charming and thoroughly fact-based book will give you the evidence to back your wisdom, that being kind and competent works best.”
—Elaine Aron, PhD, author of The Highly Sensitive Person and The Undervalued Self
“Interesting and transformative thinking that will not only have you accepting your inner critic and low self-confidence, but embracing it.... Chamorro-Premuzic writes in a kind, gentle, yet authoritative tone that will inspire the “insecure” reader and retire the over-confident ones....a new and enlightened perspective...This book is required reading for any professional.”
—Small Business Trends
“An expose of the dark side of confidence. I absolutely loved it, because it shatters so much incorrect but conventional wisdom with key scientific research.”
—Matthew E. May, Rise Networks
“Chamorro-Premuzic has rethought confidence – shattering myths about what generates confidence but also reassessing low confidence as a positive attribute. A fresh, more balanced, approach, presented in a well-researched, accessible, and, indeed, enjoyable format. I like this book: a lot.”
—Robert Kelsey, author of What’s Stopping You?
“Buy and read this book. Give it to a young person...I dare say I’m confident it could turn a life of miserable self-doubt into a life of empowerment.”
—Doug Michaelides, Vice President and Practice Leader, Sales and Marketing, for Stratford Managers Corporation
“Persuasively argues that we’ve taken our culture of self-assurance and self-promotion too far.”
—Harvard Business Review
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In this context, I am reminded of Bud Tribble's comments about Steve Jobs, quoted by Walter Isaacson in his biography of the insanely great innovator: "Steve has a reality distortion field. In his presence, reality is malleable. He can convince anyone of practically anything. It wears off when he's not around, but it makes it hard to have realistic schedules." According to Apple co-founder, Steve Wozniak, "His reality distortion is when he has an illogical vision of the future, such as telling me that I could design the BREAKOUT game in just a few days. You realize that it can't be true, but he somehow makes it true." Debi Coleman recalls, "He reminded me of Rasputin. He laser-beamed in on you and didn't blink. It didn't matter if he was serving purple Kool-Aid. You drank it." Isaacson adds, "At the root of the reality distortion field was Jobs's belief that the rules didn't apply to him." In this and in countless other respects, Steve Jobs was indeed one-of-a-kind.
For most of us, Chamorro-Premuzic asserts -- and I agree -- that we should not aspire to have high confidence, but to have high competence. If we focus on achievement, it will increase self-confidence naturally diminishing low self-esteem, insecurity, and self-doubt.Read more ›
What I really found confusing though, is that the author seems to contradict his own theory in several points. But I'm inclined to attribute this to his writing skills which could definitely improve.
However, I was very puzzled to read that after lengthy explanations on how overconfident people are a turn-off to others especially when they can not back-up their confidence by competence, I should fake confidence in order to apear more competent than I really am. How does this fit together? Then yet, I shouldn't overdo it, so 7.4 fake confidence is ok, but 8.9 is not, or is faked confidence that is not backed-up by competence better than true confidence that is not backed-up by confidence and can confidence not backed-up by competence be true confidence at all? I'm sorry, but I think the author needs to get his definitions straight her, it's too confusing and that's a shame because his message is otherwise great.
Another point that left a nasty taste in my mouth are his ideas on the reason and meaning of depression, who ever has been so unfortunate to be clinically depressed or had someone close be severly depressed knows that this is a very serious and deathly illness and by no means something one should be happy about or embrace. I personally know several young people who commited suicide after long and severe periods of depression and I really doubt that this is an evolutionary advantage.Read more ›
The author argues that having confidence have detrimental effects in all areas of life. He claims that confident people are all arrogant, have distorted views of reality, and overvalues oneself. As a result, they are delusional risk takers with low motivation to improve. In fact, the author compares confidence to the effects of being drunk. This is simply ridiculous!
Next, the author tells us to embrace having lower confidence because we experience more anxiety and will therefore protect ourselves from embarrassing or dangerous situations. To quote the book, "the less confident you are, the more pessimistic your prediction of your performance will be, so it should trigger even higher levels of preparation" (p131). Unfortunately, as the author points out "in a situation in which you forecast failure, you will experience anxiety and interpret is as a sign that you should try to elude the event" (p36). How will anyone with low confidence succeed if s/he never even tries?!
The author claims that "Reputation is King" because how people perceive you is often a better measure of success than your own self evaluation. This ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy where the more people think you are competent, the more competent you become. Since "people are generally inept at assessing their own or others' social skills" (p135) and "high confidence is often mistaken for competence" (p101), then shouldn't we all hope to display lots of self-confidence?
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is a life-changing book. Very thought-provoking and well-researched. The more confident you are the most incompetent you become. Read morePublished 4 months ago by Jmv
The premise of this book is that we should focus on increasing our competence rather than trying to become more self confident. I think especially this pertains to medicine. Read morePublished 7 months ago by katarinaism
The author clearly has no idea what it's like to suffer from debilitating low self-esteem and self-efficacy. Read morePublished 9 months ago by R. Al Thor
This book is for someone who's mildly not confident... It is definitely not for someone who's depressed or with low self-esteem. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Nyoo
I don't really get into self-help books, and this book in a way tries to make itself out to be a different kind of self-help book. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Parola138
Awesome book that will have you rethinking where "real confidence" comes from and looking at "over confident" people in a whole new way.Published 12 months ago by Doug Turner
Great book. Changes your view on how to resolve your issues. Makes you more wiser than 90% of the world.Published 13 months ago by Carlos Vasquez
Excellent insight into the misconceptions we have about confidence vis-à-vis competence. I will take competence over confidence every time.Published 13 months ago by Dennis Manelli
Some day I would like to find a book that is somewhere in between the "self help mantras" and whatever this was supposed to be. Read morePublished 15 months ago by Leesa Johnson