The strategy for raising children which is presented in this book is based on emotional coaching - learning to respond appropriately to a child's feelings - and is designed to promote self-esteem in children. Examples of children's lives in the family and in school are included.
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"We understand far more about how self-esteem can be damaged in childhood--through neglect or abuse--than we do about how it can be fostered, preserved, and reinforced," author Terri Apter writes in The Confident Child: Raising Children to Believe in Themselves. Apter aims to help parents recognize problems in a child's "self theory" (a child's self-image and ideas about her potential), and to help the child "sustain positive attitudes and correct destructive ones." In clear, concise prose, The Confident Child focuses on the age span from 5 to 15, the time in life when self-esteem and confidence are at their most delicate and are the most sensitive to nurturing. Chapters cover assessing a child's self-esteem, being an imperfect parent without ruining your child's life (managing anger, grief, and disappointment), working within the delicate balance of discipline (teaching your child to be ashamed of her behavior but not of herself), success and failure at school, the effects of sibling rivalry, social confidence, and the early teen years. Much of the material in The Confident Child is original; Apter, a social psychologist and researcher and author of Altered Loves, conducted a five-year study that is the basis of this compassionate and practical book. Yet Apter also owes a debt to the works of Erik Erickson, Daniel Goleman, and others. --Ericka Lutz
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“Convincing, well-written and truly helpful . . . suggests concrete ways for parents to help their children like themselves and feel confident.” (Publishers Weekly )
“Terri Apter convinces the reader that she is on our side. . . . Her wisdom is tempered by warmth and a rueful acknowledgment that she hasn’t always got it right herself, which is totally disarming.” (Mary Hoffman, author of Amazing Grace ) --This text refers to the Paperback edition.
“Terri Apter convinces the reader that she is on our side. . . . Her wisdom is tempered by warmth and a rueful acknowledgment that she hasn’t always got it right herself, which is totally disarming.” (Mary Hoffman, author of Amazing Grace ) --This text refers to the Paperback edition.
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I finally found a parenting book that doesn't preach to me, or give 'quick-fix' answers. Instead, "The Confident Child...", helps me understand myself, and why I parent the way I do. It helps me to understand my daughter's emotions better which in turn helps me help her. I especially like the "How to be an Imperfect Parent Without Ruining Your Childs Life" chapter. Wonderful suggestions, that are working in the real world. With the assistance of this book Terri Apter has helped me pinpoint why my daughter's self-esteem issues arise. She's not the angry perfectionist I thought she was. Now I know where to start!
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Excellent pointers on how to boost your childs self confidence and performance as a result.
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This book was first used in my Mother-Child Matrix graduate course in the Child Psych program of my school, and I soaked it up like a sponge. You can't help reliving your own childhood through these books that describe the experiences you go through with your parents as good parenting and not-so-good parenting. So, as a result, I gave this book as a present to one of them ;) I discussed it with one of them, and they said that they were really interested in the philosophy of this book, and now they've read it multiple times over. Even though I'm grown, I now have a 1yr old sibling who this could greatly benefit, and if taken as a guide, it really can.
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- Altered Loves: Mothers Daughter by T.E. Apter in Front Matter, Back Matter (1), and Back Matter (2)
- Among Schoolchildren by Tracy Kidder on page 116, page 156, and Back Matter
- Handbook of Research on Teaching (Macmillan research on education handbook series) by Merlin C. Wittrock in Back Matter (1), and Back Matter (2)
- Secret Paths: Women in the New Midlife by Terri Apter in Front Matter, and Back Matter
- How Children Fail (Classics in Child Development) by John Holt on page 146, and Back Matter
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- You Don't Really Know Me: Why Mothers and Daughters Fight, and How Both Can Win by Terri Apter in Front Matter
- The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults by Terri Apter in Front Matter
- Nurturing Your Child with Music: How Sound Awareness Creates Happy, Smart, and Confident Children by John M. Ortiz in Back Matter
- Identifying Children With Special Needs: Checklists and Action Plans for Teachers by Glynis Hannell on page 156
- Identifying Children With Special Needs: Checklists and Action Plans for Teachers by Glynis Hannell on page 156
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