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The Confident Woman: Learn the Rules of the Game

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I wish I had had this book when I was younger! There is so much helpful insight into why we women often lack confidence, and so much help on how to increase it -- and value it. The author is expert at sharing her own experiences in a manner that makes you feel like you're talking with a good friend, a friend who knows how to help you grow into all you can be. This really is a book for women at any stage in their lives, for those who feel they are confident as well as those who recognize they would like to increase their level of confidence. Go,Woman!

I just finished reading The Confident Woman and I already want to pick it up and read it again! I'm ordering copies for my best friends as well as my two daughters-in-law. No matter where you are on the pendulum of confidence, this book is for you. I not only walked away feeling uplifted, more positive, and of course more CONFIDENT, but I am continually going back grabbing great ideas from those end of chapter "Be Good to Yourself Breaks" Thanks Marjorie. I needed this!

As a woman re-entering the workforce after years of being a "stay-at-home-mom" I found this book to be invaluable. Not only was it insightful on a psychological level, but also fun to read as I explored the different areas the author has you examine about yourself. Personally and professionally, it provides a concrete roadmap for any woman wanting to be "confident" which, as Marjorie so brilliantly explains, is simply knowing yourself. I recommend this book to all wo men and particularly hope that young women will read and absorb it. Then maybe the next generation won't have to work so hard at becoming the confident women we should all be.

As a women's health care professional, I think The Confident Woman will be a boon to all women - especially those of us who consider ourselves highly competent, and caring. Marjorie Hansen-Shaevitz shows us how, in our desire to be good employees or professionals, good mothers, helpful to teachers and coaches, and good wives, we too often say "yes", in spite of our already feeling overburdened. We have lost control of our lives. Being a confident woman means choosing what we want to do, and don't want to do - and taking back control of how we spend our time. My husband has particularly enjoyed watching my transformation, as I became a woman who said yes when she meant it, and became a more poised and loving wife.

There's one place where I disagree with Hansen-Shaevitz. She expresses the opinion that a mother's becoming a confident woman will make her a good role model for her daughter. As the mother of three young sons, I feel that being a confident woman has made me a better role model in terms of showing them the kind of person they will want for a wife. The book contributes to raising daughters and sons alike.

Eve-Ellen Barnett, RN, MS Medical-Legal Consultant, Former Assistant Professor of Nursing, University of Rhode Island, and Northeastern University

After going throug a particulary rough patch, I found myself rather depressed and my confidence was at an all time low. I bought this book on the recommendation of a friend, and am really glad I did!

The author lists several reasons that women, as a group, may lack confidence, even when their lives have been fairly productive, and I found that interesting, but in my opinion, the best part of the book was the self rating quiz. This confirmed my feeling that I was in a real slump.

The next part of the book had really excellent exercises that helped me clarify my values, wants and desires. The aim was to help me get back in touch with who I really am, and who I want to become. what I like and dislike, what I want to "be, do and have" and generally just get back in touch with what was and wasn't important in my life.

The next section of the book dealt with practical ways to act on what I'd learned in the values clarification exercises, and how to "get it in gear" and take an active role in mazimizing things that made me happy, and minimizing those that left me feeling like a used dishrag.

I have to tell you that it perked me right back up in the first week! I'm now putting those positive things back into my life, slowly but consistantly, and feel far more hopeful and focused than I did before the book arrived.

This book did a lot to boost my morale, and level of confidence, and that was just exactly what I seemed to need right now.

I hope other readers will find it as benifical as I have.

I purchased "The Confident Woman" principally because I have long held the author, Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz, in high personal and professional regard. Now retired from an editing career, I frankly had no intention of reading it, or at least of reading it cover to cover. Indeed, I expected to put it on a shelf, there to collect dust, after flipping through a few pages to check the author's approach. By the end of two chapters, though, I was hooked. I read it all, and I'm glad. Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz provides significant data, yes. But, more importantly, she couples this with pertinent examples of life experience, practical solutions and ideas for continuing growth. An enjoyable read. An important book for women of all ages and stages in life.

I happened to come across this book at our local library, and had just brushed through a few pages with the aim of getting some tips for increasing my confidence, which I have always worked on. Now, the moment I started reading this book, there was no looking back. Now, I have finished reading, and am renewing this book, only because I want to take down the notes and keep with me as an asset. Marjorie has wonderfully explained the ways how a woman can become CONFIDENT in her life, at home and at work. I probably am running short of the exact words to explain the worth of this, I would say, it's a must read for anyone who wants to gain her confidence.

Now, I was sorry to read the review of an Asian reader who posted a poor review on November 12, 2001. I am also an Asian now living in the US, a newly married woman, taking a break temporarily from my work life. Still, I have been able to relate most of the topics with myself. There are probably a few cultural differences from Asia, but when I read some topics related to them, I just read through them, just learning a few insights into the Western culture. Besides, Marjorie has clearly mentioned in her initial chapter that she has written this mainly from the Western perspective on the meaning of 'Soul' etc. Also, I feel Marjorie has well put the words needed to raise the confidence levels of women who have not really grown to their potentials. In fact, 'Let's get practical' chapter, I feel, can even be ready by men, ignoring the specific topics mentioned only for women!

I would definitely recommend this book if you want to raise your confidence levels

This is quite an excellent compilation of information, support, and permission to help you on your journey to becoming the woman you want to be.
Shaevitz covers every area of life with plenty of suggestions, so this is not just a theoretical book, but a very pragmatic one.
Her style is clear and easy to read.
As a self-help reference guide it might be something you come back to when you have lost your way. A spark to ignite you toward authenticity, wholeness, and peace.

Great revelation came to me out of this book!! I am undergoing transformation and I am amazed at the insight and clarity this book brings! I have recommended this book to several of my friends and have even purchased this book for family and friends!! I have never read a book that brought so much healing into my life and not only healing but as it has transformed me I am seeing a transformation in my family!! Thanks you so much for sharing your life story!! Thru your book, I am seeing my life story in the pages I have read!! I am expecting great things to come out of the insight I am receiving!! Thanks!

As a women's health care professional, I think The Confident Woman will be a boon to all women - especially those of us who consider ourselves highly competent, and caring. Marjorie Hansen-Shaevitz shows us how, in our desire to be good employees or professionals, good mothers, helpful to teachers and coaches, and good wives, we too often say "yes", in spite of our already feeling overburdened. We have lost control of our lives. Being a confident woman means choosing what we want to do, and don't want to do - and taking back control of how we spend our time. My husband has particularly enjoyed watching my transformation, as I became a woman who said yes when she meant it, and became a more poised and loving wife.

There's one place where I disagree with Hansen-Shaevitz. She expresses the opinion that a mother's becoming a confident woman will make her a good role model for her daughter. As the mother of three young sons, I feel that being a confident woman has made me a better role model in terms of showing them the kind of person they will want for a wife. The book contributes to raising daughters and sons alike.

Eve-Ellen Barnett, RN, MS Medical-Legal Consultant, Former Assistant Professor of Nursing, University of Rhode Island, and Northeastern University