Confusing Love with Obsession: When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner and the Relationship [Paperback]

John D. Moore (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 2002

Why do so many women and men obsessively attach themselves to destructive relationships relationships that they cannot walk away from? Why do they pathologically need to control their partners, using whatever means necessary? John Moore helps these people to identify, comprehend and become aware of their destructive behaviors in personal relationships so they can stop the viscous cycle of pain.

PEOPLE WHO CONFUSE LOVE WITH OBSESSION: Instantly attach themselves to another person, regardless of compatibility. Cannot function unless they are in a relationship. Attempt to "fix" an abusive partner's behavior by walking on eggshells. Abandon their friends and family because they are obsessed with their relationship. Try to control their partners through emotions, money, sex, and even food. Stalk, harass and abuse their partners in an effort to exert control.

Through a series of riveting personal discussions and case presentations, John Moore sheds light on a problem that is widely unknown and often misunderstood. People Who Confuse Love with Obsession can discover healthy, loving relationships with others but only when they learn to have a relationship with themselves.

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About the Author

JOHN D. MOORE, MS, C.A.D.C, is a state of Illinois Certified Addictions Counselor, employed in the Social Services Field as a Community Case Manager. He is also a Professor of Health Sciences at American Public University System, instructing courses in Interpersonal Communications, with an emphasis on styles of attachment in personal relationships. A native of Chicago, he lives on the city's north side.

Product Details

• Paperback: 212 pages
• Publisher: Writers Club Press (December 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0595259278
• ISBN-13: 978-0595259274
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #870,439 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars BOLD AND LIFE CHANGING!, January 11, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Confusing Love with Obsession: When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner and the Relationship (Paperback)

I purchased and read this book a week ago after a painful divorce was finalized. Fast forward to now and here I am in the same situation yet again, falling in love with a different man. I read the book and did not take much to heart, basically because I was in denial. But after picking up the book again and giving serious thought to what Moore presented, I can see how addicted I am to relationships. I also found myself feeling a bit embarrassed as I read this book, because much of what was presented hit a little too closee to home. Looking back on my marriage, I behaved just like some of the people in the case studies did - using food to manipulate my ex-husband into gaining weight. I also broke into his computer and deleted emails and tried to cause trouble for him. Why? Because I was obsessed with my ex husband and addicted to our marriage. I have now been motivated to join a support group and get help from a therapist. As for my new relationship, I am putting that on ice until I begin to heal. If you decide to buy this book, be prepared for some moments where you might cry. This is perhaps one of the best books I have ever read, because Moore writes with compassion and shows how relational dependency effects both WOMEN AND MEN!

It will change your life!

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars When Love Hurts, May 11, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Confusing Love with Obsession: When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner and the Relationship (Paperback)

I found out about this book while traveling through Northern Ireland on a soul searching tour of sorts. I had recently divorced and was trying to figure out where I was heading in my life. That is when I came accross the book at a local market. Talk about an eye opener! Moore reached into the depths of my very being and spoke to my heart. All of my life, I felt like love was supposed to hurt and feel crappy. Now I know that it does not have to be this way and that loving another person starts with me! He does not use religion or anything, just plain honesty about stuff we all go through that makes us into the people we are today. When you grow up in an unhealthy environment, it has a way of effecting your relationships later in life. Get this book if you are dealing with an obsessive relationship or if you know someone who is. It's life changing.

18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Spoke to My Soul, March 9, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: Confusing Love with Obsession: When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner and the Relationship (Paperback)

I read Moore's book and was very impressed with each of the case studies. In some way, each person's story spoke to my own situation in a controlling relationship. There were many times that I had to put the book aside because it hurt too much to keep reading. As I kept turning the pages, I saw all of the patterns in my own life and then the lightbulb went off and I thought, "That's me!" If you are in a controlling relationship or are obsessed with someone else, you have to get this book. It will change your life forever.