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Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear, 2nd Edition Paperback – July 7, 2007

ISBN-13: 978-1932279764 ISBN-10: 1932279768 Edition: 2nd

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 212 pages
  • Publisher: Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing; 2nd edition (July 7, 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1932279768
  • ISBN-13: 978-1932279764
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.5 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (56 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #443,552 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


Connection Parenting is utterly transformational. -- Christiane Northrup, MD, author of Mother- Daughter Wisdom

Empowering, simple and undeniably true. -- Kali Wendorf, editor byronchild magazine

Pam Leo's "minimum daily requirements" of connection are the vitamins of everyday parenting. -- Bonnie Harris, author,

Pam Leo's brilliant work is needed by every child and every parent., it's on the top of our reading list. -- Jay Castellino, DC., RCST, Clinic Director: BEBA

This groundbreaking book powerfully and effectively addresses the root causes of many ills in our society. -- Kent W. Peterson, MD, FACPM, FACOEM --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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ForeWord Magazine BOOK-OF-THE-YEAR 2005 FINALIST. Pam Leo's work is receiving critical acclaim for its profound importance to the parenting community:

Joseph Chilton Pearce, author, "Magical Child": Over the years I have followed Pam Leo's laudable work as a teacher of parents and expecting parents. No other issue facing us today is so critical as this work of hers, re-establishing parental bonding with infant-child as nature intended. Indeed, our survival as a nation and species is dependent on this reconnection.

Suzanne Arms, Founder of Birthing The Future, author, "Immaculate Deception": Connection Parenting is the book we will all wish our parents had read when we were born and passed on to us when our children were born. For parents and grandparents who want the best for their children of any age, Connection Parenting contains the sacred grandmother wisdom that will reconnect us with our children.

John W. Travis, MD, MPH, author, "Wellness Workbook", cofounder Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children: Our best hope for transforming the lives of children is connection parenting.

Meryn Callander, President and cofounder Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children: Connection Parenting speaks to the very heart of what both children and parents need in order to thrive, rather than merely survive...connection. Supporting parents in strengthening the parent-child bond is the responsibility of each and every one of us, and the prerequisite to the well-being of our world.

Ray Castellino, DC., RCST: Every child, every parent needs Connection Parenting. Pam Leo's brilliant work, Connection Parenting, is on the top of our reading list.

Barbara Wishingrad, Founder and President, The Rebozo Way Project: Connection parenting is the perfect extension of in-arms, continuum, or attachment parenting with our little ones--and it fits in our present day culture in a way that makes it accessible to families from all kinds of backgrounds and belief systems.

Jen Noble, Editor/Publisher Parent & Family: Pam Leo's Connection Parenting urges us to use what time we DO have to connect with our children, and to make an effort to create that special one-on-one time. Her poignant words offer a positive and proactive approach to parenting within today's limitations and pressures, without a load of guilt and blame placed on busy parents.

Aletha Solter, Ph.D., Director of the Aware Parenting Institute, author, "The Aware Baby": Among the hundreds of parenting books available today, Pam Leo's handbook, Connection Parenting, is like a breath of fresh air. Don't be deceived by its simplicity. She has captured the essence of good parenting with profound and compassionate advice.

Diane Gossen, author, "It's All About WE; Rethinking Discipline Using Restitution": I am delighted with Pam Leo's book. It has a host of practical ideas anyone of us can use to enjoy our children or grand-children.

Tom Adams, Founder, KidFlourish: I loved Connection Parenting because it gently encouraged me to connect with my kids in ways I hadn't quite heard before. Thanks Pam, for sharing this wisdom in a powerful yet uncomplicated way.

Lisa Reagan, co-founder Families for Natural Living: Grounded in field-tested experience for three decades, Pam's illuminating insights into the components of creating and preserving the sacred bond between parent and child picks up where basic attachment parenting and Continuum Concept recommendations end. This readable book offers practical, compassionate parenting tools that are sure to make it an instant classic. This is the parenting book I have been waiting for! Thank you Pam!

Kent W. Peterson, MD, FACPM, FACOEM, former Executive Vice President American College of Preventive Medicine: The only solution to the unsustainable skyrocketing cost of medical care is prevention. The groundbreaking book Connection Parenting powerfully and effectively addresses root causes of many ills in our society--alienation, violence, substance abuse, depression and other mental illnesses. Pam Leo's clear vision of how to foster bonding and attachment at the beginning of life and to sustain it through continuing connection with children offers practical assistance for families everywhere. Connection parenting offers true hope for preventing the unsustainable skyrocketing cost of medical care in our society today.

Beth Stoddard, MBA, Licensed Edu-K Consultant nd Brain Gym® Instructor: The parents of the children in my Brain Gym practice and the students in my courses are very eager to learn from all Pam's years of experience and from her deep understanding and profound honoring of the uniqueness of each individual child. I'll just keep a supply of her books in my office--the parents' "Bible" and encourage each family to buy a copy. Connection Parenting is the perfect baby present for every new parent. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Customer Reviews

I would highly recommend this book for the parent of any young child.
M. Havens
The book is easy to read and has examples and references to other great books to help the reader find more resources for areas they may want additional information.
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If you want to know how to talk to your child in a way that she will feel better and therefore behave better, read Pam's book.
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67 of 68 people found the following review helpful By Arun Pradhan on December 31, 2007
Format: Paperback
There seem to be no bounds to clever and innovative ways of changing children's behaviour. Common approaches span anything from spanking, time outs, Magic 1, 2, 3, to positive discipline and offering rewards. The commonality of these "techniques" are that they begin with the aim of controling, manipulating or altering behaviour.

Then there is the other world view. This alternative attempts to delve beyond a child's behaviour and focuses on who the child is, their intrinsic motivation and the importance or primacy of their relationship with the parent in that context.

This often involves understanding, meeting needs and connecting with a child. There are no quick fixes here, it is an approach based on non coercive, respectful and loving relationships. For practitioners of this parenting approach behaviour becomes another form of communication and expression, rather than something to be controlled or changed.

This world view also has its fair share of acronyms, books and techniques - often to the point where parents wanting to explore it will not know where to begin. Well at least that is one problem solved...

If you are indeed curious about and open to this alternative approach then Pam Leo's Connection Parenting represents a fantastic introduction, distillation and road map for your journey. (Pam Leo pictured right.)

The book is a product from Pam Leo's more than 55,000 hours of experience with children and stems from a Connection Parenting Course she initiated in 1982 entitled "Meeting the Needs of Children". The years spent developing, refining and simplifying her message pay off with a strong clarity and economy in her book, making it extremely readable.
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37 of 37 people found the following review helpful By Lawrence J. Cohen on June 21, 2006
Format: Paperback
I few years ago I went to Maine to give a talk about parenting. A number of moms came up to ask questions afterwards, and I was amazed at how thoughtful and reflective they were about their children, and about themselves. They all had a tremendous respect for their children and some great ideas about how to make things better for their families. I asked them, jokingly, if they had all taken the same class or something. They laughed and said that they had, they had taken Pam Leo's workshop called Meeting the Needs of Children. i decided I had to meet this person, and I did. We ended up presenting several lectures and workshops together. I was thrilled when she wrote her book, so that now those people who aren't able to take her class (and even those who do) can still get her wisdom and warmth. After reading the book, I was even more thrilled--it is well-written, powerful, and compassionate. I strongly recommend it. Larry Cohen, author of Playful Parenting.
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50 of 59 people found the following review helpful By Carmine Leo on January 18, 2007
Format: Paperback
Henry David Thoreau first read his essay on "Civil Disobedience" in public during a lecture in 1848 and within fifty years, a young Indian lawyer in Africa had read it and incorporated those ideas into his own life. That lawyer was named Mohandas Gandhi, and Thoreau's work, along with the work of Russian writer Leo Tolstoy, became the foundation of a movement that brought down an empire and changed the course of world history. Someone once said to me, "There is nothing in the world so powerful as an idea whose time has come." Pam Leo's book, "Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion... Through Love Instead of Fear" is a book of ideas whose time has come.

After reading this book, I understood myself better than I ever have from reading any other book. And trust me, I've read a lot of books, on average two or three a week for the last 35 years. In every book, I've found one or two useful bits about the human condition that I could both absorb and put into practice. This is the only body of work I have ever encountered where all the scattered pieces are in one place, all at the same time.

There are at least four layers in "Connection Parenting". The first layer is the most obvious; it's a book about parent/child bonding and attachment. This is a practical framework for optimizing family relationships so that everyone in a family gets their essential needs met and can thrive. This book lays out what we need to do differently so our children don't drive us crazy, so they can grow up to be whole, functional adults able to have healthy relationships, find meaningful work, and have satisfying lives. This alone is worth the price of the book, just for the information we need to become more effective parents.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Sharon Anne Osenenko on November 24, 2008
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I have two daughters; the elder is 3 and a half and the baby is 10 months old. After the birth of my second daughter, I started to notice more "attention-seeking" behavior from my older daughter. A friend recommended Pam's book, and actually got me enrolled in a teleseminar with Pam Leo through [...]

I was amazed, as I put the principles into practice, the immediate and LASTING changes that my daughter and I both experienced. As I learned new ways to relate to what she was feeling, she learned to trust me more. And as I learned more of the reasons behind some of her behaviors, I learned to trust her more.

Before reading this book, I probably spent about 75% of my time with my daughter yelling. I work 40 hours a week, so we don't get to see each other all day every day, either. The time we have together is so precious to me, but I was completely yelling it away, because of my own frustration at her lack of cooperation. I have learned new ways to respond, new ways to head off a lack of cooperation before it even starts. Now, my daughter looks for ways to help me before I even ask.

I recommend this book to every parent. It should be required reading before you have kids :)
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