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Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life & the Life That You Love

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This book contains two absolutely marvelous concepts that really grabbed me. The big one was "Be The Chooser." It's not a new idea, but it was phrased in a way that helped me understand, very simply and solidly, exactly what it means to be proactive in looking for a good relationship. Another one was the clear explanation of the difference between dating for relationship practice, dating to find a life partner, and the big mistake of "dating to mate." and how to tell which you're doing and which you should be doing.

Other than that, this book isn't all THAT new and different. After all, there aren't many relationship books that have something genuinely new to say. But it is approachable, accessible, and totally reassuring, which is a huge plus in a universe of how-to-find-love books that start with the assumption that if you're still single, there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. Thank goodness for a book that starts with the assumption that it's perfectly fine not to be racing down the aisle with the first likely suspect.

This is the book the dating world has been waiting for. A book that really asks you to answer the simple question - 'what are you looking for in a relationship?' Then the book takes you through helpful tips and insights to help you discover and anchor those needs, wants and requirements.

Many other dating/relationship books fall into two categories - simple tips/tricks to get dates, or inner search material that's so high minded you're still left a little confused.

After reading this book, men and women alike should be able to assess where they are in their relationship life-stage (recreational dating, in the midst of a 'mini-marriage,' looking for a life partner), and be clear on what they need and seek from a partner - now and in the future.

While the book has a section on approaching potential partners, detailed support material in this area (scripted approaching techniques, field-tested ice breakers, etc.) are probably best left to relationship coaches, done through sites like mine and others.

What this book will provide is a foundational framework to ensure future relationship success.

- GiddyupGuy

David Steele has written what ought to become a benchmark in its field. Practical, proactive, easy-to-read and jargon free, David Steele helps his readers learn how to identify the kind of people they want to be with, how to weed out bad matches before asking for or accepting a date, and how to become really, really CLEAR about the kind of life partner relationship they want to grow.

This is a book that I recommend to all of my clients who are dating or planning on dating at some time in the future. You can tell that David Steele, MA, founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute is a relationship coach, because he's darned good at it.

If you don't have this book, buy it; you'll be happy that you did.

George Polley, MSW, LICSW
psychotherapist and life coach

This book is mainly directed at woman around 30+ and more imporantly people that have been divorced or widowed. It has mini stories every couple of pages with real life examples of his teachings as well as exercises at the end of each chapter. Most, if not all, of the examples given in his chapters involve woman, in one case a gay man, that have been divorced or had a bad breakup and their struggles.

This book is written in the "self help" format with a therapist understanding. The description also talks about places to find singles, but the actual book gives little to zero notice on the topic.

If you're a guy looking for a tutorial on talking to women this is the wrong book for you. This book is geared towards older adults looking to "get back on the horse".

David Steele's Conscious Dating has the depth and coverage you'd expect from years of research and work with the topic. Having obtained an advanced copy due to David's appearance on my Internet radio broadcast, I was so excited about it that I purchased extra copies to share with my private practice clients. Everything works better with a system--and this book does system, all leading readers to consciously conduct their search for their mate. His section on "Requirements," exercises to get to know yourself and your requirements better, and warm and supportive understanding of what we all can go through, make this a very valuable adjunct to relationships therapy with singles. There is value on every page. Alone for over 18 years, I gave up on dating after 8 fruitless years! If only I had been able to purchanse Conscious Dating then! Thanks, David, for your careful, caring work. Ilene

As a licensed psychologist, I read many self-help books so I can make informed recommendations to my clients. This is one I'm pleased to be able to recommend. Author David Steele has zeroed in on the most important ingredient necessary to having the relationships and the life you really way: conscious awareness. Steele teaches the reader how to become aware of old patterns of behavior and beliefs that have led to frustration and disappointment, how to get clear about your unique relationship/life requirements, and how to make your desires a reality. Filled with practical exercises to help the reader work toward their dreams, Steele lays out a clear and practical approach to help anyone have the kind of relationships and life they desire. There's much here to benefit from. Well done!

David Steele is the master of 'telling it like it is' when it comes to what works for today's single men and women. You can disagree with what he suggests, but if you take his ideas to heart and use them in your life, I am certain you will find yourself in a happier, more lasting relationship next time around.

I've found his strategies invaluable - personally and professionally. Personally, I'm not quite ready to date yet, having recently ended a long term relationship. However, his book confirmed and normalized that as well as offered a path for me to follow for now that I can live with! Professionally I am definitely using this material to reach out to singles who are open to this type of practical information and I'm already seeing positive results in my clients.

Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW-C
http://www.barbelgin.com

If you want to change your life, find the love of your life and are prepared to radically change the way you date to do so, then you have to read this book! There are a lot of books on the market with similar themes - this one is different as it is very comprehensive, makes sense and it works! If the concepts worked for me, they'll work for anybody.Though be warned - if you are not prepared to do the work, you won't find this a quick-fix and you will be disappointed. But if you are through with game-playing, and open to some expert advice, just spend the fourteen bucks, will ya? You won't regret it!

Kudos to David Steele! Conscious Dating lays out the steps to move singles from dating bondage to dating freedom! This book is packed with common sense advice articulated in a warm and caring manner. This book empowers singles to "Become the Chooser."

If you're feeling lost or disenchanted with the dating scene, Conscious Dating is a beacon of light!

Hooray for David Steele! It's about time we learned that the most important person to please in a dating relationship is ourselves. Terrific voice and wonderful guidance as he explains how to determine your non-negotiables en route to finding the person you really want--and deserve!