The Control Book [Paperback]

Peter Masters (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 28, 2009

The Control Book is about the fine art of taking control of your partner. It's about the processes involved, about taking control, using control, about ensuring that you have control, and-importantly-about giving control back once you are done with it. The book discusses how this works-the psychology of it-and looks at what can go right, and at what can go wrong and how to fix it. It considers the role of authority in the equation, and looks at how to manage the control you have over someone so that it is both effective and rewarding for you both. I believe that a very large part of the activities which we include under the umbrella of BDSM rely explicitly or implicitly on control being asserted over one person by another. My goal in this book is to talk about control, explain what it is, demonstrate it, show how to take it, how to give it, how to manage it, and more. I want you, the reader, to be aware of the ebb and flow of control around you and through you.

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About the Author

Peter Masters lives in Sydney, Australia. Exploring domination and control of members of the fairer sex is a life-long passion. Since the mid/late 90's, Peter has written and published a number of articles on dominance and submission. He also participates in local conferences, and runs an occasional workshop. For a number of years he also chaired or co-chaired-sometimes-weekly and sometimes-monthly-D&S discussion meetings based in Sydney. He is the author of This Curious Human Phenomenon ("An exploration of some uncommonly explored aspects of BDSM") and Look Into My Eyes (a book about hypnosis and sex)

Product Details

• Paperback: 200 pages
• Publisher: CreateSpace (July 28, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1442173866
• ISBN-13: 978-1442173866
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #35,087 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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61 of 64 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Psychologically Deep Analysis, May 19, 2007

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Ilona C. Paris "I. Paris, LMHC" (New York, NY) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Control Book (Perfect Paperback)

As a prodomme and psychotherapist I am impressed by this book. It is quite good in the use of Jungian archetypes and how they are seen in domination and submissive choices. This book is not light. If you truly want the deep down reasons why people are or choose to be submissive or dominant this gives some intense answers. I liked it.

36 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Very thought provoking, December 7, 2007

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johnny101 (Saint Louis, MO USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Control Book (Perfect Paperback)

This book was a great read! Lots of useful information for someone still trying to grasp all the control-related levels of being a Dominant. Concepts are explained using simple language that gets the point across in a manner with which most (if not all) readers can connect. Lots of examples drive these concepts to the core. Perhaps the most beneficial aspect of the book is the Discussion topics provided both at the conclusion of each section and the end of the book; an entire chapter listing nothing but topics left to the reader for consideration. I recommend this title for those Dominants new to the lifestyle aspect of D/s. Especially those who have already read some of "staple" titles (Different Loving, Masters Manual, etc) but are still left with foggy ideas about the details of the *psychological* aspect of control, having control and maintaining control.

30 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A good start on an important topic, March 15, 2007

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TammyJo Eckhart "TammyJo Eckhart" (Bloomington, Indiana United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Control Book (Perfect Paperback)

Control is one of those areas that can make a vanilla person bristle -- we are raised to not be controlled by others and yet we are raised to follow along in certain areas of our lives. In a Ds or Ms relationship the need or desire for control to be a factor is out in the open but that does not mean it is well-analyzed or well-understood. Peter Masters's book on the subject is the first I know of to focus on the issue. Using archetypes, the various states of consciousness and some plain old understanding of how relationships work, this is a good first attempt to address the concept of control. However, I also found many terms used without clear definitions and some concepts are discussed vaguely. Most importantly a book about how to think about and use control needs to have more specific models of how it works. A book geared toward dominants needs to offer us more guidelines or at least a reading list to help us find out more information on our own. This does not mean that the discussion about the importance of control in Ds isn't good; it does mean that I think it could be much better.