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Robert is snarky without being bitchy, Jane dry but not drab, and this creates a balanced and infectious humor in the book that plays nicely with the moments of poignancy that pop up time and again. Read this book, grab a drink, start a conversation about it. You might cry some, you'll probably laugh more, and you'll realize that it's really not that complicated. (Elle)
The voices of mother and son alternate in the brief segments of this book, advancing a story arc and commenting on one another's reflections and memories in a dialogue 'written to both entertain and enlighten in the hope that other families will begin discussion in their own homes' and discover how 'enormously empowering living in the truth can be.' Robert's coming-out letter to his parents sets the scene as he and his mother strive to interact authentically, learning about each other and learning of previously undiscovered aspects of themselves. Both are scarred from having been ostracized, he for his homosexuality, she for becoming scandalous as an unwed, pregnant high-school student. Zippy one-liners, ironic observations, and laugh-out-loud situations abound; for instance, Robert teaches his mother a gay vocabulary wholly new to her (no, Mom, B&D does not mean big and dumb). Mother-son bonding à la a progressive new Hallmark holiday movie. (Booklist)
Conversations and Cosmopolitans tells the story of a gay novelist's unique, seemingly-nothing-is-off-limits relationship with his mother. From Robert's manscaping adventures to Jane's experiences as a small-town pregnant teenager, Conversations tells the funny, heartfelt inside story of a relationship that became stronger after a gay son and his mother let down their guards and opened up to each other. (The Advocate)
As a mother of boys I hope one of them is gay so I can have this much fun with him. (Heather McDonald, writer and story producer for Chelsea Lately and the New York Times bestselling author of You'll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again)
A heartfelt look at a mother and son's relationship from both points of view. [L]augh-out-loud funny, touching and poignant... (Lance Bass, Grammy-nominated singer, former member of *NSYNC, and author of Out of Sync)
CONVERSATIONS AND COSMOPOLITANS is the most endearing, inventive memoir I've read in ages. Robert Rave and his mother Jane have managed to capture their beautiful relationship on the page, in a heartfelt, hilarious manner that never shies away from revealing awkward moments. Aside from being a charming work of literature, CONVERSATIONS AND COSMOPOLITANS is a necessary book, a book we've all been waiting for, as it deals honestly, affectionately, and originally with an experience that's central to our contemporary lives--the struggle to know and love your parents and children exactly as they are. (Robert Leleux, author of The Memoirs of a Beautiful Boy)
Totally delightful. A reminder of what it's like to be the new kid. If being the new kid was being gay and the new school was a hierarchy of too-fab cliques and temperamental queen bees -- pun intended. The main character is really Manhattan. And as Robert struggles to get a life in Gay New York, Jane coaches him through the rough patches with her no-nonsense maternal charm. (Mishna Wolff, author of I'm Down)
I loved this book, funny, honest, and moving! Who could ask for more? (Bryan Batt, actor on AMC's Emmy Award-winning drama "Mad Men" and author of the memoir She Ain't Heavy, She's My Mother)
JANE RAVE grew up in a small Midwest town, doing all the things you do in a small town: cheerleading, band, and church activities. She is the mother of three, grandmother of six and has been married for forty-four years. Jane lives in Illinois.
ROBERT RAVE is the author of two novels, Spin and Waxed, and currently lives in Los Angeles.
When I found that my gay book club was reading this book, I was disappointed. It was hard to find in the local libraries, usually a bad sign; and we had recently read some books... Read morePublished on May 6, 2013 by Thomas J. Grogan
This book was amazing. Robert Rave is an excellent author, one who draws you in and keeps your reading. Read morePublished on September 19, 2012 by Tish
I had assumed, when I signed up to win this from Librarything, that I was getting a fiction (or at least fictionalized) book about a gay son coming out to his parents and bonding... Read morePublished on December 14, 2011 by S. Strader
Whether gay or straight, young or old, male or female, this book is sure to start many conversations! Read morePublished on November 22, 2011 by Jen G
Newly moved from his Midwest home to New York City, 21 year old Robert Rave first took care of some long-unfinished business: writing a "coming out" letter home to his parents. Read morePublished on November 16, 2011 by Bob Lind