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Conversations with the Wise Uncle: The Secret to Being Strong as a Teenager and Preparing for Success as an Adult Paperback – February 1, 2012
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In 1988 he developed "MindFrames," a personality assessment based on cognitive neuroscience. In 1994 he created "20/20 Insight," a breakthrough online multi-source feedback and survey platform. Since then it has been used by millions of participants worldwide to assess and develop organizations, managers and teams. He is also the creator of "Strong for Performance," an online virtual coaching system for the professional development of leaders and teams in the workplace.
He is also passionate about helping adults raise adolescents to be strong, successful adults. His "Strong for Parenting" online coaching system helps parents develop the personal strengths and parent-child communication skills they need to successfully guide teens through adolescence. Other versions of this system are available for teachers, athletic coaches and youth program leaders (visit ProStarCoach.com). He is also the author of two creative books for teenagers, "Conversations with the Wise Uncle" (for boys) and "Conversations with the Wise Aunt" (for girls), available on Amazon.com.
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Fortunately, Dr. Dennis E. Coates, the author of this book, has spent years studying how the brain develops during the teen years. And the additional good news is that he has shared his findings through this book.
You will be glad that the book doesn't resemble a scientific treatise. Coates uses the evolving relationship between Chris, an emerging teenage boy, and Uncle Ray, his benevolent benefactor, to weave a compelling, message-packed narrative. The homespun story features a naturally flowing style of dialogue between the two characters. When you watch my video review, you'll hear more details about those conversations between the wise uncle and the typical boy you'd find in most neighborhoods--possibly in your own house.
Please note: The author invited me to review this book. This invitation did not influence my review in any way. In fact, if anyone asked me to review a book only if I guaranteed a favorable review, I would decline the opportunity instantly, regardless of the prestige of the author or publisher.
I was thrilled to find a book to help me with the inevitable battles that I know are coming... `Conversations with a Wise Uncle' was just the ticket. The author gives practical tools for making those uncomfortable and complex topics straightforward. And it's not limited to just the topics you think! Personal strengths and people skills build the foundation of everybody's life and each chapter is full of easy ways to bring them into everyday conversations with your children.
The author also includes a quick look at the biological growth of the frontal part of kids' brains at this period in their life. (It certainly explains a lot.) As my son starts making choices that will affect his life path, the part of the brain that makes him a good decision maker is still developing. It's at this time that he needs to build the strength of character to stand up against peer pressure, and choose between mindless fooling around and foundation-building activities.
My biggest takeaway is how important our role is during this time for our kids. We have the opportunity and the responsibility to help pave their way and this book - and its sibling `Conversations with a Wise Aunt' - are fantastic resources. I would recommend it to every parent - or for that matter, every teenage boy.
I'm a big fan of a few personal development books for teens. My favorite is Sean Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens.
Within the teen parenting genre, these two have long been my favorites:
- Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)
- Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager
To that list I now add the wonderful, "Conversations with the Wise Uncle," by Dennis Coates.
Coates' inspiration came from a friend who, at the age of 12, was taken aside by his uncle for a friendly, casual conversation regarding his coming teen years: peer pressure, the consequences of risky behavior, and more. Coates' friend calls that conversation the most important one of his life, saying that it helped him to steer clear of all kinds of trouble.
Coates expanded on the idea by writing of 10 conversations that take place between "Chris" and his Uncle Ray. The book is done in parable format, allowing us to follow the story of the young man and his uncle as several years go by.
Coates has written a truly brilliant book. He has managed to fit into this short, easy read, dozens of critical life lessons such as: respecting women, thinking before you act, manners, being strong in the face of adversity, lifelong learning, the importance of giving, and the dangers of alcohol and drugs.
Buy it if you have teens. Buy it to give to teens. This is a fantastic, highly recommended book.
David J. Singer, author of Six Simple Rules for a Better Life
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I wish this book had been around when my sons were teenagers - have recomended it to staff, parents and teenage sudents in the school I work in in th UKPublished on September 13, 2013 by Frank Thompson
This short book is full of practical advice for teen boys. The subject was the lucky young man who found a mentor that would talk about the subjects young boys should learn about... Read morePublished on May 22, 2013 by Kindle Customer
If you think that even with your best intentions to guide your son, you may fall short and that he will pay for it for the rest of his life, read this book. Read morePublished on February 12, 2013 by Gordon Myers
Unlike many parenting books out there, Coates' book is written in an interesting and conversational style that I found helpful as a guide to talking with my own son. Read morePublished on May 25, 2012 by Elizabeth Aquino
As the parent of 3 boys all in their 20s, it became apparent to me years ago that in order to thrive in today's world, young people need to develop life skills far beyond the book... Read morePublished on April 30, 2012 by B Knight
In this book, Mr. Coates presents a series of dialogs between a wise and caring uncle, named Ray, and his young nephew, named Chris, that identify and then help Chris come to grips... Read morePublished on April 21, 2012 by Ron Wilson
I'm writing this as a formerly wayward teenager, father, grandfather, former teacher/vocational school director, and training consultant. Read morePublished on April 11, 2012 by Performance Solutions, Roger Wenschlag
Once again Dr. Coates has hit the nail right on the head! After only reading two pages of this book, I knew this was the advice I did not receive as a teenager. Read morePublished on March 27, 2012 by Clinton Whitehead