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A Couple of Friends: The Remarkable Friendship Between Straight Women and Gay Men

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I was very grateful to find a book like this. Having found my very best friend in my late thirties to be a gay man, I knew that this relationship was different than any other close relationship I had ever had. I knew there were a whole new set of rules and I was looking for reference materials to review. This book was just what I was looking for. I found reassurance that what I was feeling was normal. When I told him I felt closer to him than my husband and he told me he loved me more than his mother... I was thrilled to know we were not alone. If you are in this type of special relationship be sure to read this book. The stories and help on how to cope with specific issues are priceless. It will give you a reason for weeks of conversation, but then, that's not hard to do.

I found this book to be healing. I was struggling with the feelings and love I had for this man I met that I knew was "Gay.
From the moment we met we "just clicked" and the friendship grew . We became so close in such a short period of time.
I knew I had met my "soul mate " in him and he felt the same way towards me. But a sexual undercurrent devopled which was ruining our friendship. I could not help the emotions and love I felt for this man and he was struggling with these issues himself . I tried to talk to him but it only pushed him furthur away. Neither one of us could understand why we felt so close to the other and why we felt such love. It almost ruined our 'special friendship. Reading this book explained it all. It was as if it was written for us. The understanding and healing words in this book saved our friendship and now we can share our lives,our emotions and our support and unconditional love for one another and know that it is normal to have these deep feeling for one another
thank you for writing and publishing this book

It's about time.

Finally someone has addressed this subject which has bothered many straight women I have spoken to for years. What is it that attracts straight women to gay men? As the book points out, we get to know the femine side of men, which they all have, but straight men won't always show. I think the authors told the story with good taste and assured us that we are enjoying a "normal" relationship with our gay friends. Brova & Brovo to them for addressing this sensitive subject.

I got this book on a whim one day and couldn't help thumbing through it. Needless to say, I was still sitting in the same place an hour later, giggling and nodding as I turned each page.

The best part about this book is that it lends legitimacy to this relationship I have that's a HUGE part of my life. And if you have a gay man/straight woman relationship in your life, you know that it's not always the most respected relationship in the eyes of the general public. This book will give you confidence and your relationship will be the better for it.

The authors are dead-on in almost everything they say. And even though my best friend disagrees with me about how great this book is, I think he's just in denial!

I highly recommend this book. I saw myself and many gay friends in these pages - very well written, funny, smart, and informative!

I bought this book after my best friend (who is male) told me that he was bisexual and was involved in a homosexual relationship, and thought it would help me understand why we are so close and his thought process. He is NOT the stereotypical gay male - he likes big trucks and sports and hunting, not the theater, shopping and going to fancy dinners. This book suggested that gay males all love to do those sorts of things and how women can do these things with their gay male friends and not their husbands. I can guarantee that if I asked my best friend to go to any of those, he would tell me that is what my husband is for. This book failed to even attempt to find males that are not flamboyantly gay. He is not and it was very frustrating reading about how the women knew or had a feeling that the males were gay ahead of time because it was obvious, and there were not any stories of the men who are conservative gays. He personally hates the flamboyantly gay males and is frustrated because of what the stereotype is. If I can name a whole underground system of gay males, I don't think it would have been that hard for the authors to find some who are not the stereotype also. This book highly offended and disappointed me and I hope that the authors look for a broader picture if they choose a project like this again.

I found this book to explain many of the wonderful (and not so wonderful) thoughts and feelings that I, as a straight woman, have had in dealing with my close friend, who is a gay man. I had felt alone, and that perhaps our relationship was not "normal"-how relieved to find out that it is!

My only suggestion would be to include the group of gay men that AREN'T as mature as those in the book. I frequently have problems with my friend for his apparently immature behavior that I have witnessed among him and his other gay friends--I would like to understand better the immature, party-all-the-time behavior of this sect of gay men.