How to be a Couple & Still be Free [Import] [Paperback]

Riley K. / Tessina, Tina B. Smith (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: Newcastle (1980)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0878770518
• ISBN-13: 978-0878770519
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 4.9 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,350,651 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. http://www.tinatessina.com is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California, with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction (New Page); How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free (New Page); The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again (Wiley) and The Real 13th Step: Discovering Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance and Independence Beyond the Twelve Step Programs (New Page.) Her newest books, out from Adams Press in 2008: Money, S*x and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage and Commuter Marriage. She publishes Happiness Tips from Tina, an e-mail newsletter, and the 'Dr. Romance Blog' http://drromance.typepad.com/dr_romance_blog/

She is an online expert, answering relationship questions at Divorce360.com and Yahoo!Personals, as well as a Redbook Love Network expert and 'Psychology Smarts' columnist for First for Women.Dr. Tessina guests frequently on radio, and on such TV shows as 'Oprah', 'Larry King Live' and ABC news. Follow her at twitter.com/tinatessina. Facebook: www.facebook.com/tinatessina

Customer Reviews

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21 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Held me together and got me honest, January 29, 2000

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David Lincer (Oakland, CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to be a Couple & Still be Free (Paperback)

I found this book after making a terrible mistake in my marriage. The next day. I read it in a couple of hours, and the ideas helped me keep my marriage together and healthier for two more years. I cry a bit every time I read the introductions. I try to give this book to every person I want to spend time with. And also those entering into a new relationship.

I reccomend it highly for teenagers, new lovers, old lovers, just about everybody.

Dave

Followup to the new 3rd Edition, released Early 2002
Sigh;
The new edition really wants a new title. Part 2 of 2. Something to let people know that it really looks different. Missing all my favourite bits. Still a fine book, but definitely not the first book I would give to people. The 1st and 2nd editions are essential to appreciating the 3rd in my opinion.
I have been buying copies of earlier editions to give out to friends. Third edition in reserve for later dispersal.

David

11 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free, December 6, 2003

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W. THURSTON "Book Reviewer" (Melbourne, Australia) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free: Third Edition (Paperback)

"How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free."

To many people this may seem to be an impossible dream. Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D and Riley K. Smith, M.A are two people who know that this is not the case. They have witnessed at first hand that couples within a relationship can indeed retain their freedom. A relationship that recognizes the needs of both parties, can only be good. It will allow couples to reap a richness in their existence, denied them as singles.

In today's world, we hear a lot said about the individual's right to freedom from our politicians. The concept of democracy is based on each individual's right to be free to do what they wish, that is within the law. This includes the freedom to express oneself in a healthy manner. Not all of us have the opportunity to do this. Our background, the culture we live in or a chain of events beyond our control can prevent our potential development.

The will to learn and expand our knowledge is the basis of change. To be able to do this one needs to be what we call free. Yet, freedom is not a license to go out and do what one likes with no care or responsibility. It imposes on us an obligation to recognize the rights of others, and adjust our needs to blend in with those of the society we live in.

To assist couples in meeting the obligation of recognizing the rights of others, two tools are recommended by the authors. These are The Negotiation Tree and Cooperative Problem Solving; each one is explained in detail throughout the course of the book. If each is practiced diligently, a couple will find that they can indeed be free as individuals and still meet each other's needs.

Relationships need both partners to constantly strive to make it a success. To allow them to get flabby through lack of effort will only lead to apathy and disaster. We all need to be loved, cherished and respected. "How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free," shows the way to achieve a life long relationship that meets couples needs.

This is a book I cannot recommend highly enough. Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D and Riley K. Smith, M.A. indeed have created a masterpiece. All couples should read this book at least once during their lives. They can only enrich their lives by doing so.

4 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free, December 6, 2003

By 

W. THURSTON "Book Reviewer" (Melbourne, Australia) - See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)   

This review is from: How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free: Third Edition (Paperback)

"How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free"

To many people this may seem to be an impossible dream. Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D and Riley K. Smith, M.A are two people who know that this is not the case. They have witnessed at first hand that couples within a relationship can indeed retain their freedom. A relationship that recognizes the needs of both parties, can only be good. It will allow couples to reap a richness in their existence, denied them as singles.

In today's world, we hear a lot said about the individual's right to freedom from our politicians. The concept of democracy is based on each individual's right to be free to do what they wish, that is within the law. This includes the freedom to express oneself in a healthy manner. Not all of us have the opportunity to do this. Our background, the culture we live in or a chain of events beyond our control can prevent our potential development.

The will to learn and expand our knowledge is the basis of change. To be able to do this one needs to be what we call free. Yet, freedom is not a license to go out and do what one likes with no care or responsibility. It imposes on us an obligation to recognize the rights of others, and adjust our needs to blend in with those of the society we live in.

To assist couples in meeting the obligation of recognizing the rights of others, two tools are recommended by the authors. These are The Negotiation Tree and Cooperative Problem Solving; each one is explained in detail throughout the course of the book. If each is practiced diligently, a couple will find that they can indeed be free as individuals and still meet each other's needs.

Relationships need both partners to constantly strive to make it a success. To allow them to get flabby through lack of effort will only lead to apathy and disaster. We all need to be loved, cherished and respected. "How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free," shows the way to achieve a life long relationship that meets couples needs.

This is a book I cannot recommend highly enough. Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D and Riley K. Smith, M.A. indeed have created a masterpiece. All couples should read this book at least once during their lives. They can only enrich their lives by doing so.

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