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The Courage to Love Again: Creating Happy, Healthy Relationships After Divorce

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Sheila Ellison opens up again in the follow-up book to "Courage to Be a Single Mother," this time sharing wisdom from her experience in beginning a new relationship after divorce. Through her own remarriage and creating a blended family, Ellison expertly guides the reader into learning how to trust and learning how to CREATE the relationship you want -- taking charge of your own happiness, so to speak. A great book, I'd recommend it to anyone who is finding themselves starting over.

Ms. Ellison wrote a book for women who are trying to get back into the relationship game after a divorce. Having gone through it herself, Ellison provides a unique perspective on just how devastating a divorce can be to a woman's self-esteem and how dating again really is a process.

I liked that she divided her book into two parts and spoke of the inner work that must be done first, and then she addresses the issues involved in starting over. She is a big advocate of getting really clear on what you want and no longer catering solely to the man in your life. Treat yourself and your needs as at least as important as your man's.

She believes in making and constantly adjusting a list of what you want in a partner, as well as those things you don't and she cautions about settling for less than you want. She says there are good men out there who are also looking for meaningful, committed relationships so don't use that as an excuse for settling for someone less just because you think it might be your last chance and someone is better than no one.

She also has some practical advice about meeting men, dating, sex and even what to say to your children when you are ready. I really appreciated that Ellison does not pretend to know the magic words or the magic time frame but allows that each woman is different and must do things in her own time without great consideration given to all the unsolicited advice a single woman will hear from others.
I think this book may provide newly divorced women some good advice about how to first prepare themselves and then how to get back into the dating scene.

I loved this book. It's a great read with great writing and it completely captured my interest throughout. After more than four years of being single and hesitating to even date, this was the perfect book to get me motivated and start looking for love again. I've recommended it to many who have also enjoyed the book.