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Zig Ziglar is an amazing writer, speaker, and person!, June 9, 2000
If you are looking at ways to be sure you are still being in love with your lover, partner, and spouse (hopefully all the same person!), this book is a guide for you! As he says in his lectures, "I don't expect you to use everything, but if you only use one your marriage will be better."
Not only do I have the book, but I also have the audio tapes and between the two I regularly check the status of my marriage and work to make sure it's always on the best footing.
And, when I start screwing up, I know from reading this book that I need to accept it, rather than ignore it, and work to make my wife comfortable with our resolution whatever that is. There is no greater power that two people that agree, and no greater love than two that agree to love each other.
If you're doing great, get this book. If you're on a rocky course, get this book. If you're in marriage preparation, get this book.
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Model for a Successful Marriage, December 28, 2002
Zig and "The Redhead" as he calls his wife are living examples of a successful marriage. This book documents his beliefs and actions to create that success.
Zig understands that in his marriage, it's not about him. Instead it's about him being committed to The Redhead. In the bible it talks about loving with your heart, your mind, your soul, and your strength. Courtship After Marriage shows you ways to fulfill that premise and promise.
You won't agree with everything in this book yet there's enough meat on the bones to help you make incredible leaps forward in your marriage. There is a wonderful marriage survey in the book. I recommend that couples take the survey individually and then review your results with each other. You will be amazed at the knowledge and perspective you gain into each other and your relationship. It will also give you a starting point for taking your marriage to higher levels of love.
At the end of the book Zig talks with great love about his children and grandchildren and the relationships they have. These are just a few of the benefits and rewards of his investing his energy and love into his relationship. I've always read that to learn to be successful, model successful people. Zig Ziglar and the Redhead are a couple to model.
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Very funny, very real!, May 19, 2005
Zig Ziglar has always been one of my favorite authors/motivational speakers . . . in fact, he wrote the first positive thinking book I ever read--the classic SEE YOU AT THE TOP.
I read that book in college and have devoured just about everything Ziglar has produced--with the possible exception of COURTSHIP AFTER MARRIAGE . . . for some reason, I had missed that one when it came out back in 1990 . . . yet hearing it now for the first time, I found it to be amazingly up-to-date with its advice . . . and especially relevant for me, given the fact that I'll be getting married in less than two months and do believe ROMANCE CAN LAST A LIFETIME (the program's subtitle).
I loved listening to the tape program, in that it reminded me of how much I like hearing Ziglar . . . he's corny, but also funny and oh so real . . . my only regret is that I did not have a copy of the book with the same title because there were so many things that I would have wanted to underline and review--over and over.
For instance, he urges listeners to make an effort every day to please your mate . . . this can be done by asking at the start of each day: What can I do to make your life easier, better
and more fun?
In addition, I came away with many other ideas, including (to cite just a few):
Women should be just as kind to their mates as they are to their hairdressers. Men should be just as kind to their mates as they are to strangers who ask for directions.
Accept the fact that it's now who is right, but it's what is right.
And what is important.
You change your partner by changing you.
Confrontation involving condemnation seldom brings about any change.
The important question in marriage is what am I putting into it, not what am I getting out of it.
In marriage, we both need to be on the same side . . . it is not my bank account, but our bank account.
Marriage is not a 50-50 proposition. It is a 100-100 proposition. You give your mate 100% of your love and affection, and you'll get the same.
Always welcome your mate home. When you do, treat your mate as if he or she had a tough day.
Swap jobs for one week. In general, don't keep score on who does what.
A beautiful marriage is built up on a long series of little things you do for your mate for no reason on Earth but for the best reason of all:
You love your mate.
And this final one that REALLY made a lot of sense to me:
Fight while holding hands!
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