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Courtship After Marriage

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If you are looking at ways to be sure you are still being in love with your lover, partner, and spouse (hopefully all the same person!), this book is a guide for you! As he says in his lectures, "I don't expect you to use everything, but if you only use one your marriage will be better."

Not only do I have the book, but I also have the audio tapes and between the two I regularly check the status of my marriage and work to make sure it's always on the best footing.

And, when I start screwing up, I know from reading this book that I need to accept it, rather than ignore it, and work to make my wife comfortable with our resolution whatever that is. There is no greater power that two people that agree, and no greater love than two that agree to love each other.

If you're doing great, get this book. If you're on a rocky course, get this book. If you're in marriage preparation, get this book.

Zig and "The Redhead" as he calls his wife are living examples of a successful marriage. This book documents his beliefs and actions to create that success.

Zig understands that in his marriage, it's not about him. Instead it's about him being committed to The Redhead. In the bible it talks about loving with your heart, your mind, your soul, and your strength. Courtship After Marriage shows you ways to fulfill that premise and promise.

You won't agree with everything in this book yet there's enough meat on the bones to help you make incredible leaps forward in your marriage. There is a wonderful marriage survey in the book. I recommend that couples take the survey individually and then review your results with each other. You will be amazed at the knowledge and perspective you gain into each other and your relationship. It will also give you a starting point for taking your marriage to higher levels of love.

At the end of the book Zig talks with great love about his children and grandchildren and the relationships they have. These are just a few of the benefits and rewards of his investing his energy and love into his relationship. I've always read that to learn to be successful, model successful people. Zig Ziglar and the Redhead are a couple to model.

Zig Ziglar has always been one of my favorite authors/motivational speakers . . . in fact, he wrote the first positive thinking book I ever read--the classic SEE YOU AT THE TOP.

I read that book in college and have devoured just about everything Ziglar has produced--with the possible exception of COURTSHIP AFTER MARRIAGE . . . for some reason, I had missed that one when it came out back in 1990 . . . yet hearing it now for the first time, I found it to be amazingly up-to-date with its advice . . . and especially relevant for me, given the fact that I'll be getting married in less than two months and do believe ROMANCE CAN LAST A LIFETIME (the program's subtitle).

I loved listening to the tape program, in that it reminded me of how much I like hearing Ziglar . . . he's corny, but also funny and oh so real . . . my only regret is that I did not have a copy of the book with the same title because there were so many things that I would have wanted to underline and review--over and over.

For instance, he urges listeners to make an effort every day to please your mate . . . this can be done by asking at the start of each day: What can I do to make your life easier, better
and more fun?

In addition, I came away with many other ideas, including (to cite just a few):

Women should be just as kind to their mates as they are to their hairdressers. Men should be just as kind to their mates as they are to strangers who ask for directions.

Accept the fact that it's now who is right, but it's what is right.
And what is important.

You change your partner by changing you.

Confrontation involving condemnation seldom brings about any change.

The important question in marriage is what am I putting into it, not what am I getting out of it.

In marriage, we both need to be on the same side . . . it is not my bank account, but our bank account.

Marriage is not a 50-50 proposition. It is a 100-100 proposition. You give your mate 100% of your love and affection, and you'll get the same.

Always welcome your mate home. When you do, treat your mate as if he or she had a tough day.

Swap jobs for one week. In general, don't keep score on who does what.

A beautiful marriage is built up on a long series of little things you do for your mate for no reason on Earth but for the best reason of all:
You love your mate.

And this final one that REALLY made a lot of sense to me:
Fight while holding hands!

This is a good book with a lot of practical ideas that you can start applying immediately. When you read it, what Mr. Ziglar says touches you deeply and you know it's true.

While many of the ideas here are presented through the lens of Christianity, they apply universally. Zig Ziglar also has a way of making his point powerfully through entertaining stories and vivid metaphors.

If you are a Christian, I'm sure this book will even mean more to you. However, if you are not a Christian, I still wouldn't hesitate to buy it. If your goal is to improve the quality of your marriage, this book will definitely help.

AWESOME, INSIGHTFUL, WORTH LISTENING TOO-- I FIRST CAME ACROSS THIS AT A LOCAL LIBRARY-- LISTENING TO IT ON AUDIO IS SUGGESTED. I HEARD IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN AS I RODE IN MY CAR AND NOW I CONSIDER IT A NECESSARY MARRIAGE GIFT TO NEWLYWEDS! FOR ANY STAGE OF MARRIAGE, NEW, OLD, ETC... IT IS FULL OF PERSPECTIVE WISDOM AND CONTAINS GREAT STORIES TO RELATE TO.
KIMBERLIE PETRULIS-- I WILL REFER THIS BOOK ALWAYS!

"You are what you are and where you are because of what's gone into your mind; you can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind." ~ pg. 187

Zig Ziglar is unashamedly in love with his wife. They were married in 1946 and as far as I can tell are still happily married. In "Courtship After Marriage" Zig Ziglar presents sage advice from a lifetime of experience.

The tips in this book could save you from heartache and despair. There is great practical advice on how to avoid abuse, divorce and affairs. I liked his advice to battered women - don't come home until your husband agrees to seek counseling. While he starts his book with the bad news first (divorce) he finally gets to how you can make your marriage better by fighting fair and by choosing to forgive your spouse for their faults.

What is the real reason people divorce?
What are the most important words you can ever say to your spouse?

Zig Ziglar answers these questions and also gives three rules to make any marriage last and explains why you should seek a balance between work and family. At times the book can be a little syrupy - Zig Ziglar has been known to hug his wife forty times a day. He talks about his relationship with his wife throughout the book and shows how the principles he is teaching apply to real life. The only thing I disagreed with was his comment about not being able to fall in love at first sight. That happened to me personally so I know it is possible.

I can recommend this book to Christian couples who are either struggling in their marriage or want their marriage to last a lifetime.

~The Rebecca Review

The product was as promised and I received it earlier than expected. I am very happy with the supplier as well as the book. It is a pleasure doing business with Amazon.

I have read it twice during my 32 year marriage and have given it as a gift. There simply is no better marriage guide out there.

Great book! Every new marriage should be given this book!

If you listen to Zig's "Goal Setting" series, you'd have most of the same information but, it was a good thing to listen too with my fiance.