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Product Details

  • Paperback: 297 pages
  • Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries (December 1, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1892112604
  • ISBN-13: 978-1892112606
  • Product Dimensions: 7 x 0.8 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (791 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #27,753 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Introducing Michael and Debi Pearl. Michael and Debi Pearl have been married since 1971. They have 5 children and 15 grandchildren. Between them they have authored 14 books and 8 booklets which combined have sold millions. Much of what they write deals with marriage, child training, and homeschooling. One of their recent books, Good and Evil (Bible stories in Marvel comic format), has been published into 25 languages with another 60 translations soon to be ready for press. The Pearl’s also publish a 40 page bi-monthly magazine with a subscription of over 50,000. Needless to say they are prolific writers and public speakers.On another note, Michael is an inductee into the International Knife Throwers Hall of Fame and holds several world titles, including Gold Cup winner of 2008-9, long distance thrower of the year with a record all time high of hitting a four inch target at 63 feet, and he is the undisputed best tomahawk thrower of 2009, holding the world title. When he is not teaching the Bible or speaking to audiences on how to have a good marriage and obedient children he is teaching kids how to stick a bull’s eye with a knife or hawk. Debi Pearl and husband Michael have 5 children and 21 grandchildren. Between them they have author 14 books and 8 booklets which combined have sold millions. Learn more about them and sign up for the No Greater Joy bi-monthly magazine at Debi Pearl grew up during the 1960s at the height of the hippie revolution and the Jesus Movement. The forced draft due to the Vietnam War brought a sense of eternity to the youth, provoking them to seriously consider their souls. It was a time of a great move of the Spirit of God. As a teenager, dressed in tie-dye tee shirt and long drooping peasant skirt, she stood on the highways and byways sharing the gospel and seeing miracle after miracle of God’s amazing grace. She married her life mate, Michael Pearl, in 1971.

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Debi and her husband, Michael Pearl, are international best-selling authors. Their books have been translated into over 30 languages worldwide. They have five happily married children and a growing host of grandchildren.

They, with the help of their children, author a free bi-monthly magazine which explores child training, marriage, Bible teaching, and natural healing.

Debi has co-authored 4 books with her husband on child training. Asked for her credentials on child training she points to her five children.

As goes the child so goes the future adult and the future parent. At every moment, parents holding little children are holding the future. Parenting, the most important and demanding job in the world comes on us by default. Ready or not, prepared or ill equipped, all parents produce fruit that lasts throughout eternity. It is like stopping everyone that walks down the street and seating them at a piano to play for five minutes. The melody or the dissonance goes on and on from one generation to the next unless someone takes the time to break the cycle and learn the skill... of parenting.

Through books and tapes, the Pearls are training parents to break the bad habits passed down from former generations, and to recognize and emulate the wisdom of those who have gone before. The Bible and common sense are the foundations for effective parenting. The Pearls' first book on child training, To Train Up A Child, was published in August 1994 by No Greater Joy Ministries. To date, over 650,000 have been printed in English and Spanish.

The next 3 books she co-authored were No Greater Joy Volumes 1, 2 and 3.

In 2004 she authored her first book without her husband - a book on marriage, Created to be His Help Meet. This book has sold over 350,000 copies in English and Spanish and has been published in several other languages through rights and licensing agreements.

In 2006 the book was followed up with a Journal authored by Debi Pearl entitled The Help Meet's Journey: A Yearly Companion Journal for Created To Be His Help Meet.

In response to the many letters and questions, NGJ publishes a free bimonthly, 40-page magazine. Our website offers many free messages available for downloading.

The Vision, published in mid-2009, is Debi Pearl's first novel in a planned series published by Pearl Books LLC.

You can learn more about Debi, her books, and read her blog at

Customer Reviews

This book has changed my life and marriage!
jeanne gustafson
You will either love this book, or hate it, depending on how soft your heart is to what God calls you to do as a woman designed by Him.
gods faithfull servant
She was a good little girl, just like Debi told her to be, and she NEVER "gossipped" about her husband.
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83 of 93 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on June 4, 2013
Format: Paperback
Once upon a time, there was a young girl, let's call her HC, who grew up in an abusive household. HC's home was different from the sterotypical abusive home, because the abuser was her mother. HC witnessed her mother punch, kick, slap, and scream at her father over and over again, for almost twenty years.

The greatest desire of HC's heart was to be a good, godly wife, and love a godly husband, but she had no idea how to do it. HC was terrified when she realized she didn't know how to do basic home-making tasks, or deal with regular, non-abusive human conflict and anger. She felt odd and out-of-place in social gatherings, and tried to make up for it by being the life of the party, by being constantly encouraging, and by loving others unconditionally.

However, HC was a fantastic writer and musician. She didn't know it at the time, because her parents pushed her towards law or medicine, and insisted that her writing and music was a waste of her time--or even selfish. HC married a fellow musician and teacher, had a couple of kids, and HC's creative skills were constantly put to good use at her church.

Then one day, after completing a long, intense, emotionally draining creative project, one of HC's friends gave her this book. HC's friend said that it saved her marriage, and that without this book, she probably wouldn't be married today. Since HC was emotionally vulnerable, trusted her friend, and was always looking to improve her own marriage, she agreed.

The introduction had her hooked. Ms. Pearl's nurturing voice called to HC's most tender desires: she understood that some of us didn't have mothers to teach us how to be good wives and mothers ourselves.
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272 of 320 people found the following review helpful By Marie Claire on February 23, 2010
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Debi Pearl states that if your husband molests your children, you should call the authorities and "have him do" time in prison. Then, when he gets out, you should welcome him home with loving arms. Because "God hates divorce without exception."

Let me get this straight. If I'm married to a man who HAS SEX with his own children, not only am I NOT to divorce him, I'm supposed to welcome him back as my husband?? Have sex with him as my husband?? That is sick. What kind of woman in her right mind could have sex with a man who screws children?

Not to mention such a woman would deserve to be disowned by her own children. Can you imagine being a child molested by your father and then have your mother welcome him home? That is a slap in the face to all abused children.

Do we really have to go on about all the other wrong points in this book? That's enough for me!
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885 of 1,085 people found the following review helpful By Piedmont Lady on March 12, 2006
Format: Paperback
I am a Christian wife and mother. I have enjoyed some of the Pearls' writings in the past and I was actually perplexed when I read this book. The overall tone of the book is that nearly all the problems in marriage are caused by some fault in the woman, and if she would just get her act together and do x, y, and z then the marriage would be glorious. Wow - unfortunately, there are no cookie cutter marriages whose problems can all be solved by Debi's book.

Many readers claim this book is great because it is based on the bible, but Mrs. Pearl offers no exegesis on the subject of marriage. For her to claim that her book reveals "God's plan for a heavenly marriage" (p. 15) is misleading. Just because she sprinkled in multiple bible verses and bible stories does not mean Debi has clearly described God's plan for wives.

There are times where the author's biblical illustration completely goes against what the scripture is teaching. One example is in chapter 19 (which deals with the topic of being chaste) where Debi blames Bathsheba for the adulterous affair with David. She claims if Bathsheba had just been more discreet, she could have prevented the calamity that followed. This is not what the bible teaches about that story. Scripture says David was the one who sought her out and initiated the affair. In Second Samuel, God sent the prophet Nathan to rebuke David for his lust and the adultery. It is quite clear in that passage that God put the responsibility on David. I have never heard any pastor implicate Bathsheba when teaching about that story.

This book is supposed to be based in biblical principles but much of the advice comes from Debi's personal opinion. Here are just a few examples.
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452 of 563 people found the following review helpful By A Reader on April 9, 2006
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I would have given this book -100 stars (that's negative 100 stars) if that were possible.

I threw my book out, rather than have some other seeking person harm herself or her family by reading it.

1. I am a Christian.

2. I believe the Bible is divinely inspired.

3. I believe the Bible ordains wives to love, submit to and respect their husbands, and likewise husbands to love their wives, take care of them, and yes, sometimes submit to them in the healthy give-and-take of caring and considerate human relationships, especially Christian relationships (Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:21).

That said, while this book tries to address how wives are to biblically submit to their husbands, yet the book is seriously and dangerously flawed in manner, approach, and teachings.

"Can a corrupt throne be allied with you -- one that brings on misery by its decrees?" Psalm 94:20

To sum up my objections briefly, I thought fiery darts and fear were supposed to come from the Enemy, not from within the Church of God, as in this book!

I cried at Mrs. Pearl's response to one lady -- Mrs. Pearl was full of put-downs and nasty accusations (while merely assuming the lady's motivation and attitudes) when a lady asked for wisdom for a very real problem with her husband. How mean and rude, and not at all like the Lord: "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."

"Dumb-cluck", "leech", and I think "couch-potato" were some of the things Mrs. Pearl called the lady, when it was not obvious from the lady's letter that she was any of those things.
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