The Cult of the Born-Again Virgin: How Single Women Can Reclaim Their Sexual Power [Paperback]

Wendy Keller (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1999

You Can Change Your Life, Heal Your Heart and
ImprovelUl Your Relationships by Harnessing
The Power of Your Sexual Energy

Want to be the first woman on your block to become celibate? You might be too late! Celibacy is sweeping the nation as the choice for intelligent singles of all ages and both genders who are sick and tired of the games, heartbreak and personal chaos created by having sex with people they don't love!
Savvy singles are choosing to be celibate unless or until they fall in love—and they are reaping huge benefits! This book reports on the movement and reveals to you the secrets of how other women just like you have used celibacy to:

1. Attract a great relationship
2. Align their spiritual lives
3. Grow their businesses
4. Return to core values
5. Heal their broken hearts
6. Improve their careers and/or finances
7. Find and achieve their goals
8. Improve their physical or emotional health
9. And hundreds of other great reasons revealed inside this book!

If any of this touches your heart, The Cult of the Earn-Again Virgin is a must-read for you! In its pages, you, too, will discover the secret so many now-celibate women know: "Keep Your Knees Together—Change Your Life!" If you have had it with men who don't value love, marriage or monogamy the way you wish they would, or if your heart has been crushed one too many times, or if you just sense that being sexually active simply isn't working in your life, you're holding the right book in your hands. Don't deprive yourself a moment longer of the life gifts that are your birthright! Bet, The Cult of]fhe Earn-Again Virgin show you how to claim them today!

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

The concept is not a new one: Eve practiced celibacy until the snake tempted her into trading the Garden of Eden for sexual delights; Queen Elizabeth I held on to her virginity as if her kingdom depended on it. All well and good in more repressed times, but is celibacy a reasonable lifestyle choice for women of the sexually liberated 21st century? It may seem like a hard sell, but Keller, a former newspaper and magazine journalist, offers compelling reasons for women to take a break from sexual relations. Calling upon her own experiences and those of women across the country who have not found contentment or joy in their relationships, she details how both short-term and permanent abstinence commonly lead to new confidence and self-esteem. Contending that "tak[ing] sex off one's activity list and put[ting] it on the list of what is revered" enhances one's sense of personal power, control over one's sexuality and the ability to focus on goals (including attracting a better mate)--and also allows more time for nurturing oneself, developing one's spirituality and improving one's health and finances--Keller may overstate the potential benefits. Still, most people experience times when concentrating on these areas while putting sex aside would be a smart move. Although becoming a BAV may not appeal to most women at first, reading this apparently radical but well-argued book may spur many to rethink their initial response. (Feb.)
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From the Publisher

The Born Again Virgins are part of a movement of single thought happening across the culture. In response to the influences on generations of women since the Feminist Revolution, this book represents a return to balance and a chance to make it just as socially acceptable for a woman to say No as there is pressure to say Yes to sexual behavior before she's comfortable.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 273 pages
• Publisher: HCI (January 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 155874696X
• ISBN-13: 978-1558746961
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #860,137 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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20 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Hate the Title Love the Book, October 7, 2000

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This review is from: The Cult of the Born-Again Virgin: How Single Women Can Reclaim Their Sexual Power (Paperback)

As the Publisher notes: "The Born Again Virgins are part of a movement of single thought happening across the culture. In response to the influences on generations of women since the Feminist Revolution, this book represents a return to balance and a chance to make it just as socially acceptable for a woman to say No as there is pressure to say Yes to sexual behavior before she's comfortable."

Balance and acceptance for those who say no before one is comfortable are they key words. I actually read a snotty review of this book in the November 2000 PLAYBOY and it perked my interest as I had read one of the other books they mocked SENSUAL CELIBACY and could see they missed that authors message, so thought they may have done the same with this book The Cult Of The Born Again Virgin. And alas I was right. They failed to mention the women Ms Keller spoke to were all very very well educated and successful and GASP had a mind of their own. Or that she simply challenge society to look beyond their penis and vagina and try thinking with their brain.

Now I will say this...I HATE the title, since born again denotes christian and there are many many of us who come from nonchristian backgrounds i.e. Jewish, Buddhist, Agnostic etc. Having said that it is an excellent book and PLAYBOY once again missed the whole concept that some people have brains and use them and do not see SEX as the end all in life. And are liberal in many many ways!

13 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Wake up to yourselves ladies!, May 12, 2000

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Dave Salhus (Malibu) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Cult of the Born-Again Virgin: How Single Women Can Reclaim Their Sexual Power (Paperback)

After reading "The cult of the BAV" I realized theimportance not just for the women to remain celebate until they are ina relationship with someone that they know is there for more than just a "funny feeling" but also for we men as well. Ive had a fairly extensive past with sex both married and single and have found only emptiness and disappointment following random sexual encounters. I would really be releaved to meet someone that i was attracted to that actually wanted the experience of sex but was headsup enough to want to actually get to know something about the person who i am. I figure that if she is like that with me then she has a strong sense of her own self esteem and value as a partner. People seem not to value the beauty of there physical selves anymore and give it up like kleenex to someone with a runny nose. So. Ladies there are some of us out there who actually do value you for more than just a roll. ...And that just takes a little bit of time to figure out, the men who are not willing to wait arent worth giving it up to, they will be on to the next conquest without giving it a thought. ...You will feel much better about yourselves in the long run. I hear alot of women bad mouthing men and its understandable from the stories i hear, but if you women would stand together instead of competing for a man who may not even be worth your while, then the men with the not so good intent would have no where to go. Give it a try. The real men who are worth it will wait for you will even encourage you to wait until you feel sure, no matter how long, pressure to have sex shouldnt be anypart of it,, not from someone else or even within yourselves. You can do it! And thank you Wendy for getting this message out, hopefully this message will spread like a wild fire and some healing will begin to take place. DMS

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Right on the Mark!, December 28, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: The Cult of the Born-Again Virgin: How Single Women Can Reclaim Their Sexual Power (Paperback)

Maybe this book hit at just the right time. Maybe it's that I admire this woman's ability to clearly, calmly & courageously challenge the norm of sexuality in today's dating world (= meet someone, go out a few times, seems to be something special - why wait?) While the tone is sometimes a bit overzealous & repetitious, the author hits many "uh-huh" points for those who have lived through shorter-term relationships that became sexual before each person's true thoughts & goals were clarified. (Translation: OUCH!) She includes references to spirituality, including different religions, and focuses on the need to examine, develop & live by your own guidelines for becoming sexual. We all know that having sex usually changes the expectations in a relationship, and this book encourages you to make conscious choices before "doing it". She encourages using the energy saved on wasted relationships to make a better life for yourself & the world. Not a man-hating book - in fact, her belief is that voluntary celibacy can increase the possibility of having caring, honest relationships. Not for everyone, but if you find that you repeatedly give your body - and heart - away to those who don't follow through, buy it today!