Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who is Driving You Crazy (Paperback)

~ Jeffrey P. Wittman (Author) "I felt I had no life of my own when we were together...like I was drowning..." (more)
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Product Description

This empowering guide is an inspirational roadmap for the millions of men and women navigating a rocky relationship with a former spouse-while trying to maintain a healthy atmosphere for their child. Topics include:

* The 7 strategies for peace when an ex refuses to change
* Skills for taming former in-laws
* Ways to help children cope with a difficult parent
* Strategies and alternatives for focusing anger
* How to avoid hot-button issues
* How to nudge an ex to change for the better
* Ways to deal with children's questions and confusion
* The new partner's role in the old partner's shadow

This is the book for every frustrated parent coming out of a divorce who needs support in setting things right-the healthy, sensible, and sane way.

About the Author

Jeffrey P. Wittman, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, family therapist, and divorce mediator whose private practice concentrates on services for divorcing families, including the "Kids First" program.

Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Perigee Trade (October 9, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0399527109
• ISBN-13: 978-0399527104
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.1 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 2.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #69,422 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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Most Helpful Customer Reviews

19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Change your ex!, January 9, 2002

By A Customer

Well you may not be able to change them but...This practical, common sense guide offers communication techniques that will not only help you deal with a difficult ex-husband or ex wife, but also teaches you how to examine your own role in these sticky situations. This book offered useful advice on how to be civil when the other party is not. This book helps you communicate effectively and stay in control of yourself and your situation. If for no other reason you can learn how to minimize the conflicts between you and your ex that affect your children. This book allows you to put your children's needs first.

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent tool for divorced and divorcing parents, December 25, 2001

By A Customer

I have made this book required reading for my divorce and mediation clients. Dr. Wittmann provides simple, direct strategies which allow struggling parents to focus on what is truly important....raising healthy, well adjusted children. Mediators and divorce attorneys would be doing thier clients a great service by recommending this book!

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars custody chaos, PERSONAL PEACE, June 8, 2005

By	L. Yesitis "lisa" (nv) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I teach a coparenting through and after divorce class so I have purchase several books on coparenting and been disappointed by the same information regurgitated by different authors. This book, while it offers the same basic skills as others, provides a unique perspective that if utilized can lead to personal peace. I imagine it can be difficult for some to read because there is a heavy focus on accepting responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, and actions and changing your own outlook and behavior to obtain personal peace,(which in turn leads to a more peaceful relationship with your coparent.) The book also asks that you learn to view your coparent differently, as a human being who makes mistakes, but is probably doing the best they can, even providing exercises on forgiveness which could be hard to handle if you have not let go of anger. The book is easy to read, provides real life examples, and summarizes the points to remember at the end of each chapter. Overall, it is a great book I recommend to everybody who attends my classes.