A.D.D. & Romance: Finding Fulfillment in Love, Sex, & Relationships [Paperback]

Jonathan Halverstadt (Author), Daniel Amen (Foreword)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 1, 1998

In A.D.D. and Romance, licensed therapist Jonathan Scott Halverstadt looks at how attention deficit disorder can damage romantic relationships when partners do not take time, or do not know how, to address this unique problem. The book aims to give people with A.D.D. and their partners the tools they need to build and sustain a more satisfying and fulfilling relationship.

Editorial Reviews

Review

No more of that not paying attention to what your lover is saying. (Diane Eicher Denver Post )

This book aims to provide people with attention deficit disorder and their partners with the essential tools needed to build and sustain a satisfying, fulfilling relationship. (Abilities )

...offers a set of very practical guidelines to help us understand the patterns that have not worked in past relationships, as well as strategies to find and maintain gratifying love relationships. (Addvance )

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Taylor Trade Publishing; 1 edition (October 1, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 087833209X
• ISBN-13: 978-0878332090
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (33 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #130,483 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #51 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Disorders & Diseases > Attention Deficit Disorder

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50 of 53 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars helpful in understanding how &why i function as i do, November 10, 2002

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newly diagnosed college student (north carolina, usa) - See all my reviews

This review is from: A.D.D. & Romance: Finding Fulfillment in Love, Sex, & Relationships (Paperback)

i found this book to be extremely helpful. everything i've read deals with what makes someone add and ways to deal with add (ie. meds and orginational skills). being that i was only 17 when i first read it, i did not apply it to any kind of romantic relationship but to realtionships with my parents and my friends. more importantly it made me very aware of some the bad, hurtful habits i have (like interupting) that i didn't even relieze 1)that i was doing it and 2) that they might really be hurting people and my relationships with them.

131 of 148 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Things about this book to be aware of., August 3, 2007

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Kristina M. Spurgin - See all my reviews
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This review is from: A.D.D. & Romance: Finding Fulfillment in Love, Sex, & Relationships (Paperback)

This book was informative about learning the basics of how ADD can affect relationships, from the perspective of both ADD and non-ADD partners. It was the first book I read on the subject, so I learned a fair amount.

That said, there are some things I wish I had known about this book before I bought it. These may not be issues for many, but there are plenty of us out there who would like to know these things:

1. This book is completely heteronormative. All relationships discussed are M/F.

2. The book assumes the relationship in question is marriage or imminently headed in that direction

3. The book assumes traditional monogamy as the only non-harmful form of relationship.

4. As the book progresses there is more and more Christianity slipped in. First there are more and more references to God and praying for help. Then there is a recommendation of the Promise Keepers, and reading the Bible together.

5. The book very strongly recommends medication for ADD partners, with no real discussion of options or strategies for people who may not be comfortable with being medicated. The implication is that if you care about your relationship, you will medicate.

6. It is hard to understand how the three children of the book's "model couple" as a success story of an ADD relationship get taken care of, given all the things this couple do to keep their relationship strong. I read it thinking they must have a live-in nanny, which just isn't realistic for the vast majority of people.

If any of these things are going to turn you off or irritate you, you may want to check out a different book on this topic.

34 of 35 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book is very helpful to spouses of people with ADD/ADHD, April 17, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: A.D.D. & Romance: Finding Fulfillment in Love, Sex, & Relationships (Paperback)

I found this book to very helpful in dealing with my relationship with my husband and sister who have adult ADD/ADHD. It gave me some useful techniques on how to communicate better with the ADDers in my life. Until now, there haven't been very many books about ADD in relationships. I strongly reccommend this book.