Dangerous Relationships: How to Stop Domestic Violence before It Stops You takes a preventative approach to domestic violence by answering the question "What can I do to avoid getting into a violent domestic relationship?," yet will also be helpful for those already in the midst of a violent relationship. Domestic violence does not suddenly appear out of a void. The majority of domestic violence incidents emerges from certain types of recognizable relationships. Dr. Noelle Nelson, a noted clinical psychologist and therapist, has helped many clients identify the common characteristics that run through most violent relationships, and thus avoid potentially dangerous heterosexual or same-sex relationships. Knowing what to look for and how to uncover a potentially abusive relationship before it ever gets to the physically violent stage greatly diminishes your chances of becoming a victim of domestic violence. The author clearly describes the seven warning signs attributed to these types of relationships, and advises how to proceed once you recognize such warning signs. Dr. Nelson systematically tracks and defines the characteristics of the potentially abusive domestic relationship through the development of four very different real-life scenarios: heterosexual lovers, husband and wife, homosexual lovers, and platonic female roommates. The situations discussed are composites of real events and real people, and they represent the most common relationships involving domestic violence. As different as these relationships may appear on the surface, Dr. Nelson shows they are actually very similar in their underlying dynamics. Dangerous Relationships ultimately points out that domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation. The author's sole purpose is to help stop domestic violence between adults before it has a chance to start - and before the hurting begins.
My mother named me "Noelle" because, being French, she wanted me to have a French name that couldn't be mispronounced in English. Didn't work. I've been called "No-No," "Noellie" "the First Noel" (among others), but my favorite is "Noilly" (think no-oil-ee). Poor woman, she meant well . . . Meanwhile, growing up in California with a French mom and a Cincinnati, Ohio, born-and-bred Dad was an adventure: European discipline, MidWest values and organic foods before anyone knew what organic was. My stylish Parisien mother would have loved fashion-plate children, instead she got my tomboy sister and a bookworm - me.
My not-very-straight-line path took me to Wellesley (briefly), UCLA (BA), the Sorbonne in Paris (Doctorat), United States International University (Ph.D.) with assorted jobs along the way: medical receptionist, department store salesgirl, 2nd stage manager at the Lido (Paris), actress (inevitable - I grew up in SoCal), acting coach, clinical psychologist (really), trial consultant, AUTHOR! Finally. The thing I love best to do. Well, along with giving seminars, speeches, creating videos . . . enough of that.
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The one outstanding lesson life has taught me over and over, and that runs through all my writings in a variety of ways is that life, this life, and everything that is in it - you, me, the animals, the earth, our planet, the galaxy, God, all of it - is most present, most fulfilled when it is grandly, genuinely, thoroughly appreciated. Appreciation is the cornerstone of love, for only when you value something, cherish it, do you come to love it. And so it is that I write about what I discover anew every day - the greatest gift of all is appreciation.
Thank you for giving me yet another opportunity to appreciate. You.
