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A Frustrating Mess, September 2, 2009
This review is from: Dangerous Women: Why Mothers, Daughters, and Sisters Become Stalkers, Molesters, and Murderers (Hardcover)
For me, this book was a frustrating mess. At first, I thought the reason I was frustrated with this book was that it was coming from a social work/psychiatric viewpoint instead of a law enforcement/legal perspective. However, in the end, I had to concede that it isn't the view that it takes but the fact that Larry Morris cops out and takes the old "abuse excuse" route. Even when the women commit heinous crimes against individuals, they are not held responsible. Dr. Morris falls back on `oh she was abused" or "oh she is mentally ill" excuse and then completely and utterly absolves the woman of responsibility for her crime. He jumps through hurdles to *not* assign blame." For example, in the chapter entitled, "Taboo Breakers," he writes about a woman by the name of Virginia Lion. Virginia Lion sexually molested and exploited her children. She knowingly and willingly took pictures of her children in sexually provocative poses, sexually abused them, made them abuse each other and made these children perform sex acts in front of her while she had phone sex with her lover, who was in prison. Virginia, though, isn't responsbile for her actions. No,according to Dr. Morris, she was just desperate for love and kept picking the wrong men. It wasn't that she knowingly exploited her children, no she was just a victim of her prison lover, who *made* her do this. She isn't the perp, he was. She is, yet again, just one more woman, who doesn't commit her crimes of her own volition, but one who commits a crime because of a man. The man, who was in prison, made her commit her crimes. Luckily, the judge saw her for what she was and sentenced her to 500 hundred years. A sentence that left Dr. Morris "astonished." The second thing that bothered me was that Dr. Morris seems to have absolutely no compassion for the victims. In fact, it often times seems as if he elevates the female perpetrator's suffering over that of her victims. There are always two victims in Dr. Morris' eyes...the woman and the victim(s). How insulting and cruel that is to the victim! The victim who was molested, or murdered, or whose hand was held over an open flame until the skin burned off, their pain is secondary. In fact, you never really hear from a victim until you get to the chapter on clergy abuse. Then you get several different accounts. It is unfortunate that one has to wait eight chapters to hear first hand from a victim. This also underscores what I perceive as an anti-religion bias in his book. Dr. Morris never fails to mention a person's religious upbringing if he can. The sad thing about this book is that there are some good things in it but they get lost. The chapters on how he became a forensic psychologist and the court system, the chapter on the oversexualization of our children, the emphasis on recognizing mental illness, and the chapter on preventive measures (ie parenting classes) are all really important things we need to recognize and implement in our society. However, these are not things that are specific to women. The book ultimately fails because the things that he pinpoints that need to be addressed, the "whys" of why women kill are ultimately not gender specific. Women kill for the same reasons men kill. They kill because of greed, hatred, power, opportunity, "love," territory etc. We hold men responsible for their crimes even though abuse, mental abuse, molestation etc occur in their lives, it is time that we hold women accountable also. Dr. Morris doesn't. Dena P.S. A much better book to read if one wants to explore why women commit crimes is: When She was Bad: Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence by Patricia Pearson.
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Expected better by a professional psychologist, April 8, 2009
This review is from: Dangerous Women: Why Mothers, Daughters, and Sisters Become Stalkers, Molesters, and Murderers (Hardcover)
Given that this was written by licensed psychologist, I expected use of real citations (instead of pop psych books), and more professional distance. I also expected more accuracy (Lenore Walker did Not come up with the concept of Learned Helplessness but just applied it to women in abusive relationships). Why do we need a book explaining Why women are violent; we don't write them about men. There is a perpetuation that women's aggression is somehow deviant in a way that males' isn't.
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Insulting and enraging, October 22, 2010
This review is from: Dangerous Women: Why Mothers, Daughters, and Sisters Become Stalkers, Molesters, and Murderers (Hardcover)
Dangerous Women: Why Mothers, Daughters, and Sisters Become Stalkers, Molesters, and Murderers was supposed to be an insightful book into the minds of deranged female criminals. Alas it was not. The first three women profiled were Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, and Britney Spears, which do not fall into the category of stalkers, molesters, or murderers. That's not to say they are saints, but definitely not the caliber of the rest of the women in the book. Plus, if I wanted to hear about their sordid lives, I would have read a sleazy tabloid or watched E! The author tries to make the argument that these women are dangerous because they are "oversexed, under-dressed" celebrities that young girls look up to. First of all, I can produce a huge laundry list of similar celebrities. Second of all, the "danger" that these women pose isn't within them, but an inherent part of our society that needs to be changed. These women were never mentioned again in the book or cited as the cause for any crimes. The author makes outrageous and enraging points at times. He tries to make the case that aggression in young boys is typical, and therefore acceptable, but aggression in young girls is horrible and dangerous. He states that women being sexual "flies in the face of all we think we know about our mothers, sisters, and other women." He poses this question: "If an adult molests a child, who is responsible? Who needs protection?" I think this is completely outrageous and insulting to imply that the molestation might be the fault of the child. Throughout the book, there was a generally misogynistic tone with occasionally derogatory language. These are only a few grievances I have with this book. This book angered me and insulted me. It was still an interesting read in that I got to see an opinion different than mine. Another similar book is See Jane Hit by James Garbarino.
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