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Dare to Discipline

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Book should be entitled "Dare to Hit Your Child with Whatever is Handy". Dobsen extolls virtues of his wife snapping their not yet two-year-old with a switch across the shins, can you imagine? He also attests that he received great benefit, as a child, by being spontaneously walloped by his mom's girdle, complete with buckles and straps.

The fact is, that spontaneous anger from a parent can be beneficial to a child, in seeing that his actions may set off undesired reactions. Yet, spontaneous violence sends an absolutely wrong message of physical superiority making "right" in a confrontational situation.

My children turned out quite well, I think with equal parts luck, love, and parental boundries. I didn't get anything from this book (I read it years ago) that I utilized in child-rearing, except a dedication to never hit my children.

"Dare to Discipline" by Dr. James Dobson is a dangerous book that can lead to child abuse. If you are an adult person who had abusive parents, and you are trying to break the cycle of abuse, DO NOT READ THIS BOOK.

The concepts in "Dare to Disciple" about overcoming a child's will and Dobson's ongoing pushing of the "need" for correction can come off, to an abuse survivor, as justification for physical abuse of a child. This is a terrible tragedy, as proper discipline and guidance are essential for a child, but a safe pattern for that is not found in "Dare to Discipline."

Any person who grew up physically, emotionally, or abused in any other way needs to AVOID Dr. Dobson's concepts, especially "Dare to Discipline."

In order for adult abuse survivors to be good parents, they need to deal with the faulty "discipline" and abusive patterns that were beaten into them. That will be greatly hindered if abuse survivors read books by Dr. James Dobson.

First adult abuse survivors need to relearn proper childhood and to heal from the abuse. An excellent book for that is, "Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused" by Steven Farmer.

Christianity offers healing and hope for people, but for those who survived abusive parents (especially those who did the abuse form a religious motive) must avoid Dr. James Dobson's concepts. A good resource for that is "The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse" by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen.

I am not meaning to put down Dr. James Dobson, but his work is truly dangerous for adult survivors of childhood abuse.

Thanks for reading my review.

The book is great. Everyone with children or who are planning to have children should read this. I purchased the book used, and it is in great shape.

My father used Dobson's methodology as a license to strike. If you wish to die alone in a nursing home, I suggest you listen to those who worship hate and violence. There is not a day that I don't dream of lashing my old man with a studded belt to punish him in return, and am contemplating not having children to let the cycle of violence end with me.

God bless America, we really need it....

I read the book. Raised 4 children, and never needed to "spank" them, thanks to the teachings in this book. Parents know that a lot depends upon the child. Some children are deliberately disobedient to authority, if that is not corrected, you can count the days until they will be disobedient to the police or higher authorities. It is best to teach them when they are young, and that is what the book is teaching. People who say this book teaches violence are wrong. It is filled with love for children.

I read the book with each child we had [ 4 times]. I found it practical and common sense. There are a lot of folks who buy into worldly philosophy and ignore the Creators values and means. In no way does the book advocate violence. Our children are now adults and are requesting copies now that the grandkids have come along.

I continue to marvel at "men" like James Dobson who blatantly ignores all the solid statistical evidence that children brought up with love and without violence function better in life.
Dobson is also an anti-porn crusader, and he also ignores the fact that anywhere porn has been legalized, rape statistics have dropped dramatically. (Source: the book 'Porn 101')

I borrowed this book from a co-worker who used Dr Dobson's methods to raise her 2 ,now grown, children. I would recommend this to anyone with questions or concerns on any kind on displine. It changed many of the beliefs I had previously held on displine. Dr Dobson teaches how to incorporate displine and love and that the two go together.