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Dare to Love: The Art of Merging Science and Love Into Parenting Children with Difficult Behaviors

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I have Beyond Consequences volume 1 & 2. Dare to Love really gives more in depth answers. It pulled it all together for me. This method has saved my family and I wish every adoptive family and foster family would go through this training. Thanks for helping us even more!

I felt so alone, insecure and desperate when searching for help with my adoptive teenage son. Heather Forbes gave me hope and reassurance. I read the book in one night and started applying what I had learned the very next day. This book has changed my relationship with my son overnight! It is amazing! Even though there are still many challenges to face together, our relationship is 1000% better. I understand that some of his perplexing behavior is fear-based and it makes all the difference. I realize that he is not angry and defiant as much as afraid, deeply afraid. Heather Forbes really gets kids (and their parents) with troubling behaviors. I cried the first time I read her books because she understood me and my sweet (albeit angry and afraid) boy. My friends with birth children don't always understand our approach to our son - they are much more punishment and consequence oriented than us - but the results speak for themselves. Love always works - I just didn't know how to show my love to my son in a way he understood. I highly recommend this book - and Forbes' other books - for any parent with an adopted child. Adopted kids are different from "birth kids" and the approach must be different. And yet, it isn't that hard, either, when you truly understand the reason behind some of those challenging and difficult behaviors. Heather Forbes has a Yahoo group as well which has been enormously helpful to me for connection with other parents like me who love our kids with difficult behaviors. Don't listen to other parents or to your friends, listen to Heather Forbes. It really works for me.

This book is a must-read for all foster and adoptive parents, child welfare workers, and other professionals working with kids that challenge our abilities to help, and highly suggested for ALL parents. I am a biological parent of adult kids, and a foster and adoptive mom of children with many issues and "labels." I wish I had Heather's information when I was raising my now adult kids--what a difference it would have made!

I have worked through my own "triggers" and learned to connect the experiences and feelings of my own childhood stuff to why I reacted to my kids' stuff in the way I did. This huge breakthrough is thanks to the concepts and understandings explained in Dare to Love (and the other books in the series: Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control, Volumes 1 and 2). Get all three; you will be glad you did!

I am now joyfully and calmly parenting my nine year old adopted daughter, who has a long list of diagnoses, and spent her life from age 10 months to age 8 in the foster care system. Truly loving unconditionally is something most of us do not have a parenting "blueprint" for--Dare to Love will show you how to re-write your parenting blueprints, and really love yourself and your children in a powerful, healing way. I don't even want to THINK about trying to raise this precious child without this love-based approach; truly, finding Heather's work enabled me to be the mom I always knew I could be and always wanted to be.

Don't wait, as I did with my adult kids, hoping that traditional parenting approaches will help you create the family life you want and deserve. Read Dare to Love, read it again, and soak up the love and wisdom that Heather Forbes offers to all of us. You and your children are worth it!

For 7 years I couldn't find a therapist ( that my son and myself) who could help me the way Heather Forbes did , through her books Beyond Concequences and now Dare to Love ....For 7 years any therapist did make me understand the real reason why my son was behaving the way he did , or couldn't stop his violent behaviors !

It is Heather Forbes who made me comprehend what I needed to know ,and I could see rapidly my child shifting in a more pleasant life.

It was as well the beginning of my own healing!

If you are a parent with a child who has" inapropriate " behaviors, the book Dare to LOVE has all the answers a parent is looking for .

Heather Forbes gave me back my sanity! And made me realised that it is through communication that I could heal my son!

The only way to raise a child is through LOVE and through love Heather Forbes will explain step by step on how to deal with each situation you might encounter .

And with unconditional love you will be able to have the real relationship you are dreaming to have with your child!

If you only want one book about parenting , this is the one.

In Dare to Love, Heather Forbes answers questions about how to deal with all kinds of difficult behavior in children--questions from parents who are in the trenches of raising children who struggle. Many parents read a book on parenting and say to themselves, "Well, yeah, but what about . . ." This book takes on those "yeah, but"s directly and gives great insight into how to help our kids. I've seen incredible progress in our family as we have embraced the information in Heather's books.

This is an excellent addition to the Beyond Consequences resources for professionals, families, and caregivers. I personally would recommend this book along with the Beyond Consequences books 1 & 2. The format of the book provides real life questions by parents and caregivers with direct answers from Heather Forbes. I loved this format. I couldn't put the book down. If you are searching for a better way to connect with your children, please look up Heather Forbes!

I love this book,as well as the other two, written by Heather Forbes. It answers questions regarding the Beyond Consequences pareting paradigm that pop up on a daily basis, when parenting a child with difficult behaviors. The book provides new examples for application of the paradigm in different situations. I like the question/answer format and I use it as a quick handy reference when I am seeking answers to my own dysregulation. Thanks Heather!