The Dark Side of Love [Mass Market Paperback]

Jane G. Goldberg (Author)

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

In her instructive report on "better ways to love," psychoanalyst Goldberg ( Deceits of the Mind ) argues that "the key to a stronger love lies in our use of hate." Drawing on her professional experiences, her own relationships and those of family and friends, she examines how potentially destructive emotions coexist with even the most fulfilling love, and she stresses the importance of acknowledging those dark emotions. She correlates some of the vast research by Freud and other analysts with ancient mythology to validate the existence of hate, and concludes that the ability to recognize hate is an "essential ingredient" in the building of a "strong psychological immune system." Of particular interest are the chapters devoted to the many aspects of narcissistic love and to Goldberg's discussion of the role of "ghostly hate" in the therapeutic relationship. Stimulating and useful.
Copyright 1993 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

Love has a dark side, claims practicing psychoanalyst Goldberg, whose main thesis is that all relationships evoke mixed feelings. At times everyone hates his or her spouse, child, or parent, and avoidance of these negative emotions can only be accomplished by suppressing all feeling. The problem with this bit of common talk-show wisdom is a lack of supportive research. For patrons who want to explore what research psychologists have discovered about anger, stick with Carol Tavris's Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion (S. & S., 1989. rev. ed.). For patrons seeking self-help material, Harriet Goldhor Lerner's The Dance of Anger (HarperCollins, 1989) is far more realistic and detailed. Not recommended.
- Mary Ann Hughes, Washington State Univ. Libs., Pullman
Copyright 1993 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Mass Market Paperback: 306 pages
• Publisher: Tarcher; 1st trade paperback ed edition (September 22, 1994)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0874777763
• ISBN-13: 978-0874777765
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,481,097 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Jane G. Goldberg, Ph.D. has been a practicing psychoanalyst for over thirty-five years. As a psychoanalyst, Dr. Goldberg has specialized in working with cancer patients and has successfully integrated her psychoanalytic work with the field of mind/body health. She has worked with many cancer patients who have defied the odds and attribute their success in combating the disease to their work with her.
Recently, Dr. Goldberg has become particularly interested in the brain, and has put together a series of classes of exercises that stimulate the wide-open land of the new-born brain, the race-horse feature of the adolescent brain, and the wise and mature (but sometimes forgetful) aging brain.
In 1986, Dr. Goldberg founded La Casa Resort Spa, located in the Puerto Rico rain forest. She was persuaded by her resort guests to open a NYC facility so that they could continue their mind/body work there as well, and in 1993 Dr. Goldberg opened La Casa Day Spa in the flatiron district of NYC, now the oldest spa in New York.
Dr. Goldberg is a prolific writer in the field of psychoanalysis. She has published numerous scholarly articles and has authored eleven books: The Literary Works of Dr. Jane G. Goldberg, Volumes I-IV: Vol. I: Psychoanalytic Writings, Vol. II: Whole Health Writings, Vol. III: Autobiographical Writings, Vol. IV: Imaginative Writings (to be published); Because People Are Dying; The Inner Lives of Mothers; Princess Diana: Modern-Day Moon-Goddess; The 5 Elements of Healing; Insparations (if you can do it at a spa, you can do it at home); The Dark Side of Love (the positive role of our negative feelings); Deceits of the Mind (and their effects on the body); and Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients.
Dr. Goldberg is recognized as one of the nation's leading authorities in the fields of psychological oncology and mind/body health. As such, she is a frequent speaker at conventions and conferences nation-wide, both professional and lay. As well, she has published numerous scholarly articles. She is consulted and quoted often by popular magazines and newspapers as an "expert" on relationships and mind/body health, including such diverse publications as The New York Times Magazine, New York Observer, Crain's, Daily News, Vegetarian Times, Marie Claire, Harper's Bazaar, Allure, Self, Cancer Forum, Women's Wear Daily, Natural Living, Delicious, The Times Picayune, The Mainliner, Greater Washington Senior Beacon, Weight Watchers, Bride, First for Women and dozens others.
In addition, Dr. Goldberg is often called as a guest on television and radio. She has appeared on The Donahue Show, Sally Jesse Raphael, Jane Whitney, Rikki Lake, the Maury Povich Show, the Morton Downy Show, Maureen O'Boyle and others. She is such a popular guest that she has appeared several times on most shows. In addition, she has been interviewed on both radio and television news shows across the nation, including National Public Radio.
In February 20, 2002 she was given the Changing Destiny Award by Save a Parent, Help a Child, and was presented with the award by Susan Sarendon. In 1994, she was named Most Admired Woman of the Decade by the American Biographical Institute. She was chosen in Edition Five of the 5000 Personalities of the World.
She is listed in Who's Who of American Women, Who's Who in Medicine and Healthcare, Who's Who in the East, Who's Who of Women, International Who's Who of Professional and Business Women, Who's Who in Science and Engineering, Who's Who in the World, Who's Who in American Writers, International Who's Who in Medicine.
Dr. Goldberg is a mother as well as an avid runner, swimmer and advanced belt in Tae Kwon Do.

Customer Reviews

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5.0 out of 5 stars One of the BEST books I have EVER read. Most recommended., December 14, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: The Dark Side of Love (Mass Market Paperback)

A remarkably well-written book - a MUST for everyone's library. It is a book about all of us, and on how to understand and manage *love* - this most important aspect of each of our lives. It is a more than worthy successor to such classics as Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving," Thomas Harris's "I'm OK, You're OK," and M. Scott Peck's "The Road Less Traveled." If you should have the even the *slightest* reason to do so, I would strongly urge you to *read* this book!

William Antonio Boyle, 14 December 1998

5.0 out of 5 stars Must read if you want to understand love, July 16, 1998

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This review is from: The Dark Side of Love (Mass Market Paperback)

For me this book helped me see beyond the Holliwood vision of relationships. It gave me a framework for understanding them as they really are; lots of hard work and occasional pain.