Many mothers have disturbing fantasies of killing their children. Husbands imagine, with guilt, cheating on their wives. Parents stand on the brink of hitting their teenage children, or may actually do so, while the teens fabricate elaborate strategies of revenge. Hurt, pain, uncontrollable rage, and other forms of abuse also make up the dark side of love. This landmark book has a bold thesis: The denied dark side of love that can show us love's true nature. By acknowledging our "negative" feelings, we can come into the full spectrum of emotion and hear the message of our darker feelings, without acting them out. Through this, we can increase our capacity for love.
To explain her perspective, Jane Goldberg traces the development of love and hate from infancy. She debunks simplistic myths about mother love and portrays the mother/child bond in all its facets. She explores the hidden recesses of family love and romantic love and shows how the acceptance of constructive expressions of anger, jealousy, and competition can enhance intimacy. Drawing on case histories from her psychoanalytic practice, as well as mythic stories, Goldberg offers insights into the troubling but universal nature of the dark side of love.
In a highly accessible style she explores how to develop a "psychological immune system" to protect against the potentially destructive elements in relationships and allow for a constructive expression of love's dark side. Her debate-provoking book should be read by psychoanalysts and psychotherapists, individuals who have suffered from the pains and hurts of love, and indeed, by those who are interested in human motivation and behavior.
Jane G. Goldberg is a psychoanalyst in private practice. She is on the faculty of the Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies and is director of La Casa Resort Spa in Puerto Rico and La Casa Day Spa in New York City. She is the author of Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients, and Deceits of the Mind (and Their Effects on the Body), and the La Casa Whole Health Handbook and Cookbook.
Jane G. Goldberg, Ph.D. has been a practicing psychoanalyst for over thirty-five years. As a psychoanalyst, Dr. Goldberg has specialized in working with cancer patients and has successfully integrated her psychoanalytic work with the field of mind/body health. She has worked with many cancer patients who have defied the odds and attribute their success in combating the disease to their work with her.
Recently, Dr. Goldberg has become particularly interested in the brain, and has put together a series of classes of exercises that stimulate the wide-open land of the new-born brain, the race-horse feature of the adolescent brain, and the wise and mature (but sometimes forgetful) aging brain.
In 1986, Dr. Goldberg founded La Casa Resort Spa, located in the Puerto Rico rain forest. She was persuaded by her resort guests to open a NYC facility so that they could continue their mind/body work there as well, and in 1993 Dr. Goldberg opened La Casa Day Spa in the flatiron district of NYC, now the oldest spa in New York.
Dr. Goldberg is a prolific writer in the field of psychoanalysis. She has published numerous scholarly articles and has authored eleven books: The Literary Works of Dr. Jane G. Goldberg, Volumes I-IV: Vol. I: Psychoanalytic Writings, Vol. II: Whole Health Writings, Vol. III: Autobiographical Writings, Vol. IV: Imaginative Writings (to be published); Because People Are Dying; The Inner Lives of Mothers; Princess Diana: Modern-Day Moon-Goddess; The 5 Elements of Healing; Insparations (if you can do it at a spa, you can do it at home); The Dark Side of Love (the positive role of our negative feelings); Deceits of the Mind (and their effects on the body); and Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients.
Dr. Goldberg is recognized as one of the nation's leading authorities in the fields of psychological oncology and mind/body health. As such, she is a frequent speaker at conventions and conferences nation-wide, both professional and lay. As well, she has published numerous scholarly articles. She is consulted and quoted often by popular magazines and newspapers as an "expert" on relationships and mind/body health, including such diverse publications as The New York Times Magazine, New York Observer, Crain's, Daily News, Vegetarian Times, Marie Claire, Harper's Bazaar, Allure, Self, Cancer Forum, Women's Wear Daily, Natural Living, Delicious, The Times Picayune, The Mainliner, Greater Washington Senior Beacon, Weight Watchers, Bride, First for Women and dozens others.
In addition, Dr. Goldberg is often called as a guest on television and radio. She has appeared on The Donahue Show, Sally Jesse Raphael, Jane Whitney, Rikki Lake, the Maury Povich Show, the Morton Downy Show, Maureen O'Boyle and others. She is such a popular guest that she has appeared several times on most shows. In addition, she has been interviewed on both radio and television news shows across the nation, including National Public Radio.
In February 20, 2002 she was given the Changing Destiny Award by Save a Parent, Help a Child, and was presented with the award by Susan Sarendon. In 1994, she was named Most Admired Woman of the Decade by the American Biographical Institute. She was chosen in Edition Five of the 5000 Personalities of the World.
She is listed in Who's Who of American Women, Who's Who in Medicine and Healthcare, Who's Who in the East, Who's Who of Women, International Who's Who of Professional and Business Women, Who's Who in Science and Engineering, Who's Who in the World, Who's Who in American Writers, International Who's Who in Medicine.
Dr. Goldberg is a mother as well as an avid runner, swimmer and advanced belt in Tae Kwon Do.
