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Is It a Date or Just Coffee?: The Gay Girl's Guide to Dating, Sex, and Romance

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Forty years of heterosexual living did not prepare me for the dilemma of discerning IS IT A DATE OR JUST COFFEE when I started dating women. Well, perhaps dating was too strong a word since it always seems to turn out to be coffee. When straight gals meet straight guys, they know what to expect. With gay-gal dating, they seem to be showering together before reaching a consensus as to whether or not they are friends or something more. Fortunately, Mo Brownsey takes some of the confusion out gay-gal dating with her wonderful book.

From being single, relationships, breakups and mourning, Brownsey covers it all. Need help identifying the dreaded lesbian bed death? Not sure if it's lust or love? Considering multiple partner relationships? Mo supplies the answers along with tongue-in-cheek comedy that will keep you howling with laughter no matter where you are concerning gay-gal relationships. I admit to suffering from STD myself (Sexually Transmitted Denial). For gals like me who find themselves in the midst of redefining their sexuality, and refuse to take the whole dating thing too seriously, Mo Brownsey's book is the definitive answer for the basics of gay-gal dating. Her comedic approach to relationships, breakups, recovery and sex is an indispensable guide for those new to this lifestyle as well as gay-gals who've always know that they weren't straight but love a good laugh. Indeed, straight or lesbian, all women will find themselves in this remarkably astute book. IS IT A DATE OR JUST COFFEE earns the WordWeaving Award for Excellence.

I originally read a review for this in the Gay & Lesbian section of London's Time Out magazine and just had to pick it up!

The only thing that frustrated me was that it seems to be more aimed toward the experienced Lesbian/Bisexual woman than toward newcomers to the scene. However, it is a witty commentary on and guide to same-sex girl relationships and I thought that overall it was a great read. Reading the book really makes me want to see Mo live! This is less a resource guide than a tongue-in-cheek commentary on all aspects of Lesbian singlehood, relationships and dating. A good read for anyone with a sense of humor..gay or straight.

Mo Brownsey's Is It A Date Or Just Coffee?: The Gay Girl's Guide To Dating, Sex, And Romance is a practical guide, laced with wry humor, about countless problems, confusing questions, and delicate issues of lesbian dating, sex, and romance. From distinguishing between potential lovers and just plain friends, to monogamy vs. polyamory, to the special hurdles of the bisexual and the bi-curious, Is It A Date Or Just Coffee? doesn't have the answers to everything but does have opinions, suggestions, and simple advice for just about anything. Is It A Date Or Just Coffee is a highly recommended, gently-mannered, tongue-in-cheek guidebook written by a gay gal, for gay gals.

I swear to you, I only put this book down long enough to take care of bodily functions. I laughed so hard in the middle of the night while devouring this book (along with some rice pudding) that I frightened my pets. But I told them all about it and even they laughed...especially my girl puppy! Professor Brownsey writes with an incomparable stinging wit tinged with crackling cynicism, yet she remains on the high road, without resorting to meanness or derogatory passages...even through her hilarious self-deprecating stories. The words are true; the very essence of this book feels so real, so right, and so very funny. Mo has hit the nail right on the head with this collection of essays. I predict great success and fame for her. It is FABULOUS...I promise, you'll be recommending it to all your friends!

First of all, I would just like to say that the REAL cover of this book is much more appealing. Softer colors and an oh-so-hot photo of the author sipping coffee while gently tensing her gym biceps. That image alone should make you want to buy this book. However, there is much much more to be gleaned from actually reading it. Ms. Brownsey's advice is sage, her tone witty and her anecdotes are like a page from all our lives. A great X-mas gift for your single lesbian friends.

Mo has struck a chord with me in this deliriously funny take on lesbian dating, sex and romance! If you've gotten too serious about it all, be sure to buy this book and read it. Especially recommended for the newly single!

Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW-C
http://www.coachsappho.com

Valley Gay Press Book Reviewer: Liz Bradbury
A step by step guide to "gay girls" dating, sex and romance. Just broke up or got dumped? You need this book, because good advice is better served with a side dish of laughs.

Mo Brownsey, long time comedian and lesbian studies college professor writes a humor filled book, packed with information lesbian and bisexual women really need. Speaking from vast experience, she starts right out with sage `after-breakup' advice: Take her number off the speed dial! Then deftly covers: baby dykes (yes, they're too young for you), on-line dating (why it frequently doesn't work), the L-word (love), polyamory (not for Mo) and a host of other topics.

Brownsey is the kind of friend who'd not only grab you by the lapels and exclaim, "Snap out of it!" But she'd explain how over pizza until you felt better. If don't have a friend like that, get this book.

As funny as this book is, it is very, very smart and insightful and it would have saved me a lot of anguish during my last relationship. I died laughing over STD (Sexually Transmitted Denial). This author seems to read my mind! She is very cool. The book is very cool. I think Ellen DeGeneres and Margaret Cho need to scootch over a bit and make space for a brilliant comic and writer...she most definitely ranks right up there with the best.

"Is It A Date Or Just Coffee" was a hilarious trip through the confusing and sometimes neurotic gay girl dating scene. Mo uses her singular gift of humor to make the lesbian dating game less awkward and daunting. With chapters like "Blind Date: Think Hunters and Ducks" you know your in for a comic treat! I laughed and cried with Mo over the dating disasters and triumphs. An absoulte must for the newly "out" - it will help calm your nerves.

Mo Brownsey's Is It A Date Or Just Coffee?: The Gay Girl's Guide To Dating, Sex, And Romance is a practical guide, laced with wry humor, about countless problems, confusing questions, and delicate issues of lesbian dating, sex, and romance. From distinguishing between potential lovers and just plain friends, to monogamy vs. polyamory, to the special hurdles of the bisexual and the bi-curious, Is It A Date Or Just Coffee? doesn't have the answers to everything but does have opinions, suggestions, and simple advice for just about anything. Is It A Date Or Just Coffee is a highly recommended, gently-mannered, tongue-in-cheek guidebook written by a gay gal, for gay gals.