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Date Like a Man: What Men Know About Dating and are Afraid You'll Find Out

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The first half of this book provides a self-esteem pep talk and great insight into how men operate, and probably makes it worth the price. It explains how men often think and why some things that you make think are kind (giving him little gifts or paying for dinner) or innocuous (introducing him to your friends or family too soon) are actually scary to many men. The second half was a disappointment. It is filled with simplistic filler -- like lists of types of men & descriptions of each. For example, the "Jock" has "great sexual stamina" and "likes a screamer in bed." The "Nerd" "will go with you to flea markets" and has "kinky Star Trek fantasies", but, the author cautions, "don't bother with a Nerd if sex is vitally important to you". The author advises that take up sailing if you're looking for "Republicans and politically conservative men"; take up rock climbing if you like "high achievers" who are "always reaching for the top." Scuba divers are "deep"; runers "go the distance in relationships." You get the idea -- stereotypes abound. There are also pages titled "Men LIke Blow Jobs" and "Men Like Women Who Swallow" and (although I haven't met them) "Men Don't Like Kissing".

I found the initial pep talk section, which tells us that men adore strong, smart, confident women and encourages us to pursue the PhD or MD and to beat him on the tennis court, to be inconsistent with the advice in the second half of the book -- which suggests that we allow men to rescue us in some ways, so when you find a mouse or spider in your house, don't be afraid to call that cute guy down the street & ask him to come over & help. He may even spend the night on the sofa if you act really scared. (Yes -- that story is in the book). The author also describes a scenario where a client deliberately fell (while rollerblading) in front of a guy she wanted to meet so that he could help her up and give her rollerblading lessons. The message seems to be -- be strong but act weak. Although the author acknowledges up front that dating is game-playing (because men like to play games, she tells us), the advice in the second half of the book seemed a little too manipulative, advising single women, for example, to take a fly-fishing course in Montana.

This is worth reading for pep talk & the insight into how men think & operate. I'm not sure I'd bother with the overgeneralizations & game-playing advice in the second half.

Okay, so after reading this book, I've learned that I'm the only guy on the planet that likes to kiss girls, and I'm "homophobic" because I'm ...insecure about my "size." C'mon ladies! Where do you get this information? A little too much TV, huh? I saw a girl reading this book, and she had so many pages bookmarked, I had to check it out. I have to agree with many of the themes and statements, but ladies, we're not all this insane. I wear cologne everywhere I go, and half the time its because I like the smell of it. This books says "No guy wears colgne unless he's trolling." Really? So I suppose I'm in love with my cousins, since I wear cologne around family... huh? Don't be so general, and give a guy a break, would you? Don't fill the head of my future wife with such [junk].

I recently decided to join the fun-filled world of dating again. Dating for fun. I read a couple of other books and was really psyched up about it. Then I read this book and wanted to crawl under a rock. I thought maybe I am not ready to get back in the game. Maybe I can't do this. I did not feel entirely good about the situation. Perhaps it was the generalizations about men. I personally do not feel that all men are either pigs or unemotional robots, who care nothing for human beings and all they want is sex, sex, and more sex. Perhaps it is because I am a woman. And I like being a woman, and I don't want to treat dating like a science. I also like to be whimsical and have fun. I don't like my relationships with people to be structured. The authors recommend that you only see the person that you are dating once a week for four months. And that you have a pair and a spare. I just felt her whole attitude towards dating was very cold and machine-like. Date one hundred men before you get married??? What if number 7 is your lucky number? She claims that the goal towards dating should not be marriage. But it sure felt like that was supposed to be the goal to me. Who knows, maybe I am wrong and will end up alone. Admittedly, I read this book for a reason, so I might not know what I am talking about.

The author keeps referring to the book as a "program" and I may be wrong, but this isn't a "program." It is a bunch of advice.

I did give the book two stars because I did feel that there was some good advice. She talks about where to meet people, and the type of men you are likely to attracted at these activites. (generalizations) She also recommends not to dress like a slut, because then men will want you for the dreaded "one thing only." She also focuses on working on the inner self, which is probably the most important advice to ending up in healthy relationships. There is also a lot of stress on not depending on a man for financial resources. Become financially dependent on yourself. Which I think is great advice.

If you want to be a man-eater and approach dating in a very cool scientific manner, then this book is for you. If you want to focus on positive fun relationships with people, then this isn't the book for you.

As a seasoned veteran of the dating world, I have become sort of the 'resident guru' on men and dating within my cirlce of friends, co-workers and acquaintances. I subscribe to the principles of this book and I am never at a lack for dates with quality guys. (I'm just not ready to remarry at this point in time.) I have been divorced for 7 years and have had serious marriage proposals from very nice men 4 times post-divorce. I am not a raving beauty -- but I am a woman men fall in love with and a woman they love to be with.

Why? Because I really DO date like a man. Myreah Moore really does know what she's talking about in this book. I read the prior edition and I buy this book for all of my 'newly re-single'girlfriends. It is one of the best gifts I can give them. As a result of changing the ways they date, I have 3 friends who are engaged to and 2 who have married great guys.

Myreah Moore knows her stuff! If you read this book and really change the way you look at men and the way you look at dating, you'll be amazed -- not only will you have more dates than you know what to do with -- you'll gain a great group of male friends who will do anything for you -- not because you used your 'feminine wiles' and whined and manipulated them into it --but because you're such a fun woman to be with.

I wish I could give a copy of this book out to every woman friend past who has ever ruined their lives because of their boyfriends, or those who they thought were their boyfriends. If they actually follow it is another story, but this book is a full frontal attack mixed with humor and insight into others as well as ourselves.

I like the message she is pushing underneith it all, that women can be powerful. She encourages women to go for their MBAs and higher education, you don't have to settle to be a second class citizen. Don't ever let loneliness be your motivation to get involved with bad people on any level. To me many things go without saying, but it's important to tell gals who might be either a little neive or too desperate for attention and wanting to be liked otherwise. I don't know how many gals I've known who have ruined themselves financially, been abused (mentally, physically, or even sexually), have given up everything and moved to other cities or even cross country for some loser who could care less about them. We entertain ourselves as children with fairy tales about a handsome prince who comes riding in on a white horse to take us away to a fantasy world, and what do we do? We pick trolls who we have to mother and wait on hand and foot! They like to chip away at our self esteem because it makes them feel good about themselves. This is a how to for the woman who knows it's more than just looks and body, it's about self worth.

Some have accused this book of being too over the top or too frank about sex at different points. People, there are gals out there who have not watched enough cable TV and more that are the coldest of cold fish out there. You never know what goes on behind closed doors, and more often than not there is NOTHING going on behind those doors! So read books like this and give yourself some idea. Every little bit helps.

I recently started dating again after more than 10 years. I bought several books on dating after a guy I had been dating for two months "cut and run" when I suggested we get together on new year's eve. Now I have a more realistic view of the dating rituals (and "games") and how men need to be the pursuer. Honey, if he isn't pursuing you, he's not the right one. Good practical advice along with do's and don'ts for women by understanding how men approach dating. Along with Venus and Mars on a Date, I highly recommend this book. I read it two times and am sure I will read it over and over again. Myreah is right on and you will find it easy reading.

Coming out of a ten year relationship I truly did not know where to begin. Suddenly, after reading this incredible book my personal life has sprung to life, and I mean I am living the good life of meeting successful, handsome, exciting men. I needed a plan, I couldn't date like a teenager. I am looking for someone to enhance my life out of choice not desperation or need to have a date.

This book is a bible to me and should be to all women. It makes the man hunt fun and throughout Myreah is a guide on this new journey. I treat this like a business and each day I reread different areas I have highlighted to utilize that week.

Just like exercise these are muscles I haven't used for such a long time. Myreah has taught me new exercises and I never feel alone. Her writing is fun and easy to read and I am convinced she is the mistress of dating. Thanks to her my friends and I are going to find the men of our dreams and have great fun along the way.

Anne Bank Financial Consultant and Licensed Psychotherapist

Yes I'm a guy. My wife bought this book for one of her friends but I was able to read though most of it. The authors are dead on about how guys think and act through out the book. Not everything applies to all men but it is true on the whole. You may not like it, but yes, this is what we are like. If you really want to know what that guy is thinking buy this book.

This book, once I finished reading it the first time, now has a very special place in my bathroom. This is not a reflection of the content in a NEGATIVE way. It is there because I use it as a reference, and what better place to do some good, quality reading?!? I refresh my memory before going out to a social event.

This book hits the nail on the head. My most valued lesson is about going to places to meet men. The book says to be happy - smile, make men want to be around you. Men don't women who have problems, or complain a lot. They want a girl who is positive, and will be fun. When I go out, I laugh, smile, talk to people, and am usually the one with the most men around me. It's like a magnet!!!

The other valuable pieces of information provided in this book are too numerous to mention. BUT THEY ARE TRUE, so buy this book. It will soon become your favorite reference book, too.

I came away from this book with a better understanding of the past dating mistakes I've made and how to correct them...better yet, I've come away knowing that the world will not end simply because I'm single. A good book to remind people (women especially! ) that you can be whole without a man. Thanks, Myreah!