The Date Rape Prevention Book [Paperback]

Scott Lindquist (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 1, 1999

The Date Rape Prevention Book is a proactive source of information essential for girls and women to safeguard themselves. Being armed with information is a woman's best defense. These pages look at when and where date rape happens, what turns an ordinary man into a rapist and the three ingredients in most acquaintance rapes.

In non-judgmental terms, the book explores the roles of drugs and alcohol, tells women what to do if they are confronted and provides communication techniques and physical maneuvers that do not require martial arts training to help women escape an escalating situation.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

A crime specialist who frequently gives rape prevention seminars, Lindquist writes in a streetwise voice that will be familiar to those who watch police programs on television, yet that does not mask the genuine sensitivity and sympathy he feels for women who are the victims of rape or attempted rape. Written for men and women of all ages, his book is formatted simply, with easy-to-follow chapters outlining prevention strategies and survival techniques. His advice mixes common sense (follow your instincts) and a degree of caution that can border on paranoia (anybody could be a rapist; trust no one; pour your own drinks--even if you are having soda--and never finish a drink you have left unattended). Still, the book succeeds in three areas. First, it dispels myths about rapists, pointing out that the vast majority are white, middle-class males who attack women they know, often without recognizing that they are committing rape. It also reiterates that nonconsensual sex, even between acquaintances, is a crime that can and--if the survivor is emotionally able to do so--should be prosecuted. Finally, it does not excuse rape by blaming the victim. Detailed sections identifying behaviors that may suggest a man may be dangerous, as well as delicate recommendations on how to treat a survivor and a chapter aimed at men that calls for an end to violence, are particularly helpful. (Apr.)
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From School Library Journal

YA-An important, readable book for all young adults. Lindquist informs readers that a woman is five times more likely to be raped by someone she knows than by a stranger. The first and largest section addresses prevention. Lindquist lists defensive actions a victim can take, dangerous situations to avoid, personality types and actions of potential rapists, and verbalizations that a potential victim can make to lessen her easy-target persona. The second section offers help for those who have suffered the degradation of date rape. How to avoid tampering with potential evidence, why the crime should be reported, how to deal with the police and the court system, and how to go about recovering are all discussed in a compassionate manner. A third section explains harassment, stalking, and dating and domestic violence-what to look for and how to deal with it. The final section addresses male readers and discusses the underlying themes that are so pervasive in movies and the media: that women "ask for it" or "tease" or "don't really mean NO" and are therefore responsible for their own attacks. A well-done and informative presentation that debunks many commonly held beliefs about rape, its victims, and its perpetrators.
Carol DeAngelo, Kings Park Library, Burke, VA
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc. (September 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1570714746
• ISBN-13: 978-1570714740
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,690,802 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Scott Lindquist, C.P.P., C.P.S.

Scott Lindquist is a certified crime prevention practitioner and crime prevention specialist. He is a graduate of the Florida Crime Prevention Training Institute, and has written three non-fiction books on rape prevention. He has been featured internationally in Cosmopolitan magazine (both US & UK) as well as other magazines in the Caribbean and in Australia. He has given hundreds of crime prevention seminars and been interviewed on hundreds of TV and radio stations worldwide. He has made it his life's work to find solutions to violence against women. His new work of fiction, The Jesus Factory, carries on his commitment to find solutions to gender injustice at its very core. He is a committed follower of the Christ and is a member of Unity.

Scott has a new radio show on Blog Talk Radio. It's called: Open Minds Open Hearts - Radio with a purpose. It airs on Monday nights from 8-9 PM Eastern Time. It's a spiritual but not religious talk show that focuses on progressive Christianity. This is an interfaith show that values all faiths and tries to generate compassion for all people. The guest are among the greatest thinkers and religious scholars in the world. You can listen, chat, call in with a question or listen later to the archived show.

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Essential Information for Avoiding Danger from Acquaintances, March 23, 2001

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This review is from: The Date Rape Prevention Book (Paperback)

This book contains the essential information that women and girls need to know about the high risk of being physically threatened and sexually assaulted by a "respectable" person they know. The book does a great job of describing the circumstances under which rape is likely to occur, and what women and men are thinking and doing tht encourages this awful event. I especially liked the way that he redefined rape into "a partial murder." I encourage every female and their parents and friends to read and practice what is contained in this book.

Almost all rape occurs between two people who know one another. So while most women would be careful around strangers, late at night, and while alone, paradoxically that's when they are actually safest from being raped. The most likely rapist is an intelligent, successful white middle class male who has screwy ideas about women. These ideas probably include the fact that if he becomes aroused, he believes it's his right to force sex on the woman no matter what she says. In interviews, fraternity males reported that they only took a woman seriously after she said "no" more than thirty times. If you are in fear for your life, are you really going to be that persistent?

The book is filled with good advice on how to spot one of these mixed-up males. I was interested to learn that many men who have committed rape don't think that they have. That's how serious this problem is.

Women need to be more careful than ever around acquaintances. Easy availability of indiscernable drugs that can cause a woman to pass out means that women need to pour their own drinks (even if they are water) and keep an eye on them. Almost all of the rapes by acquaintances also involve use of alcohol or drugs.

The book also explores the problems of recovering from a rape, dealing with stalkers, and avoiding domestic violence.

An excellent final chapter speaks directly to men, and challenges the assumptions that some men use to justify rape.

The only part of the book that I did not like was a section on how to fight back. It has a list of some pretty gruesome things to do. I thought that this list would discourage women from using these methods, rather than encouraging them. They basically encourage permanently maiming the male in horrible ways. I suggest a self-defense course instead that focuses on developing habits of how to react under the circumstances. My wife and older daughter have both done this, and found it provides more confidence.

If you are like me, you will find it chilling to read the cases of successful, handsome men who could attract all the female sexual interest they could handle . . . who raped women anyway. Rape is usually about power rather than sex.

The really scary statistics in this book relate to the fact that only 5 percent of acquaintance rapes are being reported. Apparently, men who rape and get away with it will rape again, and again, and again. The book reports that one woman in three will have this horrible experience at least once, a waking nightmare made worse by the fact that she knows the rapist.

If we had a disease this serious, we would be spending billions to stop it. It's time that we get serious about preventing rape! Yet recovering from rape is much worse than recovering from most surgeries.

I suggest that you take this opportunity to think of other ways that acquaintances can create problems. Some people prey financially on those they know. Others steal. Still others poison relationships on purpose to their own advantage. Think about it . . . and act from an appropriate wariness.

Enjoy life, by pursuing caution!

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars the date rape prevention book: the essential guide for girls, April 11, 2000

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This review is from: The Date Rape Prevention Book (Paperback)

Scott Lindquist has written an extremely practical, easy-to-read book packed with good advice. As a professional, he has many statistics and case histories to back up his advice. Working with college women, I see every day the huge need and vulnerability that this book addresses. I have already passed the advice on to some students. I highly recommend this book.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Worth a read, August 26, 2002

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This review is from: The Date Rape Prevention Book (Paperback)

Educating young men and women about date rape is an essential part of a civilized society. Teaching young girls about rape, and how to reduce their chances based on observance, facts, and self-defense is crucial. Therefore, buying this book for teenage girls is a good idea.

This is not to say the author is blaming the victim... but rather that a person is able to empower themselves to learn more about this epidemic crime that is hardly ever reported or prosecuted, and learn how to assess a situation where normally she would suppress her radar in order to appear agreeable.

The idea of knowing more about this crime as he outlines in this book, and arming yourself with basic self-defense techniques (both verbal and physical) could especially be helpful in a date-rape situation where the case is normally that the victim knows the attacker.