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Dating Asians

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This book was very short and is mostly a book of lists. For instance, there are chapters titled "Some of the fine Asian traits", "Things Asians are good at", and "30 ways to impress Asians". The author then provides the list with a very short and sometimes no explanation of each point. Then the chapter is over. Obviously from the title, I expected the book to be somewhat racist since it generalizes about all Asians. That being said, I found much of the advice to be almost common sense or not particular about Asians at all. For example, some ways to impress Asians are "Having a good sense of humor, being highly educated and knowledgeable, being rich and famous, successful, being clean and neat, being tall, being a good lover," etc. I'm not a woman, but I would think these traits are not particular to attracting Asian women but all women. There is another chapter titled "Where to meet Asians". Some of the places are "Asian supermarkets, Asian restaurants, Asian grocery stores, bookstores, department stores, libraries, museums", etc. In other words, you can meet Asians any place that is Asian or any place there are people. Hmmmm (sarcasticly). I wonder if there are any Asians in China? The only reason I did not give this 1 star is because I found the chapter about cultural things, which was in total 5 pages, mildly informative. I found the author put very little effort into writing this book and wouldn't be surprised if it were written in a weekend.

I find it appalling in the 20th century there are book still writting about racial generalization. Shame on Tania Wang for belittling her own culture. I tried to give it no stars as one is far too generous.

Quote from the product description: "Each Asian group will have their own cultural traits and perspective on life. However, after reading this book, you will find that most Asians can actually be quite predictable." This is offensive and promotes racial stereotyping.

I'm Asian and would not be interested in anyone with this book on their bookshelf. If there are cultural differences, I'd recommend trying the same techniques you would use with someone from a non-Asian culture. Have an open mind to different perspectives and assumptions.

Only a stupid Asian woman would write something stupid like this. Thank you for making all Asian women sexual fantasies for all the losers out there. Dumb Head!

I have this book and I like it. As one reviewer had mentioned, some of the advice is universal, but there is also some cultural differences that I did not know. For instance. the significance of the number 4. It's bad luck to use it, and some buildings don't have a 4 or 14th floor button similar to the 13th floor in the west. Apparently the number 4 in some languages sounds similar to death. On the other hand my girlfriend has threatened to kill me a number of times without ever giving me the dreaded "4".

It is touching to know that Asian immigrants want to assimilate in America and be treated equally as Americans as stated in Chapter 10. This is great, because we cannot have too many good Americans.

--And sure, there's some stuff that's not so politically correct, but it's tongue in cheek and nothing to take seriously. I appreciate Ms. Wang's sense of humour, while at the same time stating that Asians suck at humour!

There's more fun throughout, though it's true this volume may be a bit brief. So I hope to see more books by this author.

It only takes an hour or so to read this 105-page book. I read the entire thing while riding an exercise at the gym this afternoon. One of my sons has a Chinese American girl friend so this book subject naturally caught my attention.
The book is full of helpful advice for anyone interested in dating Asians--although with most Asians two dates is a serious relationship. Most Asians also won't put up with a person who is also dating another Asian. They forgive the unfaithful prospect for a date with another non-Asian, but one date with another Asian is the kiss of death for their relationship.
The author defines the six basic types of Asians Americans are likely to come in contact with. They range from Type 1 who would never leave their homeland to Type 6 who are "mixed" Asians that are of mixed race and are the most likely that Americans will meet and will be comfortable with.
The author also defines the eight most likely types of Americans who will date and marry Asians.
The book is in many ways lists of facts about Asians. When an American marries an Asian he or she is also marrying the Asian's family. Asian families are much closer and important than the relationships that many Americans have with their relatives. Wang conveniently lists typical traits shared by many different nationalities that Westerners group together as "Asians." She also lists common "likes" and "dislikes" shared by most Asians and their all-powerful families.
In some ways her chapters are almost like outlines for the material covered. "Some of the Fine Asian Traits: Things Asians Are Good At: Things Asians Suck At: Ways to Impress Asians: Taboos: Where To Meet Asians: Some Cultural Things to Get Used To: What Asians Desire: How Asians Think Vs. What Americans Think Of Relationships: Do Your Homework: Stereotypes" are the main chapter headings. Each chapter has lots of sub-chapters. That outline design makes it easy to quickly find desired items within the book.
Over all much of the information seems common sense and is something that everyone in the world would share. However, there are lots of things that most Asians don't share with Americans. They hate loafers and stupidity for example. No matter what country they come from they are hard workers, disciplined, worship higher education as the means to advance, and are very family oriented. Since they work so hard, they expect their prospective husbands or wives to also be equally hard working and interested in the same long-term goals. They also expect their prospective mates to be willing to integrate into their extended families. In many cases, they may want to return to their home countries because they miss their own families. Most Asians believe in the "American Dream" that hard work and sacrifice will result in success.
They have found it to be an obtainable fact of life.
Mixed in with this basic summary of Asian Culture are helpful little hints about how to impress your Asian friends. They are not all just common sense and some are very obvious like practicing good manners. She also gives tips about where to meet Asians. For instance, a single American parent with children would be likely to find an unescorted Asian in the same situation visiting a zoo. It's one of the places that is both fun for children and adults and is at the same time highly educational. She gives many locations were they are likely to find lonely Asians by themselves such as reading in the library or spending the day reading at a comfortable coffee shop. Notice how important reading and learning is in every situation.
The term Asian is actually a westerner's term and what we call Asians represent a vast number of different nations and different cultures. They are not all exactly alike and in many cases they resent being lumped together or mistaken for a citizen of the wrong nation. There are also major cultural and language differences. For instance there is no Asian word for `Romantic."
This is a quick, useful overview of cultural difference between Asians and Americans. Anyone interesting in dating Asians will find it helpful even if it is only an introduction to the subject.

Had I read this book twenty years ago, I might have stayed with my

Japanese fiance...I'm a caucasisn male. We just could not overcome our cultural differences.

Dating Asians is full of good advice and it looks at stereotypes in a humorous light. Miss Wang examines questions that most people want answers to but are afraid to ask; and she does it in a very entertaining fashion.

It might make some politically correct types nervous; but that's too bad.

There really are differences and we need to examine them. If you are

seeking a cross-cultural experience; you need this book!

Being asian myself I am highly insulted by this book! To think there is some mystical book that tells people how they date asians is totaly foolish. Guys, asians are girls just like any other girls and they like the same things. Instead of throwing away your money on this cowpie of a book, buy the girl some flowers. They will go a lot further at winning her heart than anything you will learn from this book.

...are a traditional Chinese symbol of marital fidelity, companionship and true love, so the cover is meaningful. Get the book, study and learn. (From Old Asia Hand, in and out of Asia for over 40 years with many wonderful relationships to show for it).

What do ducks have to do with dating Asians? Are you saying Asians are like ducks or Asians eat ducks? Also, who uses the word Occidental anymore?