The Dating Cure: The Prescription For Ms. Picky, Ms. Eternal Bachelorette, Ms. All About Me, Ms. Can't Let Go, And Ms. Matrimony [Paperback]

rhonda Finding (Author), Rhonda Findling (Author), Eternab Bachelortette (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 1, 2005

The Dating Cure is a book for any woman who is on the dating scene but isn't getting the long-term relationship she wants. Findling helps women identify themselves in one of the eight major dating personalities and helps them change their dating style - and change their lives. Ms. Picky - her list of dating criteria is a mile long. Ms. All About Me - her most common line on a first date: "Enough about you - tell me what you think of me." Ms. Eternal Bachelorette - she loves her single lifestyle. Part of her wants a relationship, but her fear of boredom keeps her away from long-term involvement. Ms. In Control - on the outside, she's got it all together. However, her need to control the people and events around her often keeps her from forming lasting romantic relationships. Featuring all the trademarks of a Polka Dot Press book, The Dating Cure provides a solid program that helps readers achieve their dating and relationship goals.

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About the Author

Rhonda Findling, M.A., C.R.C., is the author of The Commitment Cure. She holds a master's degree in clinical psychology, is a certified rehabilitation counsellor, and has a her own private practice. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan magazine.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Polka Dot Press (June 1, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1593372612
• ISBN-13: 978-1593372613
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,210,731 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars 1/2 Dating Advice, 1/2 Self-Help, September 5, 2005

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AmusingMadWoman (CA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Dating Cure: The Prescription For Ms. Picky, Ms. Eternal Bachelorette, Ms. All About Me, Ms. Can't Let Go, And Ms. Matrimony (Paperback)

I was skeptical before I read this book based on the different female personality types that are the focus of the book. I thought, "Oh, no WAY will I match any of these types to a 'T', so why bother?" Imagine my surprise when I found that I possessed a few characteristics of *several* personality types, which grabbed my interest. Once I identified my self-defeating behaviors that lead to dating angst, I was given a list of suggestions on how to redirect energy into something positive versus detrimental. For example, the author suggests that instead of obsessing over when the phone will ring next, women should distract themselves by indulging in positive, nurturing activities and behaviors (she gives specifics in the book for each). It is really sobering to see yourself reflected in these chapters, but everything is always offered as a chance to change for YOUR OWN GOOD with hints on how to do it.

Once the personality types are discussed and addressed, the author gives some very clear, specific dating advice. The nitty gritty stuff includes who should pay for the first date, the pros and cons of online dating, (definately not my thing, but to each his/her own) and so on.

Mixed in with the chapters are comments from "real" men who discuss their personal experiences with the various personality types, and offer feedback on how they view wait time to place a first phone call, how they deal with clingy women, the benefits of dating a woman who earns more money, etc.

Overall, I found this book to be very helpful. It does mix in a great deal of self-help for the various issues that women face that create problems when attempting to find happiness in a relationship. Not as helpful but interesting were the "dos and don'ts" of dating which seemed a bit repetitive from earlier chapters. However, the layout of the book was unique and the added element of the male perspective made it a very quick, useful read.

12 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars More light on the problem, July 31, 2005

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Alan Levin (Charlotte, N.C.) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Dating Cure: The Prescription For Ms. Picky, Ms. Eternal Bachelorette, Ms. All About Me, Ms. Can't Let Go, And Ms. Matrimony (Paperback)

I'm one of the men in the Roundtable of Men in the book who gave feedback on dating and relationships.

Now for the book:

First, any woman having difficulty meeting and dating needs to ask herself some questions: Is there something about me or my approach that turns men off? Am I sending out rejecting messages at the same time as I am trying to charm?

Rhonda's book provides a helpful tool for getting the answer to these questions. A woman who can recognize herself in any of these seven relationship-destroying types has taken a big first step in getting out of the trap she is in. Of course, as in any typology, none of these seven may fit you perfectly, but you may recognize in one or another of these seven types, something familiar, something that seems like you or the way you operate with men. If you do, that's something to work on. If you see Ms. All About Me, you should try more listening and empathy. If you spot Ms. Matrimony, then it's time to be more discreet about your grand ambition. And so on for each of the seven types. The book gives many specific action suggestions for each type. The key is recognizing yourself in any of these types.

Now, it does take a willingness to look at oneself to use the tool effectively. Not every woman is willing to do that. It's so much easier and more comforting to blame one's loneliness on the lack of eligible men or complain that men are shallow and interested only in instant sex.

Second, The Roundtable of Men is a great bonus, I think. Here is a chance to listen to men talk about what they really want from women--and it's not just sex.

5 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Mutual understanding with this book, June 23, 2005

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Kathy (New York) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Dating Cure: The Prescription For Ms. Picky, Ms. Eternal Bachelorette, Ms. All About Me, Ms. Can't Let Go, And Ms. Matrimony (Paperback)

I believe this book had a great deal of truth to it. She's not one sided in blaming men for every crushing relationship they've had, but shows how women can own their parts in causing men to distance from them or not want to have a permanent relationship with them. This book is a perfect guide to successful relationships.

What kept my interest was how she had a group of men which she called "The Round Table Of Men" that gave their honest opinions on what a lot of women ponder about.