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Deal Breakers: When to Work On a Relationship and When to Walk Away Paperback – May 6, 2008
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Dr. Marshall looks at 5 deal breaker categories, and articulates in plain English the problems and trouble signs. She also presents personal stories (you'll be able to relate) and deal breaker scenarios that she breaks down into "work on it" or "walk away." If your relationship shows up in these pages, you've got yourself a deal breaker. I find great comfort and relief in recognizing my situation on the page--if it's common enough to be included in a mass market publication, then there are a lot of folks out there in the same situation as me! Misery loves company? No; I'm just relieved to know I'm neither crazy nor alone in this. She also gives first impressions, warning signs, more warning signs, even more warning... you get the picture. For self-reflection, she includes the section "Who chooses this type of man?" There's also a chapter called "Getting off the merry-go-round" and 11 signs that you're on one. The book rounds out with tips on negotiating a new deal and breaking the deal when you have to.
This book helped me and I'm glad I read it right at the end of the relationship, because I was able to quickly recall the ex's hurtful behavior. After awhile, this won't hurt anymore, but if I forget what I went through, I'll do it again with a different man. That's why I say read while the pain is fresh, highlight and underline heavily, and make or break the deal.
The author includes an analysis of "What kind of woman would pick this type of man". I'm guilty-because her description and analysis of me certainly applied.
Dr. Marshall writes about five personality types that cause 80% of the problems: The Scriptwriter (he casts you into a role and forms assumptions about you), The Man in Charge (he wants to control you), The Man Without Fault (he gets his feelings hurt and goes on the attack whenever you try to express your feelings), The Invisible Man (he's more connected to his computer, sports games, etc., than to you) and The Little Boy Who Poses as a Man (like a little boy - he does all the taking while you do all the giving).
I will be having a blast passing this book around to my friends while we figure out what categories our men fall into. One of my friends heard the author on Gayle King's (Oprah's friend) radio show in a longer and informative interview and bought the book for the same reason.
I strongly recommend that you read the book and discover what your man's personality type is. This book has given me a road map for change.Read more ›
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Ignorant defeatist victimized feminist vain propaganda...part of the downfall of societyPublished 8 days ago by Arvin
This book felt like a man hating book. I wanted resolution not fuel for my fire.Published 1 month ago by VK
I've only flipped through the book so far, so this review is on its condition, and the marked up shipping charges. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Annie48
Remember Liz Lemon's career arc where she does a Deal Breakers book and talk show with her signature TGS catchphrase? Read morePublished 4 months ago by KathryninChicago
One of the best book's I've ever read, after reading I dumped my boyfriend at the time. Never looked back. :)Published 5 months ago by RVict73
Four rather than 5 stars because book does not develop how the ego plays into the picture enough, nor how spirituality plays into the equation. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Sigma7