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Dealing with Bullies (Barron's Parenting Keys)

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My daughter is currently having problems with a bully in her class. I bought this book hoping it would give me some guidance on how to handle the situation e.g. call the bullies parents, talk to the school counselor, or let my daughter develop her own style of defense and just help by coaching her.

The book gave me nothing to work with in dealing with bullies. The book's focus is Macro (The big picture) how to start school programs, how bulling hurts society, etc. What I wanted (and thought I was getting) was some basic techniques that are used to help victims e.g. quick verbal come-backs, does using humor work better, whether the bullies parents should be involved (what studies have shown), does mediation help?; What is the most diplomatic way to handle the situation so that both children can still feel comfortable in class together? Should peers be called in to help defuse the situation? None of these questions were answered satisfactorily.

This book may have uses for those seeking social change, but for a parent who is looking for the best way to help their individual child that can end the problem quickly, as in a few days--not weeks or months of documentation and advocating for services, this book is a disappointment.

I found the book to be a clear and practicle guide to understanding bullies. As a professional in the field I've already shared it with parents who were looking for help in this area. Of particular importance is the authors' focus on the links between home-school and parent-child behaviors. The book's easy to read format addresses issues of idetntifying signs of bullying, victimization and most importantly, what can be done by parents and school administrators. I highly recommend this book.

I found this book to be very helpful.It addresses all aspects of bullying.As a parent of a victim ,I came away with specific strategies I can use.Plus it gave me ways I can work with my school.I now know what I can do as a parent and how I can get my school involved,It was great!

I was surprised and disappointed in the review from Ms.Springer.
It is one thing to dislike someone's work ,it is another to feel the need to be mean spirited about it.One thing is clear when it comes to bullying-we all need to be kinder and caring toward one another.Unfortunately the reviewer didn't gleam that from the book.